European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 15, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann landed letters dear Ann Landers i desperately need help to overcome the guilt i feel about the Way our son has turned i Tore up a letter i wrote several months ago but this one is going to the Post Dan is now five years ago he began to exhibit rebellious and antisocial he became involved in fought with his dropped out of became sexually ran away from Home several times and ended up in my husband and i Are hardworking you might Call us we love each other and have a Good our younger son has never Given us so far As we these boys were raised the same Why they Are so different is a we did our Best to teach them both Good my husband and i invested an incredible amount of time trying to interest them in and we spent sum mers camping As a thinking it would provide a Strong moral foundation and love for just when it appeared that Dan was be ginning to Settle Down and show signs of he came Home covered with Tat whenever i see them i get when i told him i was sorry he had done that to himself he went on a became and All the signs of Progress How can i accept this boy How can i overcome the grief and sorrow i feel How can i not be embarrassed when my friends see and now with these hideous tattoos he still lives at has a menial and pays room and he rarely participates in family when he it ends in disaster and we wish he had stayed i try to keep Busy and not dwell on my i am in therapy and it is help ing but there Are times when i feel so guilty and ashamed because i have failed miserably As a please help me if you minus ten in Wisconsin dear Wisconsin in glad you Are in it would be wonderful if you could get Dan to accept i ran across a Book that i believe might help it is what did i do wrong the author is Lynn the publisher is Arbor House and the Price is the author in an forthright her own bitter in sure Many mothers will dear Ann Landers in the Middle of the night i woke up with a i went to the reached for my headache remedy in the dark because i didst want to disturb my it didst feel right in my hand so i turned on the on the capsule was do not it was some substance that keeps moisture out of it May not have harmed me but it sure taught me a never again will i take a Pill in the please print it might save fortunate in Chicago dear Chic to my knowledge Ive never had a letter like thank you for the excellent additional information on overseas duty and spouses this letter is in reference to the writer who suggested that arriving families move directly into government i assume that this May be your first Opportunity to accompany your spouse on an overseas Chapmans answer addressed Only part of the problem you wrote i would like to add to his answer so you can see the whole if you wanted to move into govern ment housing immediately upon Why didst you wait in the until government housing was available surely your spouse was advised before he left the land of round doorknobs that he would have to wait six months or longer for government Stop the dependents from coming to Europe for six months has been tried and tested Many congressmen have recommended reducing the number of dependents in the letters to the editor column was full of the responses from our servicemen Here i president Eisenhower stopped intr command transfers of accompanied personnel in this policy thawed out real fast and was wives will accompany their spouses to the overseas i do not mean to slight those families where the female is the service i just do not have any experience with this Type of How Many wives travelled overseas with out being command sponsored have the editor research old issues of the stars and stripes and the volume of letters printed on the hardships of those who were not com Mand did these wives move into renovated Chicken houses near Rhei main in the Early 1950s did these wives travel to Korea in the mid even though they  go to the could Only go the Exchange during certain hours and never on payday did these wives live in 1 room houses on Guam in 1970 and 1971 and live in worse conditions in Korea you cannot keep most of the wives in the while their husbands Are and the husbands Are proud to have them with if the government says they will come As if the government says then there Are those like you who want to move direct into Little America to qualify my experience for you and other i first arrived in Germany in december 1952 and was stationed in Ger and Korea during my 30 years in the air Twenty of those years were spent i was required to conduct a Survey of off base housing on Guam in 1970 and had to actually visit the dwellings where our Squadron personnel Many of those annuities and the tax Laws pen pals please place my name on your pen pal Colour in Jean Carpenter Chestnut Way Bramley Surrey gu5 Oje England i am a 19yearold nursing student seeking pen aay hobbles Are corresponding and collecting flowering Tongas hang hang cottage Sulliman Campus Dumaguet City Philllp lines please list me in your penal i am 19 years my hobbles Are Tetter writing end Elopre hang hang cottage Sulliman Campus Dumaguet City Philllp lines after 19 years of paying into sep survivors Benefit plan in the belief that i would be leaving a 55 percent portion of my As an for my i read in a