European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 04, 1980, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 18 the Tarsan stripes the group mentality called a selfish one americans Are leaving the me decade be Hind and entering the group decade. In other words we re going from me myself and i to we ourselves and if you think we re Mak ing Progress then you Haven t Given much thought to group psychology. There is generally very Little danger that people will do goo things for Good reasons unless they arc caught off guard. People Are not getting More selflessly joining this or that. In fact we have just traded one unhealthy absorption for another we have gone from thinking we could get what we want All by ourselves to thinking that the group will get us what we want. The group mentality is still a selfish mentality but its potentially More dangerous. There is strengthen numbers. One unsavoury character is better than 5.000 organized unsavoury characters with slogans and dues and agendas and uni Normand ideologies and name it american can find three or More people to join it. You can sign up for the nazi party the communist party the demo cratic party the Republican party or the country club. You can be a fundamental Chris Tian a regular Christian or a real can be a fral Man a weight watcher a militant Gay a Nice Gay a feminist an anti feminist or a in ionic. You can join a civic club an exercise club a Bridge club a key club or the pal club. Some of these clubs Are harmless some Are not. Knowing How to Tel the difference is what separates the confident loner from the docile groupies. You have be careful about groups. When think of Hitler or the democratic convention or a fraternity initiation or a Pep rally or religious March or a feminist convention i think of groups big groups rows upon rows of faceless obedient people screaming and holler ing and chanting waving their fists in tribute to or rejection of a Mere woman a Mere Man amere political platform or a Mere ideology. The truth is hard to find when frenzy takeover and the crowd starts to act like one huge roaring monster instead of a rational collection of very different people. Group hysteria is the dangerous stuff of which Rock concerts and papal throngs arc made. In a Long Long Way from a Friendly handshake or a gurgling baby or a Blue Twilight or a moment of affection to gathering in red Square or military Parade. If you must join a group always join wit the firm intention of remaining an individual in full control of your critical faculties. Hell is homogeneity la is variety that signals life. You must pay attention. Notice whether the Good reasons for starting the group have gotten Lostin the lust for numbers and Power. Consider whether perfectly sane people Are being swept and purpose of a group. All of them require these of a brain. Roughly speaking the bigger the group is getting to be. The worse it is up Toad including charities formed or so called Good causes. It s easy to forget Why the group began and what it was supposed w Only very Large group 1 wish to Call myself Caus of the group. Think of Jim Jones dead disciples in Guyana. Remember the Slaughter of jews in Germany. Note the arrogance of thousands of christians who wish to impose a Memoir u. Is Pic Iii Idun t watch out for other sinister signs. Does me croup exist primarily to Divide us according to race Creed color or social status docs the group exist to kill malign harass or torture somebody does the Gourd depend heavily on the Charisma and whim of a single individual docs the group appear on television or in the papers every Chance it gets does the group stay in the Low budget Range or has it turned into a Multi million Dollar operation this is question especially pertinent of religious organizations which Are brainwashing the world rather than feeding and Loving it. If a group began poor then got Rich then the gleam is probably off the philosophy. And finally do the members spend a lot of Lime shouting abstract words like brotherhood truth Unity patriotism or salvation if they do drop but the Best approach if possible is the avoid All groups except the informal spontaneous Friendly kind of the familial affection ate procreation Al kind. And if you see the world As your Home and All the people in it As this Mouth s he a Pitt Getty project is. Pc ice yes Vou Hame a que Chi non. Car what1 the Mattes. S has the 6fbbade commands seen Cher Vou out it kadi6h mexican philharmonic on 8-country Europe tour Paris Dpi the mexican philharmonic orchestra is to play in Paris and Lyon this month As part of a european tour it has been announced. The orchestra which was formed two years ago by the wife of president Jose Lopez Portillo will perform 17 times in eight countries on the tour which finishes in Lyon june 30. 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When i read it i thought this is something for Ann Landers i put it away for 48 hours and took h ont again this morning and decided to Send it you will be the judge As the whether or not it s Good enough to p Bem Yuest dear guest the decision was Here it is lets get rid of the girl would t 1980 be a great year to take one giant step for Ward for womankind and get re of the girl your attorney says if a not Here just leave it with the purchasing agent says drop off your bid with the girl the office manager says my girl will get Back to your girl what a do they mean miss Rose is. Johnson or Pamela Patter son the girl is certainly a woman when she b out in the business worm holding Down a Job paying social Security and income tax Sand of ten married. Like Yon Abe has n name pleas be m a person. Pm also a female. But i m not the dear Ann Landers John not his real name and i be been mar ried 16 years. We have two teen age sons. John has a habit that has continued throughout our marriage and it drives me crazy. It May happen once a week once every other week there s no never Calls to let me know he won t be Home for supper a usual. He May work late or de cide to go out with the he does t get Home until 9 . Or it could be mid night or 1 . I fix supper and Tell the acids dad will be Home any sometimes we wait an hour or More before i cat Hon that this is another one of those i ask him Why he did t phone he says i or that s the Way i we have fought about this i have ignored it laughed about it and cried about it. No Way can i get through to m not trying to put a noose around the Man s neck but i re sent the fact that he does t con Sider my feelings. My father waste same Way and so was his. You d think he would remember but apparently it made no impression. Please Tell me How to Deal with this 37-year-old spoiled in Durham dear bedevilled there is no dealing with him. He has been in control of the deck for 16 years the cards Are stacked against you and the joker b the fact that he won t change and Don t waste any More time Walling for him or agonizing about his Lack of he does t show up within 20 minutes of the snal time godhead and eat. Then can a Friend or relative and go Britt a see auntie or do something that gets you out of the Bouse. End of aggravation. C to fwd end Briw. Toe
