European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 20, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday october 20, 1980 the stars and stripes Page it Arm Landers dear Ann Landers those letters from children whose parents committed suicide troubled me became 1 plan o kill myself who t am widowed or 75, whichever Cornea final i will leave a j note Stringi it s been n wonderful party but it i time to  i be been researching a Way to carry out my plan so that it will to be easiest on my two children they arc Only 20 and 12 year younger than l my grandchildren will be 26, 27 and 28 by the Lime i m 75. I have just about settled on a combination of alcohol and drugs. My Grandfather lived to be 98. My parents were relieved when he died. They arc in their late 80 Tad going Strong but rapidly running out of Money. My husband s Mother is 93, widowed for 10 Yean quite wealthy Sweet natured and uncomplaining. But the said As recently at yesterday the lord has Given me Loo Many Yean. I wish i could go  i have never seen anyone s Quality of life improve after 70. Have you my friends say their elderly parents arc lonely and bored and not in great health Al though loved and Well cared for. I d like to hear from people in heir 40s, 50s and 60s whose parents have committed suicide. Was t there 8 feeling of Relief along with the sadness certainly these children did t feel abandoned. 1 can understand those feel rat in a younger person but surely not in a 40 or 50-year-old Wil you give me your views on this subject Ann made my decision in the Midwest critics of american behaviour draw replies Dor and san made a ahead of claw a Clews Beensen i Telephone it Yoa amt a had a Alee Long Chat. You Wen certainly in a Riata Lac mat re Valce and i m in your husband Diat met new Vcra he answered 0 Phane and i  my Cadan a Fol a relieved to know thai you certainly Are not As Coan lated to your plan As toot letter indicated la bet Yon sounded much More open and reason Able than i had expected. By the time Yon Are 75 Yon probably in have great Stanaj Cluren what will Gate Yon an added incentive to stick ask did. A or notion that the Quality of Ufa cannot in Prore alter 70 Tobo Wuh Magyar tit Marlias. A Teotista. Inventors ant Miter did their Belt work in their 70 and 80s. I Bob take a org them. Dear Ann Landers there s enough trouble now so i cannot give you my name and address. I la have to read your advice in the paper. Thanks for the answer you gave perplexed in the West about not letting a spouse act funny about Money. In a nutshell you said ail the things i be been telling my husband for the 30 years we be been mar  has t made one bit of difference i have everything i want and need but i have no idea what we Are Worth where the assets Are or How to take care of than in Case my husband should die before i a he says running the House is my Job and to Stop poking my nose into his financial affairs. You said see a lawyer Ann he is a lawyer. There in t another one in this town i can turn to without making fools out of both of us. What should i do now frustrated in Arizona Dwarf no seek Arlee from your banker. Of you dont get ample satisfaction go to a lawyer outside your social Circle who can be trusted to keep a Mouth shut. I am writing in response to the recent three round barrage of letters attacking the behaviour of american soldiers entitled writers want belter american be  1 a been my pleasure to serve with a wide Cross pc too of american soldiers and i have been impressed with the degree of maturity patience and con Cern exhibited by our often Youthful soldiers with re Gard to their Host nation. The writers of these tetters must realize thai the behaviour they Are referring to u common among group of Young energetic soldiers and civilians in All armies and in All lands. Certainly rude loud behaviour ii As no Cha an affront to citizens of Munich As it is to residents of Lawton Oahu or san Diego Calif. It is True that our uniform gives us cultural an National identity and it As americans should take corrective actions when we find ourselves in these circumstances. A gentle reminder and sometimes a Stern yet Dis Creet warning can do a lot to quiet a Rowdy  me i know from experience americans and germans alike will appreciate a bold and concerned Effort. Don t sell the German people Short they Are no making mass generalizations about All americans based on the actions of a few. They too Are familiar with the behaviour of rambunctious youth. Your Effort can serve to build american German relations and be an example to some of our Young soldiers Many of whom Are away from Home for in first Lime. Let s not put Down our spirited Young sol Diers but lift them by example and encouragement. For the most part i would be proud to be associated with them anytime. St John Natter Hunan Germany