recent Issue a letter that there is Fine print in my contract with the government and that my a German would be taxed a whopping 30 if she chose not to reside in the upon my in none of the government publications on in Only this obscure regulation a 6089 is this information to be found so that it could be evaluated by the Retiree before contracting for out of my Small i am required to pay income then there will be a social Security offset to the sep annuity when i now with this 30 percent what will be left for my widow How much More does the government want from me and where will it All end it is inconceivable to me How a govern ment that makes claims of Justice and nondiscrimination can do this to their retired people who enter into this contract blindly thinking that they Are contributing to a 55 percent annuity for their loved anywhere else this would be considered a highly fraudulent i would like to know when this ruling was passed and whether it is applying to those that might have contracted for sep before that the rationale for keeping this information from being disseminated would also be i know that if i had known about this i would certainly have arranged for an annuity that  be tampered Jacquot Heidelberg editors note person Nel actions 1st personnel com replies thank you for your interest in the survivor Benefit i Welcome the Opportunity to discuss its taxation and Hope that the information provided an Swers All your the survivor Benefit plan sep was enacted on by Public Law 92 while the 30 percent taxation clause was contained in the Basic army regulation survivor Benefit which promulgated the it is most unfortunate and regrettable tint you were not provided this information by your personnel officer during your retirement a 1966 amendment to Section 1441 of the internal Revenue requires that the annuities of surviving nonresident Auen spouses be taxed at a base rate of 30 percent when they return to their country of origin for permanent there is a Relief clause in the code which can reduce the 30 percent taxation to a More acceptable de pending on the number of years you served outside the United states while on Active the tax penalty May not be As severe As you a military Legal assistance officer can provide information on the there will be no social Security off set against your wife annuity until she reaches age retired pay operations will automatically apply the they will make two computations a calculation of the amount of social Security offset which is attributable to your Active military service performed after up to the Date of your and a second computation which will represent 40 percent of the sep annuity the smaller Dollar amount of these two calculated sums will constitute the your wife will be entitled to receive full social Security benefits based on your total social Security covered she May apply for social Security As Early As age or if cartoon takes cake there has been a lot in the press lately about wrenches and this May be True in some but the car Toon you published recently took the in Many ways it says that we aircraft maintainers Are a Bunch of wasteful i must differ with the folks who turn those wrenches Are some of the finest americans Ive had the Chance to we in maintenance do not allow the activity we have led the services in control of aircraft repair of assets and tool and foreign object we provide our pilots the safest and most reliable military aircraft in the and we do it with dime store band to save the folks in the United states buy the cheapest these Deyoung specials would never be seen in pan am s tool much less the Corner garage Back the hammers Are surely but the reality is Noname inferior tools in the hands of Young airmen who maintain jets and Casebeer Raf England dwellings  be classified As but they were i was also Well aware of the Bare Wall living conditions of some of my subordinates in Korea no you sat on Mats on the floor heat was provided by charcoal or heating Oil and several families succumbed to Carbon monoxide poisoning from faulty Heaters during my 13month tour there this knowledge from the stars and Pacific last but not this column has contained several answers to letters that listed Large funds being spent to upgrade family housing in i firmly believe that Usa eur and Safe Are walking a very tight rope in this Battle for Dol Lars spent on housing mean dollars that Are not available for tanks or air planes or the shells and fuel needed to make them effect thank the dear lord that you didst have to wait for government quarters before you joined your husband in enjoy your la i remember when we didst get it and get out and learn some of the local culture before you move to Little Ameri Kippenhan Ramstein Germany info on education in reference to a recent letter tuition assistance is available to students who already have a College degree and wish to take classes in the Host nation army regulation Page 95 is the reference for this Hea Siart is a 40hour not 20 5 Mitchell Germany 1 european edition Usa editor in chief us m Proctor Deputy editor in chief managing editor Mcdermott production manager circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the department of or the slats and stripes of the products or services everything advertised in 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