European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 13, 1995, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 22 the stars and stripes wednesday september 13, 1995 Herman ii i did t have a Button so i Cut the Hole  93 it tic it iter Mother , am s  kids an be a win that c j5se. Tote of wac. I to Newto j?n/srcksa7hpqwisconsin City fakes the bad turns if info the Good dear Ann Landers i have been pleased to Sec you occasionally include in your column letters about random acts of kindness. I have one that i Hope you will enjoy and share with your readers. Perhaps it will serve As an inspiration to others. A a \ a a a a last year Wausau wis was the subject of a negative Story on 60minutes. To combat this negative image our newspaper the Wausau daily Herald talked area businesses into co sponsoring a a a random acts of kindness week this past March. Businesses organizations and individuals were encouraged to perform simple acts of random kindness of people they knew or did no to know. The response was astronomical. More than 200 businesses and Organiza Lions participated. The employees of the newspaper went out in groups wearing a random acts of kindness to shirts and performed Good deeds. A a a a Banks washed car windows in the drive up lanes. Church groups mowed lawns for people in the neighbourhood. Movie Heaters gave out free passes to people waiting in line. One individual walked into a restaurant and bought a cup of Coffee for every person in the place. The newspaper ran a  line for people to phone in f Ann Landers the acts of kindness they had witnessed. More than 500 Calls were received the response was so tremendous that the daily Herald has decided to do this again next year. This is an excellent example of How one organization in town turned some negative reporting around instead of just griping about it. Thought you a like to know. A a. A Tim in Wausau dear Tim four cheers for the Wausau daily Herald it has Long been one of my favorite papers. Way to go dear Ann Landers i have had it up to Here with some of your 1.955 ideas of what is right and what is wrong. Your a Hula hoops advice is so dated you make me laugh Why done to you hang it up i am referring mainly to your stand on thank you notes. I am a 16-year-old High school student who has two sets of grandparents three actually a my mom remarried have received tons of birthday gifts and Christmas gifts and i have never written one thank you note in my entire life and i done to plan to. I believe that people who give presents give them because they want to a not so they will get thanked. I telephoned two of my Best girlfriends and told them i was going to write to you about this. They said a Good a both of them hate the Way their mothers Force them to write thank you notes i say if someone has to Force you to do something it is not from the heart and has no value. A honest teen in Manhasset . Dear . In Manhasset writing to express appreciation for a gift is nothing More than Good manners and Good manners arc not Hula hoops. They never go out of style. Have you Ever sent a gift received no acknowledgement and wondered if it was received if you Haven to it is bound to happen somewhere Down the line and then you will know what this ancient relic is talking about. Meanwhile i Hope you wont mind if i thank you for writing. A a. A a Gem of the Day if you think fishermen and golfers Are the worlds biggest liars ask a Jogger How Many Miles he or she ran today. A a t0,his column should be addressed to Ann land Sra. Co the stars and stripes unit 29-1 to Apo 09211. A a. C creators Syndicate a. A getting some straight answers about Cross dressers dear Abby about four years ago you printed a letter from a woman who said her husband wore women a clothing. She asked if there were other men like that and you published the address of a group of Cross dressers in California. After Reading that letter i wrote to the address you provided As i too and a Cross Dresser. The California group put me in touch with a Iowa artistry Quot a support group located in the Midwest. Gur local group has about 60 members a top notch set of officers and Board members a and we Are now organizing a support group for spouses and others associated with members. Belonging to this support group has helped me a great Deal. My wife is very supportive. In fact she is a member of the Board of directors \ because i received so much help when you published the original California address i thought you might be interested in letting your readers know about Iowa artistry. The address is . Box 75, Cedar rapids Iowa 52406-0075. There Are support groups in All major cities that provide information to Cross dressers or refer them to local groups. All inquiries Are Welcome. Content in the Midwest dear Content in a sure there Are Many people who will Benefit from the information that your organization can provide. Contrary to popular belief not All transvestites Cross dressers Are Gay or bisexual. Many Are biological males who have an emotional need to dress As women occasionally. There Are Cross dressers who Are husbands and fathers and in some instances their wives Are not Only aware of their need to Cross dress they Are very supportive and shop for them. Readers please include a business sized stamped self addressed envelope with requests for information. Dear Abby i feel that being in someone a wedding is an Honor. Unfortunately the Cost is staggering a Tuxedo rental costs Between $80 and $100, bridesmaids gowns average $180 to $220, and Flower girls dresses average Between $75 and $100, if a married couple Are both in the bridal party they dear Abby will spend Between $260 and $320 for their clothing for just one Day 1 there Are also other events that go with being in the wedding party. A Shower gift costs around $20, and a ticket to the Stag party costs around $20. This brings the Cost up to $300 to $360. A a now my question is it written in any etiquette books that people in the wedding party need not buy a wedding gift after All How much should a Friend or rela live s wedding have to Cost please answer soon dear not arean cheap but reasonable although being a member of the wedding party can be costly traditionally a wedding gift even a modest it  order if one accepts the Honor of being in the wedding. Dear Abby this is in response to your comment about men not making passes at girls who Wear glasses. Its been my observation that men always make passes at girls who Drain glasses. A Ken Kaiser san Diego letters Lor this column should be addressed to dear a Hhd a to. Of and stripes unit 29460, Apo 09211. By co the stars c Universal press Syndicate. A get More than just the scores. Read Beyo til pm stripes every saturday