European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 11, 1985, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday. November 11, 1985 the stars and stripes Ann Landers Page 11 Etters a dear Ann Landers this Little essay was sent to me in the mail  enough it came at a time when i needed the courage to make a change indy life. It helped me move in the right direction. 1 Pray it does the same for someone else. I Hope you think it is worthy of your . From Guam Sadear Usa i do. Here it b. The dilemma to laugh is to risk appearing a fool. To weep b to risk appearing sentiment to reach out for another b to risk involvement. To expose feelings b to risk rejection. To place your dreams before the crowd to risk ridicule. To love b to risk not being loved i return. To go Forward m the face of Over whelming Odds b to risk failure. But risks must be taken because the greatest Hazard in life b to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing does Noth ing Hai nothing b nothing. He May avoid suffering and sorrow but be Cauwet learn fed change grow or lore. Chained by his certitude be b a slave. He has forfeited his Freedom. Only a person who takes risks b free. Dear Ann Landers when a 50th wedding anniversary is approaching and there is to be a party who gives it the parents who Are Cele Brating with family and friends or their children i am a daughter in Law who believes the anniversary couple should give their own party. My Sisters in Law feel that we Are obligated to give this party because the celebrants Are our parents. I have suggested that the children take the anniversary couple to a Nice restaurant to celebrate the occasion but have been informed that the anniversary couple wants a party. I then said they should pay for it  husband and i arc not As Well off financially As the others but we Don twant any hard feelings Over this. I m afraid there might be some. Please advise trouble in Marinette wis. Dear mar Nelte it s always nicer if the 50th anniversary party b Given by the children. Contribute what you can and let s Hope the others Are understanding. I m keeping my fingers crossed that this suggestion will be acceptable. A rift on this Issue could cause hard feelings that will ruin the Day and result in ill will that could last for years. Dear Ann Landers i work in a very Nice restaurant. Vegetarians often ask for a special menu. When i ask them Why they Are vegetarians they politely Tell me to mind my own  s the big secret please Ann help me to understand the answer to this puzzling question. , waitress in Canada dear Loving waitress people May be vegetarians for a variety of reasons none of which b any of your four lob b to take their orders your Job and not to ask personal questions. Ride Over Niagara Falls costs Canadian $1,500 Niagara Falls. Ontario a a Canadian Mechanic who plunged Over in a Falls in a barrel has been fined is 500, and police said he promised not to ii two sides to question of credit cards in exchanges i be wondered Tor a Long time Why the exchanges do not accept major credit cards. Now i know Why because we have men like rep. Marvin Lealh d Texas in Congress. The same Man who voted to raise Congress salary the same Man who voted Down the military pay raise. Now he stands to step in front or a proposal that can save us Money by using credit in our exchanges. Correct me if i am wrong but in that what the exchanges Are Tor to save us Money congressman Leath is some Bow under the impression that it is sup posed to hinder us so that private Busi Ness profits. All recruit ire told and member know that the Exchange system was established to supplement military salaries and is an integral part of our morale and welfare Benefit not Only by saving us Money but by helping to establish More facilities on our bases through mar. Obviously the congressman s stand is simple. He would rather see the private sector businessmen around bases Benefit instead of the military member. These Are the tame businessmen who prey on the military member by raising Price Sand offering credit at ridiculous interest rates became they have nowhere else Togo and the Exchange does not offer credit by the Exchange offering to accept major credit card t military member May be Able to Purchase something he or the normally would t be Able to Fork out Cash of. Saving the member Money by not having to use local  the congressman know that by More military members saying Money inthe exchanges using credit cards they will also have More Money to spend in the private sector for things that the Exchange does not offer granted business around bases May drop slightly but in t it Worth it to see that the morale and welfare of our fighting forces increase thin to put a few More pennies in the pockets of businessmen around our bases these Are the same businessmen who would not have a business if it weren t for our bases. It is High time leaders in Washington Start pulling their proverbial Heads out and Stan listening to the plight of its fighting forces. It seems that every time we Lake two Steps Forward someone is always there to push us one Back. When that inevitable War is facing us and it is time for us to fight to keep that red Flag from flying Over our Heads god forbid that we Are still being pushed Back. If that is to be the Case then congressman Leath you d better like Bochl. . David b. Be Messer Prem As Germany editor s note rep. Martin Leath a Texas replies As you an Ware tic hone armed service committee has approved Thede Feam department s proposal to Abow the use of credit cards b Post and but exchanges. In spite of my opposition to the proposal at is. Buses the decision has been made and i will not attempt to impede implementation. I am most hopeful that previous Esti mates indicating failure rate of 10 percent of the local Small retail Busi Nesses relying upon credit card sales will not materialize. The Impact on