European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 26, 1986, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Pago 6 the stars and stripes sunday october 28,1886 a a what a prize photo Debbie Calk meets the members of the band a a from left Lead sinner Morten Harkert guitarist pal Waak tar and mags  keyboardist de Bewon her dream Dale with the norwegian Rock Trio in � contest. The bund performed Friday night far die 15-year-old girl and about 1,100 plaid skirted classmates at archbishop Chapelle High school an a Gyrta pare chit school in Rabur Tan new Orleans. Emy body x Chapelle Lores a a. 101 try popular at school right now Debbie said. In addition to meeting the band and hearing them perform she received $1,000 and he school got a $3,000 donation. State sip stepparents must change roles to save marriages therapist says Orlando Fla. A the High failure rate of second marriages is due largely to toe persistence of traditional male and female roles thai encourage step parents to discipline their stepchildren a therapist said Friday. Betty Carter director of the family Institute of Westchester in mount Vernon n.y., said that step fathers who iry to assume the traditional role of Sci Plin Arian and slept others who try to become their stepchildren s primary caretaker Wili not succeed. The resulting unhappiness can break up the marriage. Carter who Calls herself a feminist family therapist said . Census Bureau figures show that 60 percent of the second marriages among people in the Post world War ii generation will end in divorce. That is in a group of people in which remarriage i common. Ninety percent marry once 50 percent of those divorce and 60 percent to 70 percent of those go on to remarry Carter said. One fifth of you in your 30s cart expect to experience not one but two divorces she told an audience at he annual meeting of the american association for marriage and family therapy. The mistake generally made by people who marry second Lime is to set up the family As if they re a traditional family Carter said in an interview in that Case the Stepfather will be expected to discipline his new wife s children. But said Carter it never going to work because the kids Are going to say you re not my father " a better solution would be for the Mother to assume the disciplinarian role for her children thus leaving the Stepfather free to develop a Friendly relationship with  do not have As hard a time As sle Moth ers however. The father is saying to the Stepmother if you were a Good Mother the kids would be Happy furthermore Stepfather who have difficulty with he role of disciplinarian can pull out b spending More Lime at work for example. If you re the Stepmother you move in because that s what you re raised to do Carter said suggesting that the problem arises from the Mother s traditional  the Ste family to work out it requires a re structuring of the roles. If they re his kids he should discipline  can however act As a consultant to the father because she s probably More a Peri cd at child rear ing than he is. Carter said. Stepparents who try to assume these traditional roles have an additional problem because they Are excluding the other natural Parent from his or her role. The tensions thai arise from All of this Are the Mai cause of the failure of second marriages Carter said. Carter is a member of the women s project in family therapy which is trying to incorporate feminist ideas about the rotes of men and women into family therapy. Dog sheltered Newborn in Alley Detroit a police looking for a missing Newborn boy followed a Trail of blood from the Mother s Home to an Alley where a stray German Shepherd was keeping watch Over the infant in 60-degree Tern. Pera turns officials said. My heart just stopped said officer Joseph dab Liz. The dog which jumped up and ran off was curled round a baby that was holding onto a Little Twig. And the baby was being licked by the  Greta Davis 20, had gone to Sinai Hospital s Emer gency room on thursday for treatment of severe bleed ing. Doctors determined the had just Given birth but there was no baby said officer Timothy banned. Bannon and Datiz went 10 Davis Home where they saw tiie Trail of blood behind the House. The baby was rushed to Sinai Hospital suffering from hypothermia a sometimes fatal lowering of the body temperature caused by exposure to cold. The 6-Pound, 4-ounce infant s body temperature was restored to Normal and he was listed in stable condition Friday night Aid Hospital spokeswoman Barbara Lewis. Davis contacted in Ber Hospital room said she did t realize she was pregnant and said she first saw the baby in the Hospital on Friday. I m going to keep him she said. But the Michigan department of social services filed an abandonment petition Friday in Wayne county juvenile court in an attempt to obtain permanent custody of the baby said Agency spokeswoman Marga ret Anzinger. The Hospital said the baby would remain there until custody was resolved. Democracy group head gets . Peace medal Washington a Allen Weinstein president of the Washington based Center for democracy was awarded Friday the 1986 United nations peace  Kaminsky director of the . Information Center in Washington presented the medal in recognition of the great work in which he is engaged the achievement of Freedom through democracy. In remarks prepared for the . Day ceremony she said we Nislein played a crucial role in the trans Fer of Power in the philippine this year. He was on the . Delegation to observe the elections and in the immediate difficult Post electoral period was Able to speak to both Corazon Aquino and Ferdinand mar cos she said. New York daily news asks for labor concessions new York a the daily Newt new York largest circulation newspaper has asked its unions for $30 million Worth of Tabor Cost concessions to keep the newspaper afloat George Mcdonald head of the mail ers Union at the news said the proposal made to the newspaper s 10 unions on thursday was accompanied by a pledge that the trib Une co of Chicago which owns the paper would put up a new $210 million Plant with color presses. Mcdonald on Friday confirmed that news publisher James f. Hoge told the assembled Union leaders that the news had lost s3 million so far this year. Union contracts at the news and the new Yor times and Rupert Murdoch s new York Post Allex Pire March 30. Firm with army contract to plead guilty to fraud Washington up a Virginia compute firm has agreed to pay More than $5 million in dam Ages and plead guilty to 200 charges of fraud As in result of a $2 million contract with the army the Justice department announced Friday. The settlement which was to be resolved at an afternoon hearing in . District court in Virginia ends More than three years of suits and counters Alsover a contract to furnish the army with computer software and services. Assistant attorney general Richard Willard said in a statement. In addition to paying $3.1 million in civil damages the Virginia firm c3 inc. Twice suspended from doing business with the Pentagon will plead guilt to 200 charges of presenting the government with false certifications involving a $2 million computer con tract Willard said. 1,100 Boycott classes after protesters arrested Wellesley mass. Up the arrest of 49wellesley College students protesting the trustees Deci Sion to retain Stock in companies doing business i South Africa sparked a Boycott of classes by a Many As 1,100 students. We wanted to show Solidarity for women in the jail to show the administration we wanted charges against the students dropped and to express dismay Over the trustees decision not to divest Lisa mar shall a Junior from Springfield said Friday. Student organizer said about half of the college2,230 women students stayed away from Daw. About 100 students joined a rally Friday afternoon on the Campus of the College located wot of Boston mid school spokeswoman Nancy Agnew. 2 convicted of conspiracy to smuggle arms to Ira Boston up two Irish nationals have Bee convicted of conspiring to smuggle a plan Load of weapons to Ireland for use by the outlawed Irish re Publow army it was reported  Murphy 26, a native of county Kerry Aad Cairon Hughes 24 of Belfast were found guilt thursday in . District court of conspiracy to it port Arm without a License conspiracy to Export missile without a License and dealing in firearms the Boston Globe reported. Sentencing we Kite Duke nov. 2� by Jav do  Mazzone. Murphy who now lives in Boston and Cairo wot arrested by Fri agent May 20 in an undercover opera ration involving agents who posed at arms dealer