European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - March 16, 2007, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 20 o stars and stripes Friday March 16 2007 widow tries to move Forward dear Abby the oneyear anniversary of my husbands death is approaching it has been a Long and difficult year but my children and i Are mending with the anniversary Date coming up next month we have All been feeling depressed my problem is i have recently started seeing a gentleman who is kind Loving generous and understanding to both me and my Chil Dren although i dont know where this relationship is heading i do think he is special our conversations sometimes include my husband he also Speaks of his a wife i do not want to make Donald feel like second fiddle to my deceased husband How can i reassure him that although i am Hurt ing Over the loss of someone i loved for 20 years especially on anniversaries of certain dear Abby events that my relationship with him is important to me still grieving Melbourne Fla dear still grieving the surest Way to reassure Donald would be to address the subject ask him does it bother you when i mention my deceased husband you May be pleasantly surprised to find that he understands completely but if he Doest then you should Tell him exactly what you have told me i have always believed in the Power of communication dear Abby pm having a hard time making my friends understand that i would prefer not to go out for food or drinks to celebrate my birthday i know their hearts Are in the right place and have told them so but they dont seem to get the message and Are Hurt by my not wanting to go out i have Many friends and family and All of them want to do something different i would prefer to let the Day pass someone went so far As to Tell me that it is attention seeking to not let people celebrate my Day can you help me find the words to Tell them in not interested without hurting their feelings birthday girl in Wilmington Del dear birthday girl try this explain that not everyone views birthdays in the same Light some people find birthdays to be depressing and pretending that they dont so others can celebrate makes them even More depressed this is not an attention getting device it is simply a prefer ence for marking the Occa Sion with quiet contemplation instead of forced gaiety letters for this column with your name and phone number should be addressed to dear Abby to Box 69440 los Angeles Ca 90069 readers can write to Abby on the internet at Universal press Syndicate alright Guys if Iki Gonna irme of ones running i Nee to be sure upper stand Ratson Ian a lefts reap the of wooing j that was incorrect on up Cattafe 0 0 this is another Fine mess youve gotten us into r tier you Reivik one who went i All googly eyed Over or into his management scheme to 6uildolrown brought Down the Wrath of the homeowners association grim enforcer wow that was an awful lot of that scrambled word game by Henri Arnold and Mike Argirion unscramble these four jumbles one letter to each Square to form four Ordinary words s s Tribune Media services inc All rights reserved s s  youll need this study for the meeting rep f the 5tate5man was 0iven thi5 when he arrive for the 5ummit now arrange the circled letters to form the Surprise answer As suggested by the above cartoon print answer Here a yesterdays answers tomorrow jumbles croup bless chisel Squall answer worn by the rowing team for the big race scull1 Caps Speed bump Biem Twe Tife to Blae 1 0 so co Mick is comb Over