European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 10, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers saturday october 10, 19b7 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers i am a 31-year-old woman with two preschool children and i am 8 months pregnant. I have been married 10 Yean. Our marriage was a Good one. We had no major problems and when we had trouble we always worked things out. We rarely fought and always did things to cd Tiger last month my husband came � Home from a business trip and f told me he is in love with another woman and is planning to leave me after the baby it born. He said Hij mind is made up and he i just waiting to hear when she will be moving to this City. According to him he Hai never Felt this kind or love before. He says he knows what he is giving up a Beautiful family and is willing to pay the Price. According to him he loves i both but the passion for her is much stronger. My husband is 37 years old has a Good Job does t do drugs or drink. When i asked him to go for counsel ing he said no one can help me. I must help  my dreams of a Beautiful family Are shattered. I have no real friends in this stale and no family. I be been Busy raising my children. He does not want a divorce. He Jusi wants to move out and live with this other woman. He says he will pay the Bills until i am ready to go to work when the new baby gets a Little older. Why is he doing this Ann what can i do desperate in mid America Deardu sound like a Cue of temporary insanity brought about by the rediscovery of Kex. Something new and to citing. Time is your Best ally. Keep Busy. Get some counsel ing to help Yon mtr the Tough spot. And above All keep you dignity. Donl Brg him to slay or Gin her up or come often to see the  predict hell be Back when the Bloom is off the Rose. Then you can decide whether or not you want him. Dear Ann Landers my husband and hit brother lost their wonderful Mother recently and we miss her terribly. She was dearly loved by everyone. When Anna was alive her Home was always filled with family and friends. She had been a widow for Many Yean  had Only her House and furniture to leave to her sons. And that s what she did. On the Day of Anna s funeral my husband found his two aunts and a Niece going through the closets and drawers. They had arms Fulfor jackets shoes dresses and coat. They were saying things Tike "1 gave this to Anna in 1975 so i m taking in Home with  Ann these Are at wealthy educated people. Every Lime they come Over they take something dishes a handmade quilt or a piece of Silver. My husband is furious that they would tale the Little things that Hij mom left him and his brother. Do these Grabby. Insensitive people have the right to Lake these things Anna s will simply said i leave my Home and All possessions to my  please let me know what should be done. I feel helpless. Outraged in Florida dear Florida the relatives Kad no right to Lake so much As a tooth lick. Anna s will made Todl dear. / Ibe to liar Haven is yet picked everything clean Rar husband and his brother should confront them my on they should be told Liat what they Are  b not i heirs and to put ii Back where they found it. 1? mar husband and his brother really want some of the Ubu the relatives have already grabbed i see no reason by they Shaun l be told to bring them Back. Educational focus for teens questioned i am writing in response to your recent column on the education of american teens. I am a senior at general . Arnold High school and resent the fact that Many people Are saying we need to put More emphasis on the education of Ameri can youth. You will find that if you walk up to anyone on the Street whether it be an adult or a Young person they would t be Able to answer Nany of the questions about people or places such As Jefferson s presidential term and where the civil War was fought. My opinion is that America should lighten up a Little on its South and or put equal emphasis on the older generations. Marc Manley Wiesbaden the National endowment for the humanities recently give a Tyrai thousand american High school students a multiple Choice test on history and Litera Ture. The students did t do very Well prompting Yel another attack on the sorry state of american Educa Tion. News reports and editorials arc sounding the alarm. Well 1 say All the fuss is ridiculous and More Likely to do harm than Good. 1 have three specific problems with it. First i Don t believe the material is that important to begin with. One report concludes that Slud cols Are at risk of being gravely handicapped. Upon entry into adulthood citizenship and parenthood. Why because they Don t know what the Magna Carta is or who whole Canterbury tales give me a break. How Many Bankers Farmers senators soldiers or any group of adults citizens and parents for thai matter know those things How Many need to second whatever importance the material does have is easily lost in elementary and secondary Educa Tion courses. Few High school students have the perspective to be interested in and truly appreciate the significance of history or the expressions of literature. Compounding the problem trivia oriented multiple Choice tests like he one that started All hit commotion emphasize Only the least important aspects names and places treaties and dates. Not Only does this ignore what realty matters it makes the course so Boring that kids May be permanently turned off preventing them from later returning to a history or literature Lent when they do have the perspective to appreciate in. 1 speak from experience 10 years after High school and rive years after my technically oriented College Days i be returned to College to study the humanities. Both my perspective and the emphasis of my courses have drastically improved third and most important i fear the current hype and any Back to basics reactionary shift that May occur because of it May reduce or prevent Educa Tion emphasis on subjects thai really Are important to adulthood citizenship and parenthood. Why not Dis cuss the Pitfalls of financial irresponsibility the trag Edies of unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted disease drug and alcohol abuse racism and sexism surely our children our 17-year-Olds, need to know How to face and work to eliminate those problems As much is they need to study classic literature. I Don t mean to suggest that students should t be introduced to our history and culture. Nor do i suggest that our education systems could t stand some improvement. I just think that before we Start crying about How Baa our schools Are we should stand Back and examine just what it is we want them to teach. 1st it. Dean m. Vinson Hahn a Germany jobs for officers1 spouses irk writer a recent article in the stars and stripes described charge made by wives of several Field Grade officers that they were improperly pressured to quit their jobs to devote time to activities which further their Hus bands Careen. One woman was reported As having Given up her position As a substance abuse Counselor and another woman reportedly gave up a government service position. In is 1 think plausible that most if not All the jobs Given up were in the Public sector and i would like to suggest two Good reasons Why All spouses of Field or general Grade officers should be restricted from holding Federal jobs. First there is a very serious question As to How Well society is served when one couple or family unit is Able to draw a combined income pay and allowances in excess of $80,000 a year. The Woods Are not full they Are overrun with unemployed  ple who hold the degree qualification for such jobs As substance abuse  these people should be Given absolute preference i feet Over any person whose spouse is already drawing a Good salary from the Federal Treasury. 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