European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 18, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Koreans who take care of their own Byton Nauroth staff writer Yong Harris had been in Germany loss than to weeks and Sha was scared and lonely thai changed when All of a sudden i was surrounded by a whole Grove of women tha women were koreans married 1o american military men. The members of Iho korean Assembly of god have a practice of watching the guesthouses and hotels in the Kallenbach Ansbach and Nurnberg areas Lor new korean arrivals. They found Harris in the bavarian american Hole in downtown Niernberg the korean Community lakes care of their  said her husband. Stall sgt. Jeff Harris of Iho 6th in 14th Field arty based in Zirn Dori it makes me tee More comfortable knowing that Miyong will have someone to talk to if she needs help while i m out in the Field. I be of in Iho Licud a  the congregation numbering about 30, meets in a Small Chapel at Johnson Barracks in Forth. Another group of 30 meets in the Katterbach Chapel about an hour s drive Southwest of Nurnberg. Pastor Kim Chung Soo watches Over his flock and circuit tides or ought the Community to see to their spiritual needs. Kim said when women find the Church group they All him. I feel Fika i be met with my parents and Brothers and Sisters again he estimates there Are about 2.000 korean military family members living in Germany. Kim is one of 50 korean posters serving them and 1he native koreans not attached to the . Military. Those include some of the 10,000 korean women brought to Germany in the Early 1970s to to in hospitals under a contract Between his two governments he said. About 5.000 men arrived at the same time to work in Coal mines. The established support network of korean women living in the Community several of whom Are married to germans lends a hand to newcomers Kim said. The Grove of women who found Miyong Harris Patto Kim Chung sea Lotttie korean att ably of were instrumental in helping the family find a Home. Other support from the group involves religion culture and where to find Oriental food shops. Jeff Harris said seeking out a Church Community is one of the easiest ways of finding other koreans. We did the same thing when we arrived at fort Bragg n c four years ago and ii worked he said. In bad Kreuz Nach Sunok Sorden discovered an extended family in a Bible study group. When i first got Here i was so sad to lonely. I Ell Lika i wanted to go Back to America said the korean trapped in abusive marriages . Staff writer Ssan women due to the male Bias of their cultures tend to be More accepting of spouse abuse because they View the action As the husbands right said a woman who has counselled the victims. In addition asian women who Are abused by their military husbands can be virtually trapped by their alien status and the cultural differences said Mary Harris who has a . In counselling psychology and is director of the family support Center at Rhein main a Germany. Asian spouses Are More limited than american women in knowing How to use available resources which increases their feelings of loneliness and isolation. Harris said. And a victim of spouse abuse who has been ostracized by her family because of her marriage to an american or who cannot return to her Home country has even ewer resources than most Western women. Maria Brown a filipino married to an air Force no at Rhein main has a Friend trapped in an abusive marriage. My Friend Back in the states was always threatened by her husband ii you 1ell a soul if you Lei anybody what i have done to you i la Send you Back to the. Philippines " Brown said. Women in that position think they have no Choice that the alternative is to go Back to the Philippines and be a housemaid so they stay and take the abuse. It s a threat that hangs Over her head so she lives with it Brown said. Cultural biases against divorce also can tend to trap women in an abusive marriage. It s a korean custom never to gel divorced said Sunok Sorden a korean married to an army no in bad Kreuz Nach Germany. A woman belongs to her Man. Ii the Man Dies the woman must slay and take care of the  Harris counselled one asian wife who left her husband and returned to the United slates. But she was very concerned about being a woman without a country Harris said. She could t go Back Home and she did t have Job skills to do anything except waitressing. She was worried about what kind of Job she could get to support her  while none of the asian women interviewed for the articles in this report said they had experienced abuse most were Well aware of some of the problems which could Lead to abuse. In the filipino culture Lor example men Are considered Superior while a woman is usually a second Rale  Brown said. Male children Are preferred Over girls she said Wilh filipinos influenced by the Spanish of course the Man can slay out with the boys but the woman can t. The woman if she stays out drinking with the ladies is not a lady Brown said. The woman gives him the Powei. So if he decides to hurl her then the woman says Well it s of. He brings in the bread. He supports us. If he wants to beat a up once in a while it s of she gives him the Power in a sense and the Man knows  in the Philippines windows Are open year round and you can hear everything that goes on in the House she said. It you hear someone beating up on a woman nobody Wilf Call the police. Nobody.  because their society has taught women that abusive behaviour is acceptable Between spouses the women and heir neighbors May not Challenge it. Sometimes they won t come around unless he starts abusing the children that s not  Harris said. Oriental women who become westernized after marrying an american and moving to the United slates often have problems if their husbands Don t grow with them in their changing attitudes towards themselves and their roles in the marriage Harris said. Goa of tha expectations of a Western Man who marries an asian woman is that she is going to be docile and  the Counselor said. And sometimes she s hat Way for the first to or three years and then she becomes americanized. So he s  asian women have certain cultural Nofe expect Liana of the Man also Harris said. The expectation is that the male is definitely going to be the head of the household and make a lot of decisions and be the patriarch As far As the kids go but the american culture has in recent years emphasized equal roles for men and women in families and in other areas. The resulting Lack of decisiveness in the male May be a disappointment to an asian woman. Military men who marry asian women tend to fit a certain profile. Karris said Basing her statement on information published in an air Force handbook on by cultural marriages. Tha men Are often unsure of themselves and took to Page 14 the stars and stripes