European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 22, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse Tips about having a famous wife1 Tiffany s first head of Public relations social Secretary Al the us. Embassy in Paris and assistant 1o . Ambassador Clare Doolie Luce in Rome in 1964. She started Letitia Baldrige enterprises a new York based marketing and Public relations firm and has Rillon nine books. Her latest Book is Lel Llla Baldrige s Complete guide to executive manners Rawson associates s22.95. Bob has always been his own Man Baldrige says on the longevity of her marriage. He has his own on the Lew occasions when he is called or. Baldrige. She says Hollensteine lather Olner two grown children does t gel upset. Bob married me fresh from the White House and was used 10 my being in the limelight. A never asked me about the White House personalities. He could really care less. That does t impress him at a blending of ego in t the Only Issue that must be worked out Between husbands and High visa Bitely wives child rearing can be a Bone of Contention i have mixed feelings says a successful architect married to a woman partner in a top Chicago Law firm. On one hand i pm delighted that my wife has a very fulfilling and worthwhile career. On the other hand 1 believe we give up something As a family unit with my wife being so much of a Fusi time career i m All for Equality but i Don t think the sexes Are identical continues the architect. I think the needs a child has for a Mother Are different than a child has for he lather. T would rather see my lie Home More with the baby. I m not saying give up her career i m saying work maybe 25 to 30 hours a his male ego in t bruised by his wife s Stellar accomplishments "90 percent o the time. Ten percent of the Lime it bothers me. I have a very successful and Lull and interesting career and there Are times Whan i feel that Penl Cular Endeavor of my life is diminished by the lad that my wife shares thai limelight with me. Bui for the most part i m proud of her ambitious women Conley plating marriage should put All Ihler cards on the table before they do advises Bald la. Tell the Man ii you marry me you Are marrying somebody who has tremendous career Compromise is the glue thai keeps a two profession marriage cohesive agrees Washington attorney James Schroeder. As the husband of rep. Plancia Schroeder a Colo. He finds he has had to be flexible and available. In the Early Days my career was the primary career Whon my Wile was elected to Congress in 1972there was a shift and hers became the primary career which meant i ended up making More it was Tough earlier in our marriage when we isl came to Washington and the children were two and six. To had to scramble a lot says Schoeder a senior partner in the Law firm rut join and Vecchry. He met the congresswoman while they were both students at Harvard Law school. Their kids Are now 15 and 19. Her schedule ranks among the busiest in Congress. A founder and co chair of the congressional caucus on women s issues Schroeder is running Lor re election and serves on the demanding armed services committee. She invented the term " he Tellon president to describe Reagan s ability to sail through Crisses with no blame stuck on him. In a two profession Home one partner has to accept a subordinate role says lawyer Schroeder secondly where you have somebody in the Public Eye of politics i think the Oiler parly has to understand All that it entails. For example i see some political spouses who really Don t like politics and those Are the people who tend to be unhappy. I be alway been interested in politics. Finally you have to have your own Independent career with your own when he is introduced � Pat Schroeder s husband he claims to fee Only Pride we say that Pat has gone a Long Way on my the Star Quality of Strong women can be enhanced or deflated by their husband s behaviour toward them in Public says Cal Tierone Johnson of los Angeles who holds a . In communications and frequently writes on psychological issues if a husband acts too masculine hell overshadow her. If he s too feminine or wimpy hell make her look like a Seys Johnson author of an article on the executive husband that appeared in december s working woman Magazine. His Mission should he choose to accept it. Is to come of totally and completely supportive without appearing Blake Carfin Glon types the Well Why pal Reaich on to s dynasty need not apply. When Iho couple is out Al quasi professional gatherings the husband can t be utterly in charge playing the classic role of husband protector 01 his Wile s career is not going to to taken in he s Rich and flashy the wife s credibility slips further adds Johnson. There is a woman hero in Hollywood who has a Good position at a a or production company and her husband is very wealthy. Everybody knows him. And she s generally not taken seriously like a Rich wife who collects Art she s considered a Rich Wile who dabbles in Johnson was inspired to study the executive husband because of her own marriage to a Urcla professor a Man who is very Good Al working the room a husband who does your or Al a party is an asset. A lot of them won t. There Are Guys who will tall asleep at company parties thai can be a real problem Lor the executive Wile. If you be got one of those the Best approach might be to leave him Al president Reagan would be a horrible executive husband predicts Johnson because of his matronly attitude toward his wife. Ii Nancy were trying to become a career woman at this juncture her husband would be a liability she says. Because he s always sort of touching her Back touching her Elbow and treating her As if she needs guidance. Now if he were married to barbra Streisand he might be an asset because then he d be toning her Down. Sho so intense and seemingly psychologist Brad Blanton s practice at his Center for Well being in Washington. . Is predominantly two career couples largely lawyers. When patients talk about Power struggles at Home it s usually a powerlessness struggle that does t have too much to do with professions says Blanton. The truth is nobody can take any steam out of anybody else s act. It s a hollow complaint. Iii hear. I can t take ii because my Wile is More powerful than mein May be True but it s not because of her Job. It s because of his sense of powerlessness in the Lisl place so that s what we work on. If a Guy has a problem with insecurity he would have the problem whether he had a High powered wife or Nee novels manage his wife s career. Sommerfield says her books most of which Are set in 18th and 19th Century America Are neither glitzy pieces designed to Shock nor historical treatises aimed to educate. Historical Romance Reading is she says. I am entertaining Sommerfield says a Taw people have commented of you write those but she says. I Don t write anything i m Esha Merj of. I keep it sex As clean As possible. The context is love Honor respect and because of her increasingly Busy writing career. Som Merifeld is spending less time these Days at the Beauty Salon. She s whittled her workload to about a dozen Long time customers and plans to turn the business Over to an employee Al tha end of the year. She still lives in the Century old Home in att y Edinburg where her husband was born and she Siim enjoys darning socks baking Broad Canning jellies and babysitting her grandchildren. Sommerfield Rales her health and family far above her writing and monetary gains. Her 1980 operation she said opened her eyes. You Don t live in a Lan lasy world any a b of 1ha it jolts you to the Point where you realize life Doest end Updike this All the time she says holding up one of her novels. But if you want to relax and enjoy it any nol let it happen Between the pages of a Boon. ,
