European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - July 29, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Magazine breathing space and Mutual support Byton Nauroth staff writer Etty officer 3 c Marcia Rambin Dis Ltd her lust in of cappuccino in inc bar of the Amenn Holo in Naples Nlaly. She wont up Toner Liny room tested the unfamiliar Rock hard bed changed her mind and strolled Oul onto the Balcony jus hours Bolo o r to Vas on a plane that brought her to this terrible place As she then called Naples Sho looked Over inc Balcony railing Down onto inc piles of garbage laying Seigo to the Basel Tho hotel. Thai s when she began to cry. I Felt so abandoned said Tho 23-year-old Sailor from Darten wis she was t alone her husband. Petty Otic i 2 c Kenneth Rambin shared that same cramped hotel room Wilh her 01 one month. It became a marital pressure cooker we almost killed each other said Kenneth. 25. From Austin. Texas every time we d tie our shoes we d bump Inlo each other a marriage needs More breathing space to work it was a bad beginning for their tour of duly a 11 to naval support a Lively in Naples. But hey say it was their common ground As sailors that helped them Cope Wilh an environment ihc1/ found so Loreign and with a three year old marriage that had it been weaker would have shattered. A i i blamed everything on him because tie dragged me Over Here Marcia said we even talked of divorce " but they did Lalk. And worked to stretch their breathing space now she works out doing curls on Nautilus exercise machines he does 12-ounce curls with the Guys in the club she shows her engish Cocker Spaniel. In at dog shows Wilh her Good italian trend Maria sets Giuili  and trios his hand at a variety of other hobbies. She works a straight shift he s on a swing shift. They be created breathing space. The rambles moved into an old House in Castlo Volturno just around the Corner irom american leased housing in pin Lamara it s a targe Green and while two Story Homo in need of paint plaster and repairs Bui Marcia s View Over this Balcony includes Rose and Oleander Bushes and fragrant Lemon Trees. The improved View however Only took some of the pressure  faced a Lough Job.  labor. Because she was a non rated Sailor she was assigned to what Sho called slave work scraping sanding painting and shining a 36-foot boat used for  Lun Lions and ship visits by High ranking officers. Non rated seamen occupy the Bottom two rungs of the promotion ladder until i Heygen a Job specially they Are used Lor Many necessary hut often distasteful Obs i came Home with bleeding hands and Soro Sis pt-010 by ton Nacho Hkenneth Marcia Rambin both in the Navy of the feel they can Cope better than those in a mixed marriage. Muscles Marcia said and i heard All about  Kenneth said. He understood what it was like having Gene through similar hardships at the beginning o his career. But service members Are used to taking it " Kenneth said. I Whir living hero is harder on a couple when Only one is in the Sci vice Marcia said. We understand Tho work schedules Sepa Lions. And pressures of the  through his encouragement Marcia finally made rate and her new Job As a personnel specialist carries a Bonus. Kenneth has easy Access la an authority on personnel questions that he might be struggling with Marcia said Sho missed her family terribly at first when she needed them the most she said she hated Naples and now will Only go so tar Aslo say the  their pressure cooker of a marriage in cramped tuesday july 29, 1986 quarters has also resulted in some adjustments in i hair personal relationship which they say is very Strong now. They mention however Hal there is always the threat of Long separations despite that looming probability a shipboard assignment is Somol Henrj  Kenneth Longs Lor the idea of military spouses experienced in Lakin it shapes i hair understanding of the stresses they lace even Long term separation. It s something they claim is handled Beller by married service members than it is in a mixed marriage. Marcia s advice to help couples through hard limes always bring a photo album of your family ill you it would Riavic made All in difference in the world if i had. And in you Don t have a Strong marriage when you come under pressure you re just nol goers a to make in " tomorrow the Ftp Stalions of try mtg Fogt ionic  the stars and stripes Page 13