European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 26, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday May 26, 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 Arm landers1 dear readers recently a woman from Mobile Ala wrote los a she had read a great Deal about now parents isl Cope with the suicide St of their children hut s she had meter seen i. Anything by children or whom parents hid killed themselves. Please ask your j readers hot they dealt with ills tragedy she wrote i need  i was staggered by the responses. The letters were extremely poignant and insightful. Here Are some excerpts from Chicago maybe i can help the woman in Mobile. My dad picked father s Day to kill him self. His Choice of the Date i Felt carried a special message for me. I was his Only child. After my parents were divorced i saw very Little of dad but la was his Choice not mine. Almost every attempt i made was rebuffed. When we were together he did everything possible to make me feel Rotten. His suicide sent me into a Hel Lish depression. Thank cod i found a mar Velous therapist who helped me understand thai i must not let my father punish me from the grave As he did in life i owe my sanity to that wonderful psychiatrist. From Tucson Ariz my Mother killed herself eight years ago when i was 16. She had made several at tempts but we always managed to get her to the Hospital in time. I knew one Day she would succeed but when it happened i was nol prepared for the Shock. Our family doctor pulled me through. He made me understand that if a person is determined to end it All nothing can be done to change he course of events. From Minneapolis Minn my Mother in Law shot herself on Christmas Day. She left behind a husband who blamed himself unjustifiably Chil Dren who were devastated because they had no idea she was contemplating such a thing and grandchildren who keep asking if suicide is hereditary. No one can under stand Why she did it. How sad that she did t stick around to enjoy her Beautiful grandchildren especially the one who looks exactly like Hen she would have in so proud from new Orleans four years ago my Mother took 150 sleeping pills and died in the night. Three months later my father hanged trims air in the garage. I was the eldest child and my reaction was tremendous rage. How could they have left me with the response Billy of raising three younger Brothers our pastor a woman pulled me through. She coun seed me four times a week for 2 a years. I am no longer angry. Just sad. I am also convinced thai anyone who lakes his or her life is mentally ill. From Sacramento j tried suicide twice but i la never try it again because of what a woman wrote in news week. Anne Grace Scheinin a manic depressive like her Mother tried several limes to kill herself. When her Mother was found dead of asphyxiation in the garage she vowed she would go on living no matter what. Her words con Vinced me thai i would too Here  suicide does t end pain to Only lays it on tic broken shoulders of those left behind. From Denver i was 13 when my Mother killed herself. For 14 years my attitude was pure hostility she did l need me so i Don t need  i my abandoned. After  � Good marriage i finally decided i needed help. My therapist was terrific. After two months he advised me to go to my Mother s grave cuss her out and then say 1 love you anyway. Mom i did Jusi that and it was a miraculous cure for my sick soul. I recommend this to Mobile la made a different person out of me. Force reasons behind parking shortage at the Exchange my husband and i recently went to the Frankfurt Exchange to buy a couple of video cassettes from the audio video shop. We Rode around for j5 minutes and ended up leaving empty handed and. A Little hat under the Collar. This is Noi the first time this has happened. Usually if we can t find i place to Park i will run Inlo the store and gel what we need while my husband circles around the lot but this Lime we could t because my husband had to gel what we needed himself and t Don t drive. Even if i did drive i still would have been in the same predicament if i had been alone. So we decided to drive around a one More time and if we did t. Find a parking place we would Jusi spend More Money and get it on the Economy. As i said before we left empty handed. We started talking about the inconvenience of trying to find a parking place when you Only need two or three items. We have even parked outside the Gate and walked to the Exchange but even this can be a problem at times. We had the. Idea that it would be a lol nicer and More convenient if there were a dozen or so 20-minute parking spaces. I Don t care if it s Way Over by the ice Cream shop so Long As there is somewhere to Park. I see maps walking around the parking lot All the Lime giving tickets so this should not he Loo hard to enforce. Also arc All at the reserved parking splices necessary i have never seen More than one or two cars in them at one Lime. Any information on this would be greatly appreciated by a Tot of irate shoppers who Aren t Picky where they Park As Long As it does t take longer to find a place than it takes to get Whai they need from the store. Pamela a sprabery Frankfurt editor s note staff sri. P Thomas w. Martz operations Coic Frankfurt military Community Replis Slunec the bombing in november 1985, the shopping Center has gone through some drastic chances in traffic Law and rear ranging of parking spaces. We had to make the changes not of our own Choice but on behalf of the German police and the maps to enable maximum Security