European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 25, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                July 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 inn Landers letters dear Ann Landers your reply to furious Flora in which you advised her to do her Hus bands chores As Well As her own was clearly out of step with today life Wake up and smell the wives who have Ca Reers outside the Home accept their share of the responsibility for household there is no reason their husbands  pitch in and behave like equal after 11 years of marriage to terrific during which time i held Down a full time Job and did All household chores with no help from we were my two years of single Hood were the Freedom was so delicious i could taste it was glorious not having to clean up after anyone but a year and half ago i met a wonderful he agreed when we started to talk about marriage that he would do half of the household it never dawned on me that he was not a Man of his immediately after the honeymoon he quit doing when i reminded him of his Promise he ill help if you Tell me what to this was no he was 44 years so i wrote Down his duties and tacked them to the Kitchen he did his chores for about 10 then stopped when i asked him to hed you must have a phobia about no body i know vacuums every i decided it want Worth the hassle and ended up doing All the chores after a Short time i began to resent him for belching on his my resentment manifested itself in insidious ways and created serious problems that threatened our mar the solution i hired a the Cost certainly puts a crimp in our but its cheaper than paying a therapist and a lot less nerve racking than worrying about a second ill sign this it out in Portland dear port when i received dozens of complaints about my answers never change so do it yourself like 90 percent of the women i decided to rethink my you female readers convinced me i was thanks to All who helped me see the dear Ann Landers my neighbors have been friends for 10 they took trips together and had Many Good the trouble started when their kids got into a fight and the parents stepped the kids have made but the parents Haven spoken to each other for several i am Friendly with both couples so i hear i never carry tales and every thing said goes in one ear and out the i wish with All my heart that these four Lovely people could resolve their differ the wives used to be like Sisters and i know this separation must be very pain any suggestions would peacemaker in Minneapolis dear Minneapolis Tell each couple the other regrets the unhappy incident and is willing to meet offer to have the Olive Branch ceremony at your then set it theres a moral to this never become involved in your childrens let them work things out As Best they can and stay out of c news America Syndicate a list of frequently heard quotations from parents a few quotes from parents we will never hear again but we wish to share with the military communities i help my child every night for two to three what does your dad think of this work Hes never Home he is out in the Field most of the our child was a straight student be fore he came to this student re cords reveal a preponderance of is and our child had a personality clash with the teacher last child has had a continuous clash with teachers for All of his school the last teacher in the states didst cover the child came from the Shaker Heights or new Trier school sys our child never watches child can name every character and time Slot on to when asked in the we put our child to bed every evening at child is circles under eyes and constantly Falls asleep in the a letter from name withheld please initiate a policy that stars and stripes will no longer print letters signed name i am certain stars and stripes receives enough letters from people who have the courage and belief in what they write to sign their i enjoy the soldiers Edito rials More than any other but a persons letter signed name withheld has Little or no value to any name withheld Means the writer does not wish to be or name withheld can say whatever they Tell any slander policies and name withheld is accepting no responsibility for what he or she is if there is a problem with Barracks company or battalion and the writer has been identified As name with chances Are they have not gone through their Chain of command to resolve the if name withheld has gone through the Chain of command and was not Able to change a policy or that but this is the you cant please All the people All the but what is Best for the army will be unfair and unjust conditions do not exist unless the writer is willing to Tell us who they or name withheld must live in a terrible Community if they have to hang their dirty laundry out for All of Europe to see before their Chain of com Mand realizes that a problem i know or name withheld i think they Are the couple that live Down they always complain about the but never go to the commis sary open toll then it May be the Guy in the Barracks who says Germany stinks but never goes on a Volks March or an itt just to the to or name withheld you live in a democracy where Freedom of speech is a not a stand up and let us know who you exercise your Freedom of rights Are like Muscles if you dont use them they become Tell us your let us know you truly believe in what youre writing by signing your chances Are you can receive help if you need have a policy or maybe even a policy changed if youll Only give us your 5 name withheld Germany editors note our policy is to withhold the names of letter writers who request it in order to protect the writers alcohol sales policy explained i am wondering if someone can give any kind of a reason for my not being Able to socialize with a Beer until while in in civilian in All for no alcohol sold to anyone in uniform until but on a Day off you cannot go Bowling with some in the and have a few were not a Bunch of children trying to get we Are adults trying to have fun on our Day which is very and if our fun includes a few we Are entitled to i would greatly appreciate an explanation of the withheld Germany editors Inga Naf policy mar replies Community commanders Are authorized to establish the times during the Day when dispensing of alcoholic beverages can be during the duty Day this is restricted to the lunch hour period when alcohol beverages can be sold in conjunction with As of this writing he department of the army has an pen pals i am a 13vearold boy who would like to have pen i like dancing and playing Ball Delura 84 Dumaguet City Negros Philippines please add my name to your pen pal i am an Iby Earold i like playing basketball and Destura 84 Dumaguet City Negros Philippines please add my name to your pen pal i am 36 years i like collecting coins and going and going to the Villanueva Airport a Bulan Negros Philippines 6501 i am 18 years old and would like to have pen i like collecting and coins playing Reading and going to the Villanueva Airport a Bulan Negros Philippines 6501 bounced a policy change to be effective 20 that alcoholic beverages will not be served by the drink on army installations to service members on duty during their assigned duty hours As determined by service members the intent of the new policy is to pro Mote behaviour and attitude changes that encourage responsible use of alcohol while enforcing standards of conduct and discipline which prevent alcohol while the writers concern is App re the local commander is required to determine controls needed to implement mature yet reasonable constraints on dispensing of alcoholic beverages in consideration of department of the army Degla Moriza Tion of alcohol Liberty address when i read the article in stars and stripes about the Money shortage being suffered by the statue of Island restoration i was annoyed that no address was Given to which readers might have sent a i Hope you will share this address with your readers statue of Island Box 1986 10018 i cannot think of a cause More worthy of the generous support of All Bilyj Germany All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but we will with hold your name on request and protect your your child is disruptive and destructive in the he just Doest like the bullies in class and wants to i was always a Good student in Parent was a High school i had a hard time in school Why Arent you teaching my child More we Are leaving for a two week tour of Europe in a half could we have the next two weeks assignments the teacher has prejudices that arc expressed the teacher is a White married to a All of my Childs friends Are officers and he Doest want to play with the child Doest know an e2 from an the Counselor never explained any of that to my the child Doest know where the Counselor office is or who the Counselor the Counselor didst Tell them about Early application for Counselor office issues a weekly our child is so dont you Ever Challenge them the last Challenge this child had was potty you dont expect the children to walk to that activity on monday in the cold weather do you the children had been making snowmen All Day saturday and sunday in the same my child never had trouble until he came to this the teachers threw the biggest party in the schools history when the child left the last school for the present duty i cant understand Why Johnny cant understand his multiplication i never could understand those As a withheld Germany the and stripes european edition capt Dale us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell Proctor Mcdermott production manager managing circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this including inserts or does not constitute endorsement by the 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