European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 12, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 18 the stars and stripes thursday november 12,1987 columns Book is the he of Man bashing by Ellen Goodman Fini of ill. 1 must confess thai i m a sucker for Din this marriage be Savedr articles. You know the kind i moan. First we gel her Story Ihnn we Jet his Story. Then wet generic at purpose advice from inc therapist what Jim and Judy need to do ii learn to communicate share their feelings and stay in therapy unit we gel Back to hem next month. Nevertheless despite a High tolerance for tale from the relationship crypt i could t Bear the lat est Kite report nine Hundred pages of depressing correspondence entitled women and Lover nine Hundred pages of her Story or to be specific. 4,500 her stories nine Hundred pages of comments on things like men s trashy behaviour and bad Mann re and Why most women Are unable to gel their relationships to each time 1 crawled through so arc Hill s Ameri can Xvi of sort a Barren place littered with abuse silence and misunderstandings to some Liny Oasis of happiness wanted to stand up and cheer. "1 am so in love who my husband. I m in love with him be cause he s such Tun to be with i Trust him implicitly. Alls girl. Way logo kids. Esob time 1 heard a male voice in this All female chorus however disparaged by Hue s Romi icentary i Felt a Peculiar urge to Root for the underdog there is something to be Laid for male patterns of at real. Amount of privacy and distance. Sure there is. I m not entirely sure what but there Musl be Hile is. And i ship Cal intends to be. Less of a reporter than a provocateur. As scribe of he skirmishes of the sexes there is no question whose Side she s on. This Book is she writes in the preface a Ccle Oral inn of each other and the greatness of women to achieve this Celebration Hutc sent questionnaires so women on the subject of their relationships. She got Back answer from 4.5 percent. Assuming that discontented people Are much More Likely to spend their nights on 127 essay questions these 900 pages Are slanted toward the most unhappily relating women in America. Consider the stall sties of the Hiie Ripe Sampler. 9s percent of the women say they experience emotional and psychological harassment from men in their relationships 8ft percent say men avoid talking about problems 83 percent say men Don t understand the basics of intimacy and then perversely 67 percent of these women assert that men complain More than they my own life i assume 50 percent of the blame in any relationship. Sometimes i gel of Lucky. In Hue t world however it is men s attitudes toward women that arc causing the this Blanket indict ment this wholesale imbalance distorts the value and indeed inc truths spoken by Many of the women. It is 100 bad that neither these respondents nor Hill give much credence to men who Are trying to achieve their own internal balance to be Strong and not silent. What is missing from this report is what we in the news business Call the other Side of the Story you Don i know much about relationships until you get inside both Man bashing is nol the worst of Hue s crimes. Shallowness is a massive collection like this ought to move the dialogue move the terms of the Dis Cussion Between men and women. Al Hile will move is books. To s fhe season of raise Money Byar Buchwald this is the big season for raising political from presidential candidates to lowly senators Are begging for dollars and i is nol fun. I walked into senator Moon Decker s office. He was on the phone Yelling look Trilby we sent you two envelopes and nothing came Back. The next Lime you want me to get a Bill passed for you making it Possi ble to Transfer liquid Gas through kindergarten play grounds forget you know some people just Don t have any gratitude 1 said. I Don t know what s going on he complained. Last time 1 had 1800,000. This election i have$3,000. All the lobbyists claim their Home offices have Frozen them out. The phone rang and Moon Decker picked it up. A. I wow who you Are he said. You re Ogilvy of beeswax Honey and you want me to introduce Abill barring All japanese Honey from the United states. How do you expect me to do this without a War Chest do you think Honey Bills grow on Trees Ogilvy. How would you like to be an Admiral in the the . Moon Decker Navy it will Cost you j25.000 and Miqu gel to sit on inc deck of All Senate Trade meeting. Tanks Ogilvy your bees Are Safe with Moon Decker said this is not my idea of fun but if i Don l do it somebody else will and heaven know what kind of senator hell turn out to be. At least 1 can be All senators make their own appeals for Money 1 asked All the ones i know do of course those who sit on the Annex services committee can raise a lot More than those muck with investigating air traffic control Ler. Some of the chairmen even have their own pics and they give Money to other senators. Then you really owe them for being Nice to seems there Are Many ways of raising Money in politics. What is the weirdest thing you be done to offered to put up a Guy for an ambassador ship for $15,000.""that sounds Good 1 said. It would have been but the nomination was turned Down. N of the Guy want to be a Federal cd a angolan to Bess me. I 1whk. it wone Wes we wed of Wittl. 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