for american families and soldiers. The Frankfurt shopping Center is one at the Rosm foiled by routers and families from All Over Germany which makes the parking problem All the More difficult. To help in this matter 1 would like to make some suggestions for people who live in the Frankfurt area and outside the Frankfurt Reader is tired of complaints i am writing in response to most of the letters printed regarding the Quality of Mili tary life. Complaints complaints my father served 20 years in the army and is a government employee. All you people who think you or your spouse can make s30.000-j40.000 outside the military phooey Why Don t you get out of the army and make your big Bucks you be got it Good where you Are so take my advice Lay Back and accept the facts. Where on the outside will a Job pay a decent retirement after Only 20 years of service where on the outside Wilt your employer give you a Home to live in or bad to live where you please and one More thing. 1 Don t want to hear another complaint about military hospitals. It seems that every Lime 1 read letters la the editor someone is putting Down the service at the hospitals. Well let me Tell you civil Ian hospitals Are no better. I Loo used to complain about some of the services. A few years ago i entered the emergency room fit a civilian Hospital with extreme abdominal pains. The reason i went to a civilian Hospital was because it was closer and i believed i d be taken care of immediately because of the condition i was  waiting an hour in the main wait ing room 30 minutes in the waiting room Down the Hall and another 30 to 45 minutes in 1he doctor s office i was finally taken care of. For a week i went through series of tests and they took blood every Day. Do you know that Whort i left they still weren t sure what the problem was i no longer complain Toboul military hospitals. I won t even mention the outrageous Hospital Bills. Hooray to those who Are glad they joined the service and Aren t complaining every time they turn around Diana Malsano Winterhack Germany for families or soldiers within the Frank Furt area who Are not making Largo Pur chases at the Exchange or commissary i would like to suggest the mass transit sys tem far transportation to and from the Exchange area. The of Bahn slaps it the Exchange am and the bus system has several stops near the shopping Center. For Millers and families outside the Frankfurt arcs t would like to suggest the Frankfurt military Community parking lot which is one Block from the Exchange area. Id cards and registration will be required to Park in this area again this is for individuals not making Large purchases at the Exchange or commissary. As for the id minute parking spaces to would be a Good idea if we had the room and the maps to enforce it at the present Lime there arc not enough maps available to have one or two maps dedicated to enforce ibis Arn due to the upgrading of Security. Also the main parking lot has � three hour time limit for parking which is enforced a much As possible to enable More people to Park. The reserved parking spaces have been Cut Down to a hire minimum to also free up parking spaces for shoppers. I Hope this information will help you in understanding the problems we Are going through Tihe shopping Center and that my suggestions will help the shoppers in the Frankfurt area and visitors in knowing other Means of transportation and parking near the Exchange Iren. No fee passport policy explained i am newly arrived in Germany and As a family member a passport was required. When 1 first came to Germany years ago i obtained my passport through a . Post office stateside and paid a fee. At our last duty station i received my new passport through the army travel Sec Tion with ibis statement on the Back this passport is mid for use in connection with the bearer s residence abroad As a dependent of a member of the american military or naval farces on Active duty jul Side the Continental limits of the United  can someone explain to Alt concerned Why we have to be labelled in this Way especially since the terrorist situation in t looking any belter in the world. I would have gladly paid a fee solely not to have this on my passport. I received my passport too late to Correct the situation stateside but i Ptan to obtain another passport through the is. Embassy Here. Pen pals i am � or kit did Corn from o Nal la my i. Iam a flan col Coli Star. T Waum Kab in car mend Ullh Popie All Oval ii world. Victoria Casum Sompin Rongland Beierly l. Cooley Mainz Al then Germany editor s note chief warrant officer Daniel Olson army personnel Branch he . Neucom replies from the information provided it appears Hal the letter writer was issued a no fee pass port. Army regulation 600-290 requires All co Matul sponsored family members to obtain separate no fee passports for travel in conjunction Ullh reassignment overseas. The no fee passport identifies the better As an official traveler. It is issued for specific purposes and can Only be used under Ibe conditions of restrictions specified in be passport. Family members Ullh no fee passports who Are on assignment outside the United slates normally do not need to obtain regular pass ports for incidental personal traits Homer if Ibe bearer of no fee passport does not desire id use the passport for personal travel by cant it identifies tic Barer m military family member a regular fee passport must be of Bawd Al personal expense. It should be noted that not ill countries accept no fee passports. 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