European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 17, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Ann Landers dear Ann two years ago i met a nun at work. I was an exotic dancer and he was a steady customer. 1 had a Rule against going out ill me who Cam into the club but i fell Tor Ben like a Ion of Lead an decided he was too Good to pass up so 1 made an exception and we have been living together Ever since. � j Ben and t became engaged in Jtj september of 86. We planned to marry in october. I knew that my Job was pulling Astrain on Pur relationship so i quit. This was not an easy decision Ann. I was making Over $40.000 a then i be been bouncing from Job to Job very unhappy because i really loved dancing. Here s my problem Ben and i made an agreement would forget about going Back to dancing and he would stay out of strip joints. I be Learned from goo authority that he has not kept his part of the bargain. I also discovered that he is involved in making copies of hard Core porno films and Selling them to Guys at work. When i confronted him with the receipts for the films he promised to quit doing it but i m not sure i can Trust him. My instincts Tell me he s not hones about where he goes whom he sees Etc. I grew up in a Home split by divorce and Promise myself i would never do that to my kids. All i be Ever wanted out of life is a Good family love Ben but i be postponed the wedding an suggested counselling. Ben says he does t believe in counselling. Please help me Ann. I m desperate. Hung a pm dancing shoes in Conn sounds u if Ben s character to seriously flawed which in no Surprise Lovon. Adults rarely change to its regard but since the Slakes Are so High maybe Ben can beat the Odds. His Only Hope la counselling f be refuses co go go alone and find the strength to give this Guy the Gate better now before you Mirry and Bare family. The next letter May be of special interest to you. Dear Ann Landers when i was 20 i married a Man i was madly in love with. Or so i thought after 18 years of pain i have decided to leave. I now realize 1 looked for the wrong things. These Are the questions a woman should ask herself before she marries 1 does he have mature and realistic goals 2 docs he treat me with respect and consideration 3 is he reliable and honest 4 docs he like children 5 docs he gel along with his family and friends 6 is he responsible about Money 7 will he be interested in growth and self improvement 8 if a sense of humor is important to you docs behave one if i had asked myself these questions before i rushed into marriage i would have been a lot better off. Hope you will print my letter for the Benefit of Heyoung women who think they Are in love and Are will ing to Overlook a few things because they Are afraid that they can t live without the Guy. A. In Charlotte . Well said and your tuning was perfect. Thanks for Fetter that May help the woman who hang of her dancing shoes in Connecticut As Well u Many others. Lua arg to Linn Syndicate com Neil Ltd Dpi vow in Vou on Nulo in i Tali 140, v Pirro nit no on Dpi. Pm Friar ,. Of the Dot Wewt or o-f9ffti Tofil w ets 3flj5741 of 30 &8.?3 Tejitu q419-133 to Ibi d61is-6tnj7tj Yore cart fat. 401, 2i2 a. To � yen 1doq1. Toi news bureaus bit Una. Rebh no Park Wynn be 2mt. To 09 102 Iven. Teri unil Jda my Punu. Apo 09069 i 103 la. Serhant Paul cd Sci or Omen by. Tit Apo 09031 but Mug 2b37 Kri Ilu birth St to Tot pm Afef r4 izj26 6585. Ets i writ urn a 0631 1 i ill Wimch. Of chant in jul by Vatn. Soured pc is. D Sun. 2nd for. Maori Cjuan. I. Tham o Dewoy Camanh. S6 or nov Nutig to ii 1 t Tiitto Alt. Or Hahn Jol a i oww2302. Boom k3 Pilch by it i la pro. Us Tea Hwo comr Davtd a. Apo �1?7 ioj4no to Cess us. In Auto on ha-22jt a Mem Leal a. A do Chuck Vretis. Axum Baman. P 0 Boi 4609s.waimuton. Xuxa Tom Load put Pilunt. Of Van to he of . Team adv Tim Boom a co 090w film .p.axnllo. Cynval . Akonom run n4 Isitt or a dm1 7iss9, cxcuut10h of i cab oth Tumi Rabi. A Tui i jul lir. Ets vuui2. B no Xvi. A St. I Fulli. Ets 34l-tl19 Law rom fran Hin 069 6scow of m2j45. Moi of wets Koski 7i01 a 1it12-.khwukiwn.oi siotto Istam my a Zumr Ioc crts. T1o. Sun Cal or m014io of hoi 104. No 6im i bijpsl1 pm tiny. Pm jul. Of 440.7001, will Ujj 1 a Ohk c 6030. Etui you Vav i. 0,51 cwt to a Madott it a can Rex a. A in 44"wm4�r, id43i Tut 111 Xhu
