European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 7, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Friday August 7, 19871 the stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers one woman s role Model for Richer life 1 am writing you 10 perhaps help my neighbor and Community look a bit closer at the example we arc setting for our younger people. Each of i at some Point in our life bad one person her whom we tried to Mode Oun Elvei. For me in was a very unusual lady my grandma. My grandma life teemed to be never ending a those who observed her. She As some today would say appeared to push herself to the Max. She was always there Tor any who needed help volunteering open ing her heart Home and Faith to All never questioning i have not yet become half the lady the was but i have discovered her secret when you care with Alt your heart you Are Able to love that much More. When you five All you can you Hod you hive much More to rive. Never speak ill of others because in the blink of an Eye it could turn and be you. Today at i go out in this what s in it for me world Friend often ask now i am Able to do i i do. My answer is simple the More i do for others the More enjoyment 1 find for myself. When do i have time for myself the answer again is really too simple. The time i spend is my Lime. The difference is i choose 10 share in with you. I do not push myself to my limit because i have not found my limit yet. When i do Trust me to Call on you for your assistance. Could it be that this crazy lady my grandma found answers to question thai most Are Loo selfish to ask from her 1 teamed the boy of giving the Joy of sharing As writ is the knowledge thai one person can change the world even if Only in a Small Way. To my neighbors i say this i have been there when you were abused beaten raped. I have been there or your children when they needed a Safe  have been the Volunteer you see any Lime any place a Job needs to be done. To you in might seem 1 am pushing myself to the Man. To me i am getting the Max return on my efforts and Energy. To our Community would like to say thank you for All you have Given me in return for my Little bit of time and Energy. Anle Chasse dirt att cwt Tuy cafeteria worker serves up some advice recently i started part time Job at the Bay Rucher gardens cafeteria at Ibe Mainz Kastel shopping Cen Ter. 1 am Active army and work part Lime to increase my income due to the falling Dollar. 1 would like to say something to the patrons of the Bayer sober gardens. 1 am nol your maid. I am not an illiterate so Don look at me As if i am. My Job is not to clean your Nasty trays off the table after you be done unmentionable things to your leftover food. We provide trash cans. This is a cafeteria and nol a restaurant. All of you smokers out there you Are disgusting. We provide you ashtrays but you insist on putting your Nasty cigarettes out in your left Over food your cups or on the tray. The clincher is that you then leave the Nasty mess for someone else to clean up. Do you do this Al Home or Only when you re in the Public Eye it s a great example Smirk. To the mothers out there with toddlers. You really Sel a goof example. You let your child throw food All Over the floor the table and anyone else who happens to he silting near you. Then you look around to see if anyone saw it. Instead of picking up r in mess you ignore in and leave it. 1 often wonder what your House looks like. Do you leave in on your poor and tables 1 did t think so. Bul in i of to do it in Public right do you the american people realize How bad mannered you Are in Public you re nauseating. I d like for you to visit our cafeteria for to minutes or soil you think i m overstating any portion of this Lehr. For All you folks who have manners and the decency to clean up after yourself and your children 1salute you. For All you folks who think someone else should clean up your filthy mess be courteous to you and provide you with Good service Don t count on in from me i la i real you now i see you. If you want a Good image set one. If nol Wallow in your filth and gel treated like filth. So be it. You brought in on yourself. If this letter makes you irate then consider yourself one of the biggest offenders. 1 fit does t then consider yourself Well mannered and a Good example for others. Name withheld was bad Germany she has no sympathy for whining wives i am surprised thai army wives complain so much about life Here in Germany and that their husbands have to go in the Field. I m very proud thai my husband is a Soldier and i Turk welcomes article 1 was pleased to read an article about Turkey in a recent Issue. A lot of people Don t know anything about this country let alone her struggle to get into the euro. Pean Community. Believe we Are being treated unfairly by our allies considering Hal we Are More honest and respectful in our relations with them when compared with some of our neighbors. 1 think the West should leave the Cru Sade mentality and look for the future because we need each other. We Are determined to nuke Ataturk t dream come True and we will succeed. In Bastani intr Tarter will support him any Way 1 can. 1 am German and went to the states with my husband. My husband had to go to school 1 was in a foreign country Loo. Bul ladies i did t have acs or Hea Slart classes or All the Good things the army has for you. I had to to Outon my own to Leam English get my Driver s License find a Job and so on. When my husband had a permanent change of Sta Tion pcs to the slates in october 1980, 1 was left behind because my husband had to report to his next duty station. Our son was six months old and i had to do All the paper work and ship our car and my Pels to the slates and my English  not the very Best. So Why Don t you Stop complaining and take life in your own hands. Get out make friends and enjoy your tour in  Williams Cerol Hofen Germany reminder All tellers to us editor must contain the full pruned line and address of the writer and must be sized. We do nol read unstated letters but we will withhold your Nim a in quiet Al protect your privacy. Dear Ann Landers i read your Anmer to the Man who was concerned about his family s ability to Deal with aids if he should come Down with it. He asked about Laking his life to pare hit loved Anci Finan Cial hardship and the agony of seeing him suffer. You advised him to Lead a Normal life and practice  am a heterosexual woman who can t Stop bed hopping. Though i m concerned about aids and i try to be sensible i sometimes find myself where i should t be doing things i should t do. I be had sex with Al least 200 men in the last 20 years. I have not been tested for aids because i m not sure i could handle in if i tested positive do you believe the danger to heterosexual women Isa great As they say i read recently that deaths in the next 10 years from aids will number As Many Hetero in duals As homosexuals. I will watch for your reply because i Don t dare rive a Sci urn  in Florida Dor scan Yoo Pramis chs history suggests Hal you arc in deed a candidate for aids. You thou be aware that if you an infected you can infect pwt Aei eve though Yon a pc by Sloms Ywin ctr. This b Way aids is Treach Cro and Why you should have yourself tested immediately. For people with historic of promiscuity not o be tested is to be irresponsible to the Point of endangering the lives of others. If you turn out to be infected Yon Mot abstain or Al tto very Leas inc tit of let i a implore you to slay out of san mfg  m Moat get this message Acron every one starting in school at the earliest possible aft. At the risk w  ilk broke record i repeal Mon Kuny with Lack he partner la the beat Protection next la total abstinence. Dear Ann Landers 1 an a professional woman divorced and in m late 20s. A Friend fixed me up with an extremely attractive Man also divorced and we had a perfectly wonderful evening together. In was one of those divine four hour dinners. We left the restaurant Only after the maitre a gave us that please we d like logo Home  do i dare Tell or. Wonderful that i could go for him in a big Way if he dropped about 30pounds? my former husband became quite heavy the East few years of our marriage and i was turned Oil completely by his Bay window. I need a better head than mine right now. Please be there for me Ann. I Don t want to mess up Whai could by a wonderful Chance to have a Good life with a great Guy. At the same Lime i Don t want to marry a Man who does t Appeal to me  ant aware that people tend to put on weight As they get older and this Guy could be a Blimp in 10 years. Please help me. Hartford Dell kit whoa there one does t leap into we a risky topic after a Date. Give the  a Chance to take Root and grow. If after live or six evenings together you feel the same it might be of to Chance it. The Besl approach would be to talk about the health risks of Excel pounds. You could offer to go with Kin to weight watchers or Over eaten Anonymous eve though you Don t need it yourself. The signal that you care about him could be a big plus meanwhile be my Hric. Or. W. Could drop the weight to get the gift bul he might not keep it off. Put that into your compar Foi Mure reference bit temp Ilot Angha Timu snout Eoj Irwim Lindert Molj cowl your Star of an Mim n or on of la sail my sin pm. 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