European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 29, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Page 18 the stars and stripes May 1985 comments today crossword from raising kids to caring for dad by Ellen Goodman my friends and i arc at the age when we begin to talk less about child care and More about parental the subject of our lunchtime conversations has once they leaned heavily toward paediatrics now they include Geria our Lon distance Telephone checkups on each others lives also run Down a longer once they accounted for sons and now they include mothers and in Middle most of us Are flanked by adolescent children and aging we arc the fulcrum of this family and expected to keep the As one set of burdens is lifted gradually by an other is sometimes sometimes pulled by the Gravity of old age or in the past a neighbor of mine has helped her son choose a College and her Mother choose a retirement a Friend who has just stopped accompanying her children to doctors appointments has begun driving her father to a colleague who filled her 30s with guilt about being a work ing Mother is entering her 50s with guilt about being a working daughter its her parents who need her it was to be i after it is nothing More than the reality of the life but in fact it want not like most my friends were raised to be Lieve that Independence was the we Learned to value nurture respect it and demand it of ourselves and today we stand on our own two it was hard for some of us to have that Independence challenged by the helplessness of our it is much harder to see our parents become some of this difficulty is familiar and the child in us always wants our parents to be to be caretakers rather than when we Mother and father our mothers and we feel a bit like but this stage of of is also hard because Many of our parents lied to us just As we in turn lie to our perhaps lie is too harsh a but let me in America it is considered or at least to teach children that they owe us for their their College their very we do not have children to take care of us in our old age anymore at least we dont say the Model of a sacrificial Parent waiting for a return on her investment has become a raising them is supposed to be an act of free so we Tell the Young that we need nothing in we free up their emotional inheritance so they can spend it on the next at the same we prepare for our own old age Buffer our lives against needing with iras and social with medical insurance and but social Security Doest make Telephone and medicare Doest visit the while Independence extends longer and wider into the late decades it is a rare person who leaves this life without becoming somewhat dependent on especially their the lie that parents will remain Independent is not a malicious its not even it is believed when told by 30yearold fathers to 8yearold by 40yearold mothers to 12yearold it is handed Down in Good Faith by generations of parents when we Are in our we believe Pur own lie because we cannot imagine even those taking care of our own mothers and fathers that it will happen to it is impossible for a 45year old to know what he will be like at what he will what he will what he will yet by he has seeded the ground for his own Childs Middle aged our terror of losing this prize american Possession Independence is what makes us define a Good death As a sudden we choose to believe that we can avoid becoming a Burden on our our shame about aging prevents us from knowing and telling our children the dirty Little secret of our human exis tence when we too Are we May need them need to lean on Washington Post writers group sinbad too racy egyptians Cairo not an egyptian judge approved the confiscation of copies of an unexpurgated edition of a thousand and one on the ground that the centuries old arabic classic contained obscene passages that posed a threat to the country moral the a Middle Eastern classic of stories that schol ars say Are Indian and Arab in is a collection of tales that legend holds were told by Queen scheherazade to prevent her King Shehr Ayar of from killing judge Ahmed whose court handles mis Demea also fined a publisher and two booksellers about each for violating Egypt pornography Laws by importing or distributing the new editions of the the judge said his decision was not a precedent Banning All copies of the Book and affected Only the copies seized earlier this month by the ministry of but writers and other prominent intellectuals said the confiscation set a dangerous if we continue to censor and eliminate obscene words from our it will not Stop said Anis former editor of a prominent arabic the uncensored version of the which is a collection of such stories As Ali Baba and the 40 Aladdin and his magic and sinbad the was ruled obscene because of sections among the More than 100 stories containing explicit descriptions of sexual several critics of the decision said the ruling reflected growing islamic fundamentalist sentiment in conservative islamic forces have been demanding a crack Down on what they see As pornography and other in islamic influences on Egypt they have also sought even tighter censorship than already exists on television and this is but one of several signs that the religious trend is gaining momentum said Mohammed Sid a writer for the left Wing arabic weekly Al a few weeks ago the egyptian supreme court struck Down As unconstitutional a 1979 Law opposed by Funda mentalist groups that enhanced the right of women to sue for divorce and to gain custody of their the court ruled that the promulgated by the late president Anwar had not been properly the egyptian parliament also recently voted to scientifically and systematically review Egypt Laws to eliminate those inconsistent with islamic the old Legal code favored by world now free of health organization reports Switzerland up Mankind remains free of the Scourge of with All suspected cases proving to be other the world health organization who officially 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