European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - June 13, 1980, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the Tarsan stripes Friday. June 13, 1980 told she d die she found time to live Chicago a Lory Graham lost both breasts to cancer then Learned it had spread to her Pine and thighbone. Told she would die. She fought Back and started a newspaper column called a time to  for almost three years Graham has reached out to fellow cancer patients crusading to de bunk myths about the disease and create com passion and respect for its victims. The real ignorance is the notion it s contagious said the 48-year-old columnist. An example she gave was a letter from a Mother afraid to touch her cancer stricken daughter. That sort of thing just Breaks my heart said Graham. Only cancer has so Many fanta sies of  those misconceptions about cancer along with the Job and economic discrimination can cer patients face Are some of he problems Graham Hopes to erase through a time to live syndicated by Universal press to 40 papers in the United slates and Canada. Readers letters often provide a launching Point for a column. About 350 to 400 people write to Graham each week Many detailing intimate problems. The letters May Tell of one Man s sexual problems due to cancer surgery a 12-year-old s worries about a colostomy bag or a Mother asking Graham to share her courage with a son who fears intravenous treatment and rejects chemotherapy. In her response to the boy who had lost his leg Graham told him she recognized the Sacri fice he d already made. I can also Tell you she wrote that my body image has been As violated As yours and that my anger at times has been As great As  she told him not to give up. Sharing courage and breaking Down emotional isolation is what the column is about Graham said. We re friends she said of her readers. We understand each  All letters Are answered and Graham who has taken courses and done extensive research on cancer Calls upon 100 doctors to answer medical questions. In the column Graham insists that cancer patients be treated by specialists and that they get straightforward diagnoses from their Doc tors. Every cancer patient has a right to know his diagnosis she said. Look at the consequences of being dishonest with someone who has the disease. You Rob a human being of making a decision about the rest of his life. You destroy his autonomy As a human being. 1 can t think of anything worse than  most importantly Graham said if you Don t know your diagnosis you won t know you have to fight for your life. You can extend some of life by fighting for it. Most women who would have had this much cancer As she has would be dead by now. I m not dying she said with determination and i m nowhere near  Graham has been waging her own Battle since 197s, when she discovered she had breast cancer. At the time she said she was terrified because All i was told was you have to have a Mastectomy for several months after that operation Graham said she Felt Defeated you feel Muti lated. Part of yourself is missing. Any amputee feels that  seven months later Graham had a second Mastectomy. In 1977, she found the cancer had spread to her spine and right femur. That s when i realized How Likely i was to die before the year was  her doctors could t Tell Graham How Long she might live nobody can Tell you. That s i m Ttorp. Let 4 Ham a brigade command and staff it. Kadi a by Mike the hardest thing about it because you can t plan your life she said and she has sur  former entertainment writer for the Chi Cago Sun times she decided to spend what time she had writing her column in which she s related some of her experiences about her Mastectomy How she s coped with cancer and her thoughts about  time it recurs you realize life is very fragile Graham said. It s a disease of no known cause and no known cure. Who wants life interrupted in Midstream much less turned upside Down Graham s life is indeed turned upside Down but she insists on keeping a routine working each Day no matter How ill she feels and Mak ing plans for the future which include writ ing a Book. It s important to matter she said. You Don t want to live and just disappear. If there s any rhyme or reason Why we re Here one has to justify one s own  muscular dystrophy clue believed found Durham . A a group of North Carolina scientists believe they May have a major clue to the biochemical defect responsible for Myotonia muscular dystrophy. Their research May Lead to a method for delaying the symptoms of the crippling disease indefinitely they say. One of the most common muscular Nystro pies Myotonia dystrophy is an inherited condition passed Down through a defective Gene from a Parent. Its symptoms prolonged wasting and stiff Ness of Muscles cataracts diabetes sterility Early baldness and abnormal heart rhythms May appear at any age. The discovery is a difference in the red blood cells of Normal persons and of those suffering from the illness said scientists at Duke univer sity medical Center and the University of North Carolina school of Medicine. The difference is in the cells ability to metabolize phospholipids fatty compounds that Are essential to Energy production in humans and animals. 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The reason i m writing is to ask if it s possible should i get Termi Nal illness to prevent the doctors from keeping me alive by artificial Means t saw them linger for weeks when there was no Chance for survival. It was obscene the Way they kept dad alive by us ing a kidney machine and Respi Rator with tubes inserted in every orifice. Dad pleaded with us to instruct his physician to let him die in peace but neither i nor my Mother could bring ourselves to do it. We both feared guilt feel Ings might haunt us later and of course we were constantly Pray ing for the one in a million Mira Cle. Can a person make Legal arrangements in Case of a terminal illness to guarantee that he will not be kept alive on machines. Thanks. But no thanks in Illinois dear thanks yes Yoo can have your Way if you Ore la a state that recognizes the  Illinois Tom that does this is document timed by you which guarantees the right to die in peace should Yoa be stricken with terminal illness that your physician declares is irreversible. The Lirong will relieves Relatores and doctors of the Esponal Balty of making the Deci Sion. Anyone who wants More information and free copy of a urine Wio can obtain one by writing to concern for dying 250 West 57th st., new York . 10019. This organization has sent out More than three million copies. At this writing Only ten slates Hare a right to die1 Law. If you ure in a state that has no such Law your family and doctor May not be willing to respect your wishes but they win be aware of what your wishes Are. Dear Ann Why All the Hulla Baloo about a wife who undresses in the clout she did t say she slept in there. I believe it was wrong of you to suggest that the woman needs to revise her Atti tude about nudity. You Are amazingly chauvinistic to suggest that a wife put on a nighty strip tease act for he husband. Do you honestly be Lieve a Man would not thin about sex unless he was exposed to some visual stimulation if so you Are badly mistaken. Any Man who is that dead sexually would be unaffected by the sight of a woman  Man who wants a Little Lov ing will let Bis woman know. If he u not interested he deserves to be left alone. The woman who tries to arouse a husband who 1s do tired after a hard Day s Workis just Plain inconsiderate. She could Abo make him feel inadequate and perhaps create Impo tence. I would t dream of undressing in the closet. I go into the bathroom. No seductress in Chattanooga .j&j00 in tried it Booey Don t Knock it Ici pm fwd Ettor Prim. Lac