European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 05, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 22 the stars and stripes Herit Tan tuesday september 5,1995 i la have to a Ray your  again. This one is  of Asbestos m0 adpitne5 in the poop column on Burette s syndrome helped anxious Parent dear Ann Landers when our son was 5, he started to blink his eyes a lot. I mentioned this to his paediatrician who said just ignore  a year later Joey began to shrug his shoulders and fidget a great Deal. Just nervous tics the doctor assured me. Hell  " these symptoms and others would come and go. I Al most went crazy trying to protect Joey from anything that might produce stress. I took the boy to three More paediatricians and avas told i should not be concerned because there was nothing to worry about after doing some research on my own i insisted that our paediatrician Reier Joey to a podiatric neurologist. Sure enough the diagnosis was Tourette s syndrome. Joey was put on medication and has dramatically improved. Ann i m writing to you because half the people i be met whose children have Tourette s syndrome told me they first became aware of this illness when they read about it in your column. You had correctly diagnosed Tourette s syndrome from the description of someone s behaviour. You then listed what types of things to Loo for. Please Tell parents again that if their child develops tics or engages in repetitive blinking shoulder shrug Ging grimacing tensing Muscles Throat Clearing belch ing sniffing or humming they should Contact the Tou Rettic s syndrome association for information. Send a Large self addressed stamped 75 cents envelope to the Tourette s syndrome association 42-40 Bell blvd., Bay Side . 11361, or Call 1-800 237-0717, thank you. Longtime Reader . That original column diagnosis was made several years ago and i am still  it. The symptoms were so obvious to me that i Felt Safe in Labelling the problem. The credit should go to the Many Fine physicians _ i turned my head for no More than two seconds and the next thing i knew her Bonnet was missing. I was outraged when i realized that iad happened. We Are thankful Pur Little girl was not Hurt but what is this world coming to when a child s Bonnet can be snatched off her head in Broad Daylight disgusted Mother in Brooklyn dear disgusted Mother the world is where it s been coming to for quite a Long time and i am speechless. Dear Ann Landers on the subject of frivolous lawsuits this one takes the cake. My husband and i heard it on the 6 o clock news a few Days ago v 1 " _. A Man from Michigan is suing the state for $4 Mil lion. He said he had the winning lottery ticket but it flew out the car window. Can you believe an attorney anywhere would take the Case never mind i la bet there Are half a dozen bidding for it. Port Clinton Ohio letters to this column should be addressed to Ann Landor co Tho stars and stripes unit 29-180, Apo 09211. C creators Syndicate this son s mothers Day gift precious for two rooms dear Abby this past Mother s Day my 21-year-old son Kurt came Home at 10 30 in the evening and apologized for not having spent the Clay with me. Yet he gave me an infinitely precious gift. Several months earlier one of his closest buddies committed suicide. Ii was a tragic and confusing loss to All who knew him. Since this would have been the Young mail s Mother s first Mother s Day alone s onic of those who had been closest to. Her son arranged to spend the Day at her Home doing Yard work helping her sort through his things and just being there for her. It made me Realie that-1 have my thoughtful son every Day and in no Way could i be Hurt or upset be cause he had chosen to reach out in love and compas Sion to someone Avo desperately needed it. Two mothers were blessed with one priceless gift. Perhaps others who know a Parent who has lost a child will offer the same gift on future Mother s or father s Days. Sharon. K. Vigliaturo Cloquet Minn. Dear Sharon thank you for sharing that Beautiful Story with my readers. Your son and his friends Are to be credited for their sensitivity and creativity. I know there Are Many who will read this and adopt your son s generous idea next Mother s or father s Day. Too often people avoid the bereaved because they Don t know what to say to someone who is grieving. Read on for a letter that Illus trates the problem dear Abby this is a rather Small town and yesterday i ran into an. Acquaintance on the main Street this Man s son had committed suicide a couple of weeks ago. The son was a Young adult who had moved away from Here about a year  he gave his parents a lot of grief but that s beside the Point. How should a person handle a situation like this Tongue tied in Nebraska dear Tongue tied say i m sorry about your  it is not necessary to have a dialogue. The acquaintance will probably appreciate not having to answer any questions. Dear Abby help what is a Mother to do when her 17-year�old dear Abby daughter thinks it s of to come Home at 4 . From a Date her father is no help at air. He wants to be her buddy and has never insisted that she adhere to her 12 30 . Curfew. V i have spoken to my pastor and other mothers and they All agree with me. But dad does to Are there other mothers out there with my problem. Sleepless and hopeless -. " in Conn dear sleepless and hopeless you have a bigger problem with your husband than you do with your daughter. As Long As he chooses to Side with your daughter curfew enforcement will be impossible. His failure to Back you up in enforcing the rules of the House May be symptomatic of other problems i your marriage. If he continues to undermine you instead of present ing a United front there s Little you can do to regain control of your daughter. Some marriage counsel inc sessions May be in order. Loners Lor this column should to addressed to dear Abby co thu stirs and so pcs unit 20.1uo.apo 09211. Y c Universal Pioss Syndicate Gall the Usa Only per my 06221-12140/12178 from Germany Zurich Lloyd