European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 31, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                July 1985 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers let me urge you to present the other Side of the Date rape while certain sexual encounters undoubtedly constitute rape stranger at knife Uncle with 10 the dating kind can be highly John and Marcia go to dinner and a after which they repair to some private place for a few drinks and a Little shared some time before or even after Marcia because of a change of or a genuine wish to Stop there is no no no but John is this rape i would like to suggest that the Best at least in is still the old Legal Stan Dard of maximum feasible resistance with emphasis on the fragile female student at an isolated cottage with the school bully obviously is More vulnerable than the lady wrestler in a thin walled Condo with a computer unless she has communicated her unwillingness to have sex in a clearly unmistakable she should not be allowed to translate her ambivalence into a felony charge against her male just sign me through it in Arizona dear Arizona your letter makes an excellent and at the risk of sounding hilariously id like to suggest that the woman who repairs to some private place for a few drinks and a Little shared affection by her acceptance of such a cozy Given the Man reason to believe she is a candidate for whatever he might have in dear Ann Landers i am about to bail out of a five year marriage to a woman i love a great the problem my a year and a half ago my wife was her husband was killed in a car they had no Chil since that unfortunate Rose has been with us for dinner almost every on vacations and social events to which she was not but my wife got her i do not dislike my but i am sick and tired of having her my wife knows How i feel but she says Rose needs her now and she cant let her when i suggested that she my wife talk to a Counselor about this unusual she flatly refused and called me last night i told her i was seriously considering divorce because of her Sisters constant she slammed the bedroom door in my i slept on the am i As my wife claims i can not Bear the thought of living like this the rest of my please baggage in dear your wife Devotion to her sister is when it begins to threaten her marriage and she refuses to do any thing about the situation requires a closer now is the time to find out if your wife prefers her Sisters company to i suggest that the two of you make an appointment with a marriage Counselor and determine if your marriage is Worth if your wife refuses to go yourself and get some professional c news America Syndicate reminder All letters to the editor must contain the full printed name and address of the writer and must be we do not read unsigned but we will withhold your name on request and protect your All letters Are subject to Reader angry Over caverns alcohol related deaths i recently Learned that two people from our tiny Cavern were killed in an alcohol related upon learning of this i got a deep sense of sadness and a deeper sense of Over the fact that every Day an commercials Tell us of the evils of drink the fact that a gs11 and a gs7 spend count less hours counselling people on the use of alcohol the fact that our tax dollars support alcohol treatment facilities to treat people who have genuine this cant even begin to touch the despair that the family members of those killed Are feeling Over those lost to these incidents that Are alcohol so what am i so angry about that Here and everywhere that i have been stationed in my 10 years in the service there Are these unit Post parties where Beer is Given away All you can on one hand we spend Money to right the abuse of alcohol and on the other we encourage its of if Beer int your cup of then just go Down to the class i store and get your tax free i lets do either quit spending All these monies on treatment and rehabilitation programs or impose greater restrictions on these Freebee withheld Germany editors note staff Darrell fitness office of the Dep Uty chief of he usar replies we share your feelings of sadness at the loss of life caused by drinking and the tragedy of needless injury and death caused by the irresponsible use of alcohol is a major therefore the Preven Tion of Drunken driving is the number one Law enforcement Issue in use of alcohol in appropriate situations and in moderation is the responsibility of the not the what is necessary is a change in attitude toward not further restrictions of person Al the image of the hard foreign awards policy explained i feel i must question the new army regulation for biding the wearing of foreign awards on the Battle dress such awards show that the Soldier has gone that one extra step and proven his or herself in the eyes of both our and a foreign govern such eight times out of Are not Given out i personally have been awarded both thai and Korea jump wings both of which did not come easy which i proudly awards of this nature show where youve been and what youve to deny the Soldier the right to Wear these subdued awards on uniform seriously under mines morale and the sense of Pride vital to the army i understand that most soldiers do not earn foreign awards either through their own or geological however such awards often inspire others to to go that extra possibly to Volunteer for that overseas assignment in the Hopes of attaining the award a Small but a valid one if the army feels they must remove perhaps they should look into air borne wings worn by persons who have never been on jump or Ranger and special forces tabs worn by those who have never served with those Whistler Kaiserslautern editors note John office of the Deputy chief of per replies the prohibition against the Wear of for eign badges on the of fatigues and the Battle dress uniform Blu is not a new this policy also exists in the current uniform regulation dated the policy is ambiguously worded in the current regulation and has caused some confusion Over authority to Wear for eign we have published clarifying information and the next version of the uniform regulation will clearly state this prohibit a draft of this regulation was recently sent to All Usa eur major commands and staff agencies for no one recommended a change to the prohibition of foreign badges on the Blu and fatigue you should be justly proud of the badges you have been they reflect a great Deal of hard work and As you May Wear them on your service and dress uniforms in accordance with current uniform Wear paying tribute to live7 heroes in the article remembering Patton by Ernest the moving description of patrons actions in the reminded one of a similar event last i volunteered to help at the embassy in its Goodwill gesture to Welcome returning veterans to the Normandy the embassy leased a train to take eligible yets june 1944 and their families to the Colville military cemetery at Omaha our Job was to screen and Welcome them and to arrange for their during the five Day we helped Many a Silver haired when bemoaning the loss of comrades during the Long Battle to be id youre a and so enjoy invariably the wife would i told you they seemed incredulous that the train was free it was americas thanks to their valiant contributions to Victory and to the future of a free they proudly Dis play orders and other mementos of those trying sometimes an offspring would ask a Lucky to pose with daddy or Uncle for a group it was one time the messenger was honoured rather than ambassador Evan Gailbraith periodically would inquire Hows it coming demonstrating his interest in the arriving at the a to reporter thrust a Mike at me How was it at the Landing not i sheepishly they were ask i pointed to George a Friend who i just Learned had made the and the i then proceeded behind the podium to the Wall of the missing with the there were about 20 of us including French vets and an american Pamela who often proudly carried old glory at official besides the military Security Only presidents Reagan and Mitterrand saw us As they viewed the Wall briefly after speaking to the we that we had played our Little that week will emotionally remain with me forever a tribute to those great Humble heroes of the Day air drops and rangers laboriously sealing the hell of Pointe do hoc Rock while i safely listened to their tales of what i Spahn Paris fighting Soldier is becoming a thing of the drinking a lot does not prove anyone is making a responsible Choice when and if to drink is a sign of something we can All do is to encourage problem drinkers to get help most dont let friends drive a change in direction is reflected by current army policy while alcohol is legally and socially alcohol abuse and resulting misconduct will not be individuals must exercise per Sonal responsibility through informed Deci rehabilitation for Dod employee Alco hol abusers is mandated by Public army regulations require treatment for substance although free Beer is provided at Many unit by regulation there must also be available an adequate Supply of non alcoholic Many units now pro vide a free ride Home for those who drink too policies and action to deter alcohol abuse will work Only if we All make responsible decisions decisions that keep Drunken Drivers off the and promote positive alternatives to alcohol efforts in Educa Tion and prevention of alcohol modifying alcohol attitudes and and rehabilitation of those who need it can reduce incidents like the one you if we individually and collectively accept the the and stripes european edition capt Dale us editor in chief cmdr Jeffrey us Deputy editor in chief Blackwell Proctor Mcdermott production manager managing circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services contents of the stars and stripes Are not necessarily the official views or endorsed the the department of defense or the european the appearance of advertising in this 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