European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - September 18, 1980, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the Tarsan stripes thursday. September 18, 1980 depressed press on blues won f last guess what. Six times More women than men get depressed. A woman named Maggie Scarf just spent years and interviewed hundreds of people to discover what i knew Al ready. She s written a big thick Book about it from which she will probably make a killing while i. The depression expert of All time go a consulted and As usual unrewarded. Never mind. I will Swallow my Pride and set you straight on the subject of depression once an for All. The first thing to remember about de pression is that the person who is currently cleaning the bathrooms will be the one to get it. Bathroom cleaning is symbolic. Furthermore if you scorn such frills As the toilet Brush and Are of the grim put your hand right Down in the bowl school you will be even More depressed. I am. Of course in the second Grimmer group. My depression lasted two solid years. It was bad. It was much worse than cleaning Bath rooms though it had the tragic shiny futile cold White feel of bathroom fixtures about it. The second thing about depression is that people Don t believe How much you Are suffer ing. You look Fine a Little wild eyed and frumpy maybe but Fine. Your friends and rela Tives May get downright irritated with you suggesting you shape up muttering that your House is a wreck wondering Why you Don t get the diaper rash on your baby s Bottom cleared up. You really look Fine no broken Bones no hacking cough no terminal illness just wretched agonizing despair. You see your friends and relatives do not believe that one could die actually die from depression. And you Are ashamed to admit that you want to. The third thing about depression is that just when you need to feel close you Are far away. You Are an outsider on this very planet. You Are astonished that people Are laughing and talking and singing and achieving while you arc dying. You feel no affection no lust no enthusiasm no Confidence no Hope no Faith no love. What you want to do is go to bed. The nicest place in the world is under the covers. If you arc very Lucky you May have one Loving relative or Friend who refuses to be daunted by your hostility. This great human being sits with you whether you like it or not. This perfect Saint suffers your verbal abuse your crying fits your fear. This person is up with you at 5 in the morning when you Are wide awake. This person cleans up the Messy House you could Force yourself to clean. This person swears on a stack of bibles that you will get better. No matter what you do no matter now awful you act no matter How Low you go this person Wilt not leave you. If you cannot find this person then you will just have to befriend  fourth and Best thing about depression is that it does eventually end. Your Loving rela Tive told you so. Your paid professional told you so. And i am telling you so. The Way i know it ends is that it ended fur me. And i was no lighthearted Case. It will not end of course All at once. You get better in Small ways. One ?e6rur&er 14 6i  fitus the he a think 6mew of fms i tub in t i re absolute eur it. Kaoi6h by Vlku Day you put on a clean Blouse. The next Day you chuckle briefly. At some Point you make Aplan. One morning you find yourself humming. And so the Light comes in Glimmer by Glimmer. The abyss Filu up with music chores affection wonderful ordinariness books trips jokes  the depression you will wonder what All that was about. The books will use fancy words like endogenous exogenous or chemical  read the books if they help. But if they Don to just admit it you be been sick. It was a close Call. You Are Well. Through the years you will remember that terrifying bout with depression. Good. You should. First you May. At any time get it again and this Lime you will understand the illness better. Furthermore you have an Obliga Tion to remember so that you can help other depressed people. After All the people who have never Felt it won t be Able to help. They will be too Busy telling depressed people to shape up and Cut out the nonsense. You of course will never be so Cavalier about this Seri Ous illness which has plagued the likes of or. Samuel Johnson sir Winston Churchill Vir Ginia Woolf and of course you. The Way i Sec it your lifelong duty is to make sure nothing is Ever wasted not even sickness. Manila Westinghouse to sign nuke pact Manila up the Philippines  Westinghouse electric co. Will sign an agreement sept. 24 to resume construction of the country s first nuclear re actor Plant authorities said. Ministry of Energy officials said under the new agreement Westinghouse will finance a portion of the Cost of 91 additional safety features requested by the philippine government following the three mile is land nuclear Accident in 1979 in Pennsylva Nia. Only 69 of the safeguards have so far been incorporated in the  Plant construction of which was halted last year in Morong town some 60 Miles North West of Manila near an american naval base. Across Sorrels 5 mire 8usma, for one 12 impulsive to Nice season 14 actress Turner 15 not pro 19 darjeeling or Oblong 17 minute particle 18 term in horseshoes 29 author Garvia and family 22 Yale Man 23wha? 24 pouches 27 the Bee s Knees epoch 33 neighbor offal. 34 girl s name s5 sounds of disapproval s8 italian Noble family 39 Art latin Isle for one 42 enclose 4i Stag feature 49 Scoter 59 author anal 52 ceremony 53 Library volume 54 Vergil s 601 55 corrodes 51 spheres 57 red for one 58 part of . 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How in the world can i get this dude to understand that All i want a a Nice Friendly relationship without sex Ann help me. I would talk Tomy mom but she would t allow me to Date this Guy again and i Dan l want that to happen. I for got to Tell you Ann he a 16 Yea sold. Mixed up in Florida deter mixed up my a i is to give or. Hot pants he deep six. Take dry word for ii Honey Yog Are not going to get us mind off is prime target. Cd acts Are far better that he will Wear Yoa Down and gel what be b after. If he really cared about Yoi he would t be of elfish Tai pot his gratification ahead of Yov peace of aum. Dear Ann As s Stepmother to a Young m n Ith a cerebral Pauy Handicap who cannot speak i would like to Tell parents Bow important it u to let All children do As much for themselves As they possibly can. Barry could not walk until age s. Until that time he crawled and got Aro oed on a homemade skateboard. Through strict discipline and his own de termination Barry has Learned to Cook vacuum make Bis bed do dishes and Wash clothes. He is Able to read and write and use sign language. He graduated from the eighth Grade of a Public school at age 18 and received a standing ovation from his fellow students when he received his diploma. Barry took it upon himself to study for the . Test and finish High school. Of course be made it Haring been taught the value of Money be saved and paid for private driving lessons. Now be has his own car. He works at a handicapped sponsored Job and maintains his own apartment. Had his parents not had the fortitude to let him do it for himself Barry might still be sitting in a wheelchair or tying in a bed being waited on hand and foot instead of enjoying life and dating girls. It is heart breaking to watch a child struggle with his twisted hands to get a bile of food to his Mouth or a Glass of water or tie a shoe or pick himself up after falling from a bicycle. But you must remember even though it would be so easy to do it for him he is stuck with those limbs for the rest of his life and he must learn to do for himself. If you As parents take away his Chance to learn and do every thing for him you Aie denying that child the Opportunity to learn to take care of himself. A proud Mother Dew Mother pm ban Ritt be pro i wonder Ink Muy Able traded kids cd meet to a record he barrys phase say hello to that Stepson of yours. He sounds like a real via