European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 18, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday february 18, 1966 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers regarding await ing a reply in  on How to re cover from an affair with a married Man i m no psychologist but the following might work for others. It worked forme. An affair is some thing believe it or not one has psyche oneself into intentionally or unintentionally because of a need to be paid attention to or a rebelling against something. If you can psych yourself into it you should be Able to psych yourself out of it one must work through the process by facing the. Anger resentment grief and the sense of loss following the breakup the tame As after a divorce or a death. Get angry but use the anger in a positive Way. Ast yourself Why am i letting this Man manipulate me Why am i not master of my Fau and Captain of my destiny Don t try to Block out the Rosy moments wave shared. They will return. Look at the relationship realistically in the Light of the Day to Day routine. Ask yourself if such passion could be sustained in the face of difficult demands of married life. Common sense will Tell you that passions Cool. Life must be lived in a practical Way. You must get out of bed sooner or  first you May doubt that this process will work. Keep at it it will. Remember you be spent a lot of time and Energy fanta sizing and building up the Man As you romantic Ideal. You now must exert As much Energy dismantling it and laying it Forest like the Corpse that it is. I am signing myself one who did it thank the lord dear one you nuke a lot of Muse lady i Hope the women who need your advice will take i dear Ann Landers i was widowed recently. I was not left Well provided for but neither am i Desti tute. How do i Deal with a Well meaning Friend who inputs on sending me food thatis partly used and Freezer burned i be also received baked goods from her that were failures things she would never serve her own family. I need your advice an not starving in Wyoming dear Wyo Tell her poli by Lett p"11accepting food when so Nany people Are hungry. Suggest that she Icek Oit Tome families who an truly in need. Dear Ann Landers a woman in our group declined dessert when we were dining out. She asked in Stead for a tall Glass of ice cubes. When it arrived she commenced to chomp on the ice with her Teeth then tried to use a Tablespoon to crack the ice into smaller pieces. It did t work so she wrapped the cubes i her Napkin and banged it on the a he Racket created a Good bit of Atten Tion. The head waiter said nothing but was visibly upset. I was ashamed to be in the 8ljuoelieve the woman s behaviour was the ultimate in bad manners and said so. My husband put me Down for being super letters . T so and. A if is Den rate for attention. Poor thing. She is also for dental problem., according to Borcau no children policies at of gyn clinic explained i have been Here for two months an enjoy most of the military services. 1 was Here one week though and needed to go tothe doctor. I called ahead and asked if i could Comein that morning since i was bringing my daughter in to Sec the paediatrician Shewaun t sick it was just a conference to let the doctor know of her chronic lung prob lems and was t told i could t bring her. While wailing to Sec the doctor i was approached by the nurse and told i could t see the doctor As Long As i had the baby with me. She gave me a list of babysitters and sent me on my  went out into the Hall and cried. I knew not one person in Hanau or anywhere and my husband was in the Field. I was expected to just pick a name on the list Call them up and ask them to keep my child for 2 to 3 hours at least a one hour waiting time in of gyn fora five minute exam. I needed to find someone by the next morning because 1 was in pain so i could t be too choosy. I feel that if the dispensary does t wan children there unless they Are being seen by a doctor they should provide child care for those of us who can t find someone on Short notice or Don t know of  can understand their Point of View that pregnant women Are susceptible to viruses carried by children. But i feel that if they can t provide child care on the premises then parents should be informed As soon As they get to Germany that they need to Finda baby Sitter As soon As possible instead of waiting until a medical need  the army really cares about the family they should t make the family choose be tween medical care and child care. And they should care How the child feels having to bereft with a total stranger within one week of arriving in a strange country and seeing father she does t remember since it had been 10 months since she d seen him los maybe if the patient did t have to wait an hour or so to be seen they would t have to worry about being exposed to diseases. Name withheld Hanau Germany editor s note col. John s. Par Ker surgical consultant 7lh medical come replies Yew letter addresses More than one Tea. As Rue surgical consultant 7lbmedical come i will address Only the Issue that pertains to not allowing your child in the of can clinic. This policy addresses the possible risk of transmitting the rubella or other viruses to expectant mothers. Children who Dis play no observable symptoms potentially represent a Large Reservoir for the virus Sand Are excellent transmitters because of their Normal activities. Obstetricians Are concerned with the Rabell and other viruses. We know that exposure and infection can be related to birth defects. All pregnant mothers Are checked Early in heir pregnancy to see i they Are Rabella antibody positive or negative and treated accordingly. You have truck Driver wants to drive trucks i have been in Neu Ulm for about four months now and i think it s great Over Here. I know that service members have their Upland Downs no matter where you go. I left fort Hood Texas and a very great transportation unit. It s a heavy equipment operation unit dealing with the m9ii Chet. As for being a 64c10 they trained us from driving trucks to Abc training. When was in the 96th trans co i got into my work and worked hard at  i am stuck Over Here in an infantry unit and the Only thing i am doing is group l Tuuling 5-ton vehicles for ii Bra Vav a that happened to the saying be ally in can be if i am a 64c, what am i do is com Inlo roid in Pon poll from Spain Ond Lolita amoral i. My Ito bin a dude of Ravonne Portt. Ond Road no i my of rom and a vary vary Llella Tut of Span Lui. Ill it. Donald Kafar . To in Iii Tara co Apo . , ohm i took Forward to recanting i would Uka Pon pan. I am 41 Yawara old and a widow. My hot Oak Ara male Moolorx walking and Bowling. Franna Panna 1a Gordon plat sunny Ink essentially slated this in your letter an seem to understand ibis preventive medical policy very wed. The majority of oar specially clinks Are smal and there is a space Proem. We have difficulty accommodating the father who wishes to accompany the expectant Mother i our of gyn clinics Walling rooms. We Are also concerned for the safely of your child. Who would watch the child during your examination the ancillary support staffing in most of oar Cocks not Only of gyn is minimal and certainly not Able to watch children in the clinic. One More Point needs to be stated that is not often recognized. When you and the doctor Are together both parties should devote 100 percent attention to each other. The distraction of a child on. Your Lap or playing on the floor can make the visit unsatisfactory. This is your personal time with the doctor and we encourage you to make maximum use of its benefits. A our of gyn clinics Are very crowded. I empathize with you about the Long wait for the five minute Exa Matlon. There Are a multitude of excuses for these delays and none Are really satisfactory when you Are the one  the physicians and nurses in each clinic Are sensitive to this and an not intentionally doing this to you As an individual patient. Perhaps Mother Wejman was delivering unexpectedly or there was an emergency surgery and the physician who would have been in the can la got called away. I strongly recommend that Yon raise the baby Sll tug. Hourly and Dally cold care and in formation issues to your . Thes Cwan England capt Mia k. Patterson. Ush editor to cum Csc Jep Prev s. Zakem us r of pouty Tarn to  Slack Well m Macro a Mon Onorr production minitor managing de. 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