European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 14, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                August 1985 the stars and stripes Page 17 by Patricia Mccormack United press International summertime and the moving just As hard As it is any other but this time families scheduled for the traumatic event can get some help from newly issued tips about children and family they Are from the american Academy of child psychiatry in to make the move easier on the the child psychiatrists recommend explain clearly to the children Why the move is familiarize the children As much As possible with the new area using or the daily describe advantages of the new location such As a or an amusement after the get involved with the children in activities of the local Church or Myca and so if a son or daughter is a senior in High consider the possibility of letting him or her stay with a trusted family until the school year is the More frequently a family the More important is its internal the bulletin from the child psychiatrists with the proper attention from parents and professional if moving can be a positive growth experience for leading to increased Sel Confidence and interpersonal but the psychiatrists caution that moving to a new Community May be one of the most stress producing experiences a family frequent moves or even a single move can be especially hard on a even when there Are they this is because moves interrupt friendships to a new child at it May at first seem that everyone else has a Best Friend or is securely involved in a the child must get used to a different and finds him or herself ahead on certain subjects and behind on causing boredom and the child psychiatrists children in kindergarten or first Grade May be particularly vulnerable in a they Are just in the process of separating from their parents and adjusting to new authority figures and peer the move May return them to a More dependent relationship with the psychiatrists they in older children have the most difficulty with a this is because preteens and teenagers Are in a stage of development where peer groups Are of great if a child shows persistent signs of depression Over a parents can ask their family doctor or paediatrician or the local medical society to refer them to a child these Are physicians with five years of advanced training in advanced and child such an expert is Able to diagnose and treat As Well As emotional problems that May affect a child As the result of the child psychiatrist also May be Able to help parents make the new experience easier on the entire Erma Bombeck making that family move easier on the kids preteens and teenagers May protest the vocalizing at great length about their pleading to stay behind with a friends that is probably Good for their mental they Are talking it the psychiatrists worry about youngsters who dont talk about the such children May be deeply depressed but not show it in a Way that pan be discerned by an untrained the Academy says that Why parents should be aware of the warning signs of depression that May Stem from the these include changes in drop in sleep disturbances or other Radical changes in y mom has a plaque just inside her front door that if we get to drinking sunday afternoon and Start insisting that you stay Over until please re member we dont mean my Mother likes House guests As Well As the next but lets be House guests should be regarded As perishables leave them out too Long and they go it is rare when you can unite in holy Wedlock two families in one House any longer than 48 hours without the hostess attacking her Welcome mat with a Steak some families eat at in the others fall right out of the Happy hour into some guests consider a picnic in the Park As a forced death March while if allowed to sit around and watch to for More than an we can do this at we want to see something its a take ten and and take their children puberty and take their we could hardly wait until they came for a haunt seen them in six you forget a lot in six we forgot that Bernadine was vegetarian and allergic to 18 vegetables and nine we forgot that when Len cattle became rest less 40 Miles we had not remember that Carl drank out of the toilet and his nose always was pointed toward a Crotch we had forgotten that puberty was Light fingered and you had to hide your purse in the vegetable crisper in the there were a lot of Little the fact that Sissy could Bounce a Ball against your bedroom window at 6 in the morning times without it had escaped us that Len and Bernadine both smoke three pack of cigarettes a Day and kept Assur ing us wed get hit by a Beer truck driven by the sur Geon general before the smoke got it had slipped my mind that Bernadine never touched a dish because i dont know where they nor a Washer because i dont want to break or came into the Kitchen because i dont want to get in your its a sandlot if youre hospitable you cant seem to get a you get walked a you strike out a you sit on the Bench helplessly and let it All and then on the last Day of their Len and Ber Nadine you you should get a Booster for your hot weve been taking cold showers since we got they had forgotten something they had forgot ten that my in his infinite had in stalled the hot water spigot on the cold water and the cold water spigot on the hot visitors Home c los Angeles times Syndicate