European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 16, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday november 16, 1987 the stars and stripes Page 11  Landers dear Ann Landers my Boss for the past three years i la Call her Jane used to be very heavy. She enrolled in a weight loss program and lost nearly 100 pounds. Jane dated a couple of men she met through an and in the personals column. One Man in particular John paid a lot of Atten Tion to her. She was very flattered. After a few months she invited him to move in. Jane has a master s degree owns -.f. Her own Home and drives a Nice car. John is Between jobs has Anold House with a big mortgage and drives a beat up car. Whin they go out Jane pays for everything. When she travels she pays for him to go along. I mean airline tickets rental car food and so on. He does t contrib Ute one  problem is that besides being my Boss Jane is also a Good Friend. I believe John to taking her for a ride. I m sure she could do much better. Do i Tell her it bothers me and is beginning to affect my work. Jane will be 40 in a few months. I am 27 and have been happily married for three Yean. Please Ann i need some advice. Perplexed in the Southwest dear cup if John is taking Jane for a ride you can be sure it is in her car and the vehicle is