European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 7, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers thursday August 1986 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers through inc years i be managed to read your column All Over the world. You have influenced Many an important decision i made in my teens and in later life As Well. This letter is in reference to the woman who resented her Hus band s in wife using their son As an in Csc to keep in touch with him. Your advice As usual was right on. F a i wailed until 34 to marry be of a cause t believed god would pro vide the right partner and was i willing to wait for him. He did. Bui Edward who had been divorced for five years came packaged with a few cd Raj three Days before we were married Edward s sex wife tried to commit suicide. It was her solution 10battling a cocaine habit that she somehow managed to hide from her family. The 15-year-old daughter reluctantly stayed with her grandmother during her Mother s . The 13-year-old boy moved permanently into my husband s Home with us immediately after our  spoiled and Lazy slept whenever and ate whatever he pleased and spent every waking minute of summer vacation in front of the to. We be been married nearly two Yean As 1 write this letter. The sex wife and her family have been through the intervention program and she has been drug free for seven months. My husband and i Are both helping her to communicate with the daughter. We know it is vital that the channels Between the three of us be kept open at All times. The boy is also shaping up. He is finally bringing Home acceptable grades and realizes hat even though we have our differences we can still be  would have been easier for me to Call it quits after iwo month of marriage but Edward and i decided to gut it out. I m glad we did because i believe we Are going to be stronger and happier As a result of what we have been through together. Just sign us rewards to come dear rewards your perseverance paid off everyone has profited. I m Awe the rewards will be Richer in years to come and your marriage will be better one because it Wai built on a foundation of Mutual support. Dear Ann Landers several years ago we adopted a child from a highly respected Agency. He is intelligent and Beautiful. Peo ple arc naturally drawn to  problem k that so Many strangers blurt out what is Hii nationality when i reply i Don know everyone has an opinion. He s hispanic Oriental or hawaiian Etc. These rash people Are con Vinced they Are , we were in a chinese restaurant where the hostess said to him she is not your Mommy. You Are chinese like  Don i know what to say to people like that. Do you at the time of the adoption we received minimal information on the biological parents. Both National Tiei were listed As  i called the Agency for additional information and was told we Don l know any More than that  the Chud is on  if additional a tons Ore asked Tony Amienee u the Best response. It can be on extremely effective put Down. Try it he asks for help for wife s reassignment i am writing this letter in Hopes that someone out there might be Able to help. I Haven t Loil Loial Faith in the army but it is getting close. My wife is stationed in ecu Ulm and i m in Augsburg. The army considers this joint domicile however she must travel More than 100 Miles a Day to and from her unit. We can t just move in Between because when i arrived Here 1 signed into a lease thinking that it would be no problem for her to be stationed in Augsburg. She is a 75b and can be utilized in almost any unit. This was not the Case. In these times of terrorism it really scares her anime that she must travel so far each Day. She has applied Tor Transfer to Augsburg found a unit that needs her had a replacement in her present unit but still her Transfer has t happened. Her command said that due to the increased threat situation they cannot Grant he Transfer. Why make her travel openly so far every Day exposing her More the Transfer would be the logical Way to reduce the  our chains of command have been no help. Con Gressmen have been no help pleas from concerned family members have been no help. Is there anyone who can help the Transfer of one person could hardly bring Usa eur to a halt. Spec. 4 Samuel Rhem. Augsburg Germany editor s note master set. David Snyder Chlof noncommissioned officer enlisted assignment division 1st personnel come replies thank Yog for giving us this Opportunity la discuss the married army coup Tei program and provide an explanation As in Why joint alignments of married army couples cannot be made automatically without regard to Force management considerations in 1983, department of the army implemented the married army couples program. Soldiers Antul been rolled in the program to be automatically considered for joint assignment on their next permanent change of Stadon without Baring in request it. First personnel come processes an average of 40 of these cast per week. When we assign married Millers to unit that ire do Mare than 50 mile apart or within one Hoar driving time this is considered a rally joint domicile assignment. Every Effort is made to assign both soldiers to the ume Community however this cannot always be accomplished my primarily because of overriding Mili tary readiness issues. Specifically it must maintain All Usa eur commands at comparable strength level according id their respective military occupational Spe Fialty and Grade requirements. When considering 80 individual  _ its involving married army members each week it is evident that these numbers could have a major readiness Impact if we disregard the personnel requirements of commands which conflict with the desires of couples to be assigned to the lame location. Notwithstanding we Are still successful in approving More than 95 percent of All married army couple actions. Regarding your spouse s situation when she was As signed to her current unit in Neu Ulm. This was the closest Usa eur vacancy for her mos. When she subsequently requested an Intra a Heitter Transfer to Augsburg in order to be assigned in the same Community with you it was disapproved because there were and still remain no vacant positions for her mos and Grade in Augsburg. 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