European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 29, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers May 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers your advice to single Mother with a big to Tell the paternal grandmother about the was Hasty and it is obvious that she wants to punish the father because he chose not to be part of his sons or she wants to Black mail him into involvement by going to his when she decided to become a despite the mans refusal to marry she knew it would be but she made that Choice and should live with please listen to my three years be fore we my husband had an affair with a woman who went off the Pill without informing she became pregnant at their Farewell six months into the preg Nancy she called and said she wanted child he agreed but asked that she not Tell his who had never met he never missed a but soon after we were married she became showed up at his parents Home and declared that her child had the right to know his a Nasty scene my Mother inlaw had a heart attack that night and neither she nor her husband has spoken to us its been four they also refused to acknowledge his out Wedlock which is Fine with we have tried without Success to Patch things even the birth of our child a year ago did not heal the my inlays remain my husband knew How his parents would react to his sexual indiscretion and chose not to Tell his former lovers revelation succeeded Only in causing misery for every As Long As the Man continues to pay child single Mother should allow him the right to choose whether to Tell his Mother about the although the boy might miss something by not knowing his paternal she chose to raise him without a father and should be thankful he knows at least one mine May never know since my own parents died years fathers have too dear Friend your bitter experience supports a Strong i can see Why you thought my advice was a but i stand by your inlays sound extremely hard hearted and inordinately i doubt that the majority of parents would behave that i Hope your inlays see this letter and decide to Contact you and your to remain permanently estranged accomplishes everybody and the greatest loss is dear Ann Landers my Boss and 1 have a difference of opinion As to what causes he contends that 90 percent of homosexuals Are recruited by other homosexuals and if there had not been a recruit those males would be i contend that homosexuality is caused by a combination of hormonal imbalance and environmental i believe that any attempt to recruit a straight male would result in disgust rather than a new sexual who is Correct Reader from dear devoted no one knows for sure what causes but your Boss is definitely reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but we will withhold your name on request and protect your All letters Are subject to letter questioning privileges for local nationals recently my husband watched As a turkish worker walked into Woodland and purchased a pack of Marlboro did he show an identification card did he show a ration card was he asked to oddly i can go in loaded with bags in a Rush and i will show my id and ration sacrifices and our benefits help us forget our what sacrifice do the cafes employees make considering the Economy and where they id say very my government spends millions of Dol Lars to provide us with exchanges and i believe the privileges do i sound bitter too Many people do without certain items and products from our store for this to be my husband asked the worker if he did have a ration card and he did and showed it to laughing of we All have Julian Turkey my question is Why is a store worker should be extended Only to military me editors note Pete allowed to Purchase items at our Exchange other dependents and american customer relations Public i cannot Purchase Vilian affairs he re Purchase jeans the list is without i also find it terribly unfair that the showing my cards and filling out a retirees in Spain Arent allowed to use the Friend of mine forgot his ration card once and  make a Why Are the workers allowed the privilege that Means they also can use the is this our incentive to be privileges where no americans Are Al Lowed to do so i dont believe it helps us financially or politically to let everyone who works for cafes use the honest most things we have can be Pur where is the justification of ration cards chased on the Ive even noticed Why ration anything is this the Norm with cafes tags still in allowed this privilege because my husband is a service member serving his As a we All make some i Supply other countries and then maybe we should tax them 10 percent As they tax us Here Reader concerned about cafes i am writing because i am concerned about the Way cafes handles App a my husband opened an account and filled out the Power of attorney to have me placed on the account As i am Able to charge things at cafes but i cannot at clothing which is by the same App they said Only service members Are Al replies sponsors can authorize spouses to make credit purchases on App whether it be in military clothing sales or the main the mass clerk gave you bad information and for that we a remind ers gone out to All mass managers to ensure it wont happen in the cafes has revised its App application eliminating the need for a separate Lowed to charge at clothing when Power of when an i Dividu asked they can Only its a opens an he or she can Autho and the same clerk will gladly accept my Rize on the application its use by a Cash for the same this does not sponsors with Active App accounts May make sense at Aiso update their applications at the facile another question i have concerns my Power of i have had a general a Power of attorney for three its Good for five i see no reason to have my husband renew i have yet to be Able to use in the civilian you can sue someone for failure to recognize a Legal but for it has been nothing but a worthless piece of please explain the purpose of the Power of withheld Frankfurt editors note master Bruce customer relations Public affairs qty where the account is allow ing their spouses to make App a postscript from our Legal staff theres no requirement that anyone Deal with you simply because you have a Gener Al Power of its a Legal Doc but it Doest require anyone to do business with before obtaining a Power of you and the principal the giver of the Power should always Check with individuals and institutions to see if  accept especially if you have a specific business transaction in i recommend you consult with your Legal assistance office for details on Powers of German wants to be american in an 18yearold German and i want to would be immigrants have been immigrate to the i went to school in subject to various quantitative and Quality Germany and have a Job All in my Tive controls that Congress has enacted to education is safeguard the National for having really Good chances i seem the Cornerstone of immigration singly must be a top for policy is to promote family reunification Mer russian secret service agent or a per and to secure needed current Immi son with a similar desirable Gration procedures Are prescribed in the but in neither immigration and nationality act of i just feel More american than German As under this the privilege and want to work for our United states of of immigrating is limited essentially to the following two groups of people those Ive written to president Reagan three limes indicating my love for America and my desire to he Hast an swered a single Ive decided to study theology and to take Over a Job to help the poor in although i have always Felt rejection when i have asked for immigration i Haven Given up my dream to become a proud american some Lattner Germany editors note Raymond consular consulate replies for one reason or there Are Many millions of people around the world who would rather live in the United states than in their own the Days of unlimited plies local National employees of cafes Europe in almost All not Al Lowed Exchange the clerk who sold the cigarettes without checking for an id and ration card was wrong we can take action to Stop abuse of Exchange and you can with close relationships to american Citi Zens or permanent resident and those with professional expertise or specialized occupations whose services Are sought by a prospective immigrants who Are imme Diate relatives of american citizens minor children and parents Are not subject to any numerical everyone else Falls under an annual worldwide ceiling of for those subject to this there Are currently backlogs of up to four years in some visa and there is an even longer wait for applicants from a few specific countries where there is a particularly heavy demand for it would appear that the letter writers main problem is that be has neither Amer ican relatives nor a certified Job offer from an american be must have either one or the other in order have Long since for Many to qualify for Well take it from in the Well continue to make sure that All our employees understand the while checking to make sure those rules Are if someone is using a ration or id card who int authorized you should con tact your base Security protecting our Exchange privileges requires the Vig silence and involvement of correcting photo info in reference to a recent photo caption Tallinn is in not it is in fact the Capitol of Estonia has been occupied by rus Sia since world War but the government recognizes Estonia As a separate Rogers Germany european edition cmdr us Proctor acting editor in chief managing editor Blackwell Mcdermott production manager circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in 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