European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 25, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 modern i veg by Daniel Goleman new York times a study based on observations of 800 convicted rapists suggests new guidelines for How women should react when confronted with an the new study identifies four major kinds of rapists and offers a Strat egy to use with in the advice to women on How to respond to a rapist has usually advocated one of two contradictory tactics acquiesce or said Robert one of the we have tried to go a crucial step further sorting out the psychological underpinnings of rapists and tailor ing tactics that Are optimal for each we do not advise a victim to use physical resistance unless she is trained and absolutely confident it will be Prentky said in an if you do not incapacitate the you Are Likely to increase your risk of physical a clinical is the director of re search at the Massachusetts treatment Center in Brid the states facility for treating sexually dangerous he conducted the study with Ann a professor of psychiatric nursing at the univer sity of Pennsylvania who is an authority on sex crimes and their there Are different motives that drive men to they note in their which has not yet been pub and hence different responses that Are a Propri about half of according to Are in the category he Calls men for whom rape is an predatory this kind of rapist sees his victim purely As an object for sexual and the rape is a  often growing out of a social situation such As meeting a woman at a bar or a casual some of these men cannot believe a woman could possibly mean according to the and they see a woman Active resistance to their advances As a strategies for dealing with rapists sexual often heightening their Prentky classifies perhaps a Quarter of rapists As men who feel acutely inadequate As men and Are obsessed by sexual such a says the feels that no woman in her right mind would voluntarily sleep with Al though they often fantasize that their victims will enjoy the experience and perhaps even fall in love with for about 20 percent of Prentky their rape is actually an expression of displaced anger and for them the victim represents a hated woman they feel to have been the source of cumulative often a Mother or in this Case the rape is an act of and sex just another Way to humiliate the any physical resistance is Likely to increase the rapists about 5 percent of rapists Are for them sexual feelings and aggression Are fused the More aroused they the More violent they such according to the Are the most dangerous of All their assaults Are sometimes involving playing out a ritualized the report describes guidelines that a rape victim can use in deciding How to if she is Able to use them under the pressure of the moment the first response is to escape if failing the report recommends that a woman Start talking to the keeping the conversation real and in the it advises women to gently but persuasively convey the message that you arc a Strang according to the victim should never say anything that might justify a rapists such As claiming she has a venereal if the rapist listens or according to the he is probably a compensatory and the Best response is to continue talking to confronting him with the reality of the victims such rapists Are most Likely to be stopped by Active such As Yelling for and least Likely to inflict physical the report warns against using Force against any rapist who has a lethal if the rapist pays no attention to what the victim says but does not seem to be using gratuitous he is Likely to be the exploitative according to the the recommendation is to keep try ing to engage the making yourself a person to and diverting him with questions about if the rapist responds to talk by increasing his aggression and seems to want to humiliate and demean his he is Likely to be the kind of rapist motivated by displaced anger about what they perceive As abuse by the Best strategy according to the is to be empathic try to demonstrate some sense of inter concern or caring if you can Muster and if the rapist makes bizarre sexual he is Likely to be a perhaps the most though Type of Here the advice is to sense the potential for danger Early in the and to end once the assault the advice is to struggle and do anything possible to that May says the feigning Partick and at a critical moment making maximum use of attacking the genital or facial areas As viciously As you this requires converting your fear into rage and your sense of helplessness into nothing less than a struggle to a by Wendy Benjaminson United press International mans rage after his daughter or Girlfriend is raped could intensify psychological damage after the says an expert on How men should Cope with the aftermath of sexual no matter How men can do things that will do almost More damage than rape says sociologist Alan we have to change the Way men View rape its an act of not an act of once that men can Stop feeling jealous after a he with psychologist Jeff has written if she is raped a Book for fathers and male who describes the Book As the first of its says nearly 40 percent of relationships end within a year of an and 20 percent of rape victims attempt those statistics can be greatly Mcevoy if men give practical suggestions rather than threaten ing to kill the the Quality of support a Man gives the victim has a tremendous Impact on her if she is raped was designed to familiarize men with the physical and psychological trauma of and to guide them through the aftermath of the attack and changing the Way men View rape subsequent confrontations with defense attorneys and Many men initially react to the rape with uncontrollable anger and suspicion about what the woman May have done to provoke the the author acting suspicious of the victim is the worst possible says who with Brookings inter c viewed scores of rape we feel that if the woman survived the she did everything he the author says relationships often end after a rape be cause the Man doubts the victims jealousy is especially damaging in acquaintance which accounts for about half of reported attacks on he while he Calls anger an understandable it shifts the attention away from the woman recovery and forces her to worry about the Mcevoy said in an she Doest need that additional to worry about she May feel she caused the first violent and will feel guilty about being the cause of More violent behaviour in he even though the Man desperately May feel that he has to do Mcevoy says he should be passive about the demanding that she go straight to the police or demanding to know Why she was in that neighbourhood at that time will Only add to the woman sense that she has lost control of her Many especially will Oyer protect a rape Mcevoy this absolutely is the wrong thing to Young victims especially should go Back to their Normal daily activities As soon As Possi the new York City police department ordered 500 copies of if she is and Mcevoy says he Hopes this will begin a trend toward softening the Legal proce Dure against rape although the authors Only touch upon Legal proceed Ings in the Mcevoy says the Legal system now contributes to painful recoveries for rape Vic Erma Bombeck a Mother in has three Small in her family increased by three cabbage Patch in Christmas of the same three More pre Emie dolls found their Way into her each week Little Small dresses and miniature socks Are laundered and stacked for six the dolls dont eat they dont spit their plumbing is not hooked up to a Why does she do it mothers who have borne daughters have All been through we have a thing about its hard to explain Why i spent hours on my hands and Knees pulling naked dolls out of the dust or sifting through the sweeper bag later at night to retrieve a two Inch Bra for Barbie who  Wear a see through Blouse without it was even harder to justify Why i Money to buy Ken a cardboard car and when my Hus band was struck speechless i for gods Hes taking Barbie to a game at Ohio state this what do you want them to do take a bus mothers dont do anything without an object that Why i suspect we buy so that our daughters will know whats ahead of by role playing they will not Only learn some of the responsibility that goes with the but they will come to appreciate our own dedication and i have never known a Little girl in my life who bought somehow when we saw our daughters saw saw when we heard voices and they heard a recording controlled by a string in the when we saw miniatures of they saw dimpled but we never gave Arent you going to comb what left of baby hair maybe it will cover the Rock baby to dont Chew her foot Sweet or Shell never go to the is that your new baby buried in the Sand with a Rock on her youre going to make baby cry you punched out baby now she wont be Able to pick out a Nice mothers Day gift for for some reason which i cannot explain i kept All of my daughters i dressed repaired them and put them on a shelf in the there is still fear on their seeing my Mother brought my old doll to join the i crocheted underwear for her and gave her a nose she said i watched Mother As she lovingly placed the doll on the shelf and smoothed out her she was the Only one i could sock into a chair and shed stay put she maybe that explains c c lot angelas Telmet Syndicate