Community ill Leary relations would be det stat lift. However the Exchange system lady caled that its Gross sales should jump a High As 35 percent As the result of this initiative. Thai represents a pretty significant shift in buying patterns and it can Only come from one place the local Community. So you see. I find myself in a position of attempting to serve he interests of two entities a this situation. I certainly Hare an obligation to support the enters of the armed services Aad there ire fewer la Cofren who qualify As a stonger supporter than i. I also hate a Obj Njoo to Brake Sun that Congress us the armed services committee understand the potential Impact of their decisions on the communities that co exist with our military installations. S know from experience that a Good military chilian rom Small relationship b beneficial to both parties. I Don t want to be that Datto Ashly jeopardized. Don t let problems spoil your tour. Rial court that the oct. 5 ride Over the Horseshoe Falls was a tem fyme sex Peri ence which he has no desire to repeat. A Short time ago a letter from a wife living in Germany and facing problems made an feel like writing to you about life in Sunn  in Short if you Are Lucky enough to get base housing you Are somewhat protected from the prejudice although one does Bearoff people having their bags snatched while in a store or a Brick thrown through their Windshield just for the hell of it. But if you live off base like the majority of enlisted personnel it can be a different Story. We Are among Many who have been ver Bally abused. We have had our car scratched with keys and Naib and most recent your Home was ransacked and we lost Many personal things. The base police made out the Standard forms and payment was made to help Cushion the blow but of course now i am afraid to leave the House for fear of another robbery. I was Only gone one hour the last time. What really amazed me was the total Lack of any Effort by the local authorities to apprehend the criminals. In fact the item we gave them to test for fingerprints vanished from police custody i have tried to adopt a positive attitude but with Yankee go Home scrawled on Walls and the anti american rallies held regularly around Pur main Gate i must con fess my strength is waning. Why is nothing done to protect us better when overseas in unfriendly countries Why arc these people allowed to go unpunished for tormenting us emotionally and hating us sometimes physically if our government insists on sending us into these countries it must provide better housing and policing and if it s a dangerous assign ment have the guts to say so Eileen taken Psia Zaragoza Spain editor s note col John Cran Skog com Sander 406th tac fighter tra Ting Wing. Zanoza Spain replies your letter was relayed to me from the stars and stripes without any clue As to which base la Spain you come from. There an no Aitt Americus rallies held regularly around our main  nevertheless win attempt to answer your questions. I m sorry that your experience in Spain has been an and lashing one. I can Only say that most of the people stationed at Zara Goza a find it to be one of Ibe Best Tours they re had. And for Good reason. The spaniards of the Aragon Region Are a warm and courteous people. Compared Toavs. City of its size about 850,000zaragoza seems very Safe. I have to admit though that not every one appreciates americans neither Here in Spain nor in other countries. And yes vandalism and robberies do occur. My advice to you is be angry but Don t Lei it continue and thus sour you whole Lour. Any victim of a crime should feel frustrated. Here Are some additional tips that should help you realize that Graffiti Britt Long to americans b not the by product of Ibe majority of spaniards. Even if the Graffiti reflected the prevailing political sentiment most spaniards would be mature enough to understand that this b counterproductive. The vast vast majority of spaniards respect you As an individual and As an american. Make your residence As crime proof As possible. Even spaniards Are very conscientious about this. Come in and talk to our Spanish Liaison office personnel about your prob lems. They will help you work with the Spanish police about your problems. Make Spanish friends. I m glad you mentioned prejudice because the sure Signor it b when a group of people Are feared and distrusted beyond remedy. Your fears May backfire of you. Take some conversational language courses of base. This will help you to understand spaniards an make it easier to establish Booe social contacts we All need. Maybe Ihbe web make your Ewig Bors Tore protective of your property. You see Spain b a we and not me society. Co ahead. Ii can t Hurt. We cannot provide housing for each family stationed Here the Cost would be too great Spanish police protect us off base to the Best of their ability. I know that they re infinitely Nore cooperative than your letter implies. Again i m very sorry that you Hare experienced such Nofort acutes and i personally want to know Bow your situation Progress so i can help the Best i can. Please Don t let your disappointment turn Lato cynicism. I care. Your government cares. And both will help you Cope. Coma pc Percy s. I Aksum. Us Deputy editor m cum  production manager Menes to de. Ctr Uwom Mei Egei this newspaper b m Eula tried unofficial pumice Tom Ler it moors of the Mulery serves oversees. Contents of the stars and Uriot Era nol necessarily it Model a text of or endorsed by tha . Gevana Iem. The department of defense or the . European command. The to Pei Erica of advertising kits pub Sefton. Indus ing inserts or suppl Monts dots nol constitute endorsement by the department of detente or the stars end stripes Al the products or services advertised. Everything advertised in is Oum Canon Shel be Mode Evan Aba Tor Purchase use. 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