having recently rebutted criticism of German be Havior towards americans i now consider it both Nec Essary and fair to offer Ray comments on the criticism of american behaviour by americans. I do not by a Long Chalk feel that the incidents described by the three writers Are All right justified or even excusable. I deplore them along with the writers and other people involved. But 1 must Point out thai not Only americans be have badly All Over Europe and that by far not All americans behave badly anywhere. Of course being americans the writers spotted american lapses of taste instantly As they occurred in their own language. But Young people of All nationalities Curry blaring radio nowadays even though due to successful . Pop music marketing the output is mostly in your language and go around in to shirts with explicit messages on them. German tourists even of sedate Middle age can be As offensive especially under the influences of Beer and Mediterranean Sun. No mention is needed of european Rocter Fani so by All Means deplore and criticize bad conduct by your countrymen but do not automatically Lake any Misbehaviour even if it is sounding off in your language As an american offence regretfully it share it with Yon. La col. Gerhard k. Jantson German of shift Belgium any individuals who feel shocked or embarrassed by obnoxious behaviour of americans living or serving in Europe and do nothing More than write a letter to the editor must share some of the blame by not Takin action As an american for the unfavourable Impre Hio of on nation by the ill mannered exhibition of a new unthinking people. It stands to reason if they have not taken the time to read those strange German. Way they Moat Likely do not read the paper from cover to cover. Any american who take Tome action to Correct the inappropriate behaviour of another american will also be remembered by the Public for As Long if not longer then the one with the obnoxious behaviour. As to the actions that could have been taken by the writers that could have had an Impact on the future behaviour of the individuals observed a if someone was having trouble with Money con version you could have offered your expertise thereby allowing the Kasse line to move faster and prevented the cashier her lean along with helping to reinforce any positive feelings those Many German might have held toward  Ai to the soldiers in the open vehicle with the radio Waring As loudly As possible you could have taken the License or bumper number and turned in a complain to the military police or the Community commander so some corrective action could have been taken by their commander. The group of american service pen Onnel at Lake Constance could and should have been identified As to unit or duly station. By so doing the writer could have written to the commander who then would not have been ignorant of their behaviour and could have taken appropriate action. These Are All actions i have had to take at some. Time during my 22 years on Active duly. And no that i am the spouse of an individual on Active duty in Germany i still act when necessary to help individuals understand those strange German ways and to make the individual or her or his Chain of command aware when i observe behaviour that is in professional or offensive so that it will not be repeated. It would seem that the writers who want better american behaviour want some other american la enforce the rules of behaviour for those who can t or won t for themselves. To them i would quote the old axiom if you Are not part of the solution you Are part of the problem for you Loo help propitiate the image of the ugly american by your inaction. Lauri nce c. Glass Mannheim Germany Senate awakened to reality writer says h1m id. � Matt Ildr i nah wife h Mel Thi ban finn 1 would like to comment on the recent article sen ale says soviet spying costly to ." Beautiful after being asleep for the past 40 years a Senate investigating committee finally awakens to the reality of the world and reports what we have All known has been going on since the end of Wii that the soviet have waged a relentless and sophisticated spying Campaign against the United  now h Wib probably take someone in the govern ment the next 40 years to come up with a solution to the problem that will not upset the soviets or our allies. Let s save them the trouble of supporting spies in the United slates. Just Send them All our newspapers video tapes of the evening news and All the news magazines with the Freedom of information act. Who needs spies Johann Hotz Sun Helm Rohrbach Germany All lenten in the Eden amt Cattafe in m printed name and Addotta for writer Matt a Dent by do net read nil grf from. Int awful Al Tiah Jua mom m remtaa4 infect Jar Printer. A him an subject to editing. 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