European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 15, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Wednesday. October 15. 1986 the stars and stripes Arm Landers dear Ann Landers please print this and save some trusting women a lot of pain. I met or. Wonderful who had been mistreated he said by two previous wives. He claimed both were frigid and the marriages were nightmares. I Felt sorry for him. We Feu in love and were married. At first we were divinely Happy. Then he began to lie to me. He became secretive hostile accusatory and stayed out All night one or two nights a week. When he drank he went crazy. Several weeks ago he became so angry he hit me with his fists. That beating put me in the Hospital. I decided i d had enough an threw him out. Shortly after i discovered Bills from Beauty Parlours tanning salons dress shops rental cars. The Bills for flow ers were in excess of $300. He also charged perfume jewelry and Luggage. None of these items were for me. I swallowed my Pride and got in touch with wife no. 2. We compared notes her experiences with the rat were the same As mine. We could t find wife no. 1 although i m sure she would have had similar stories to Tell. Wife no. 2 and i joined a support group for divorced women. We found out that our problems were not out of the Ordinary. Almost All Lousy husbands Are impotent at least half of the time at Home. They plead exhaustion prostate trouble or backaches. The truth is they Are getting sex elsewhere. My advice to a woman who takes up with a divorced Man is to have a Little visit with his former wife. I wish had. Experienced in Denver deat Denver a my idea. Ereo though the report May not be 100 percent objective it could Hare some value. And while we re m the object would Yon recommend the same for a a who Abas a marry a divorced woman i would dear Ann Landers we Are financially Able to give our daughter a Large wedding. My husband and i disagree As to the etiquette of payment for guests from the Groom s Side. We in tend to invite 1 so guests from our Side. What is our responsibility regarding the number of guests from the Groom s Side what is the Groom s financial responsibility for the wedding dinner thank you for a prompt response. Waiting at the caterers dear waiting i Hare Tome bad news for you. The Bride s parents Luton the wedding and the wedding dinner. The Groom s family is responsible for the rehearsal dinner the night before us wedding. It is polite but not mandatory to allow the Groom Side re have an equal number of nests. If you want a better authority buy Amy Vander Bill s Complete Book of etiquette by Letitia Baldrige do meday. You will find Many helpful suggestions Between those carers. It tells you everything. Dear Ann Landers How come you did t blast that Reader who criticized the men in Lincoln neb., for walking on the outside toward the Street today that s the safest place to be. Women need to be away from the alleys and the doorways where they can get  the old Days women needed to be protected against runaway horses garbage tossed out the win Dows and mud from the Carriage wheels that splattered their dresses. Today the most sensible place for a woman is on the outside. Jay from Idaho Deakid St i was told by about 5,000 readers. But i still feel ii a ease on the outside. Guess i m just a Square Dame we Tyfo too old to change. Letters smokers air different views on tobacco after Reading Lack of smoke gets in you thighs by Russell Baker i was inspired to try to Stop smoking. I expected stopping smoking would be difficult but not As difficult As it actually is. I have smoked for 20 years. The first few hours after my decision to Stop smok ing were bad enough to make a reasonably sane person a candidate for a mental institution. As the Day progressed it did t get any easier. All i wanted was a cigarette. I could t get cigarettes off my mind. Cigarettes were everywhere it seemed. I also realized Bow Well publicized cigarettes Are in the Media. I know All the quit smoking segments by heart my husband and most of my friends smoke. They have been very considerate towards me with their smoking habits. The Point is stopping smoking must be done by me alone. It does t matter if i see and smell friends cigarettes strangers cigarettes or if i a reminded of cigarettes by a quit smoking segment on the television. 1 must Deal with smoking in spite of everything i do not expect the world to Stop turning because i no longer smoke. I do not intend to crusade against smoking. I would just like to express to All you smokers out there that your habit is Safe with me. You can smoke your hearts out it won t bother me a bit. Maybe a link Judith a. Udham Suwu amt Sci Savy i have been a smoker for almost 10 years. Now thanks to the army air Force and news Media to name a few the horrors of tobacco use Are staring me in the face. In the past few weeks the stars and stripes has uncovered these startling facts the medical costs for a smoker Are about $1.55 per pack. Smokers Are More Likely to be involved in Auto Mobile accidents and More Likely to ignore traffic regulations than non smokers. Smoking not Only harms the health of the smoker but also the innocent bystander. An Berlin is currently hiring a spot that tells us smoking affects hand Eye coordination impairs night vision Etc. The big picture is there for All to see smoking is taking a staggering toll on military readiness. I can Only see one solution to a problem of this magnitude. I urge All military members and employees of the . Government to follow the Lead of our presi Dent we must now begin the War on tobacco. Many seem to believe that in the Long run tobacco is As dangerous to our country s sovereignty As cocaine and marijuana. Therefore let us not flinch but use those same tactics outlined by president Reagan and his task Force use the armed forces to search for and destroy tobacco Fields within our nations Borders. Use the armed forces to Stop the importation of tobacco products into our Homes and schools. An automatic death penalty for Selling tobacco to minors or near school grounds. Testing All Federal employees for tobacco use White they re donating their urine Why not. For the record i Challenge the military to meet this threat with bold action. If they Are serious about Bow deadly and damaging tobacco really is to our military readiness then i la fight against tobacco with them. But if All they Are going to do is attack the consumer and leave their producers and distributors free to de stroy our fighting Force. Well then i la be outside having a cigarette. Sgt Paul r. Mata Berlin relax space a dress code says Reader i would like to respond to a recent letter by the army first sergeant who complained about the military uniform violations he cited during a military space available flight to the United states. As a fellow service member i too am concerned about maintaining proper standards of appearance. However this sergeant stated that while flying As a passenger aboard a military flight to the United states he made numerous on the spot corrections of servicemen who were in violation of military appearance standards. Anyone who has Ever travelled space available knows that the flights Are often very Long and Confin ing. Passengers Are weary from lengthy Waits in Mac terminals. Many Are returning from leave and have not had time to get a haircut. I m sure that the passengers this first sergeant corrected who were probably trying to sleep saw Noth ing unethical about loosening their ties or maybe unbuttoning a top Button for the sheer purpose of a Little Relief from what was otherwise a Stuffy cramped environment. It should also be noted that this took place in the confines of the air planes. Not what most people would Call a Drill pad. If i were one of those passengers on that particular flight i would thank that sergeant for flying United next time.  Douglas Parker Zaragoza Spain writer notes principals support for sacs i would like to clarify some issues raised in a recent article. The article was the result of an interview be tween myself and a stars and stripes staff writer. The school advisory committees Sac chartered by Congress in 1981, have become a positive Force in most Dodd schools. This has been accomplished in Large part because school principals have cooperated with and stimulated parents teachers and military personnel to provide a forum where significant educational issues can be addressed. Principals have not been blocks to Sac As the headline implied. While some principals were concerned in the begin Ning that their leadership would be threatened Over 90 percent of them today enthusiastically support die work of these councils. Sacs were meant to be a partnership of All people interested in school improvement and that is exactly what has happened Dodds Germany s investment in annual Irani Buffor Sac members since the inception of the Law Ioos trates the importance placed by school officials on the school advisory committee. School principals too have demonstrated their Uri Erest and to acc n Mak ing sacs work. Howard Hokey Kalau state a Emily european edition it col Suzanne 1_ Phillips. Usan acting editor in Chloel Marie Koui Uick Yert Proctor Deane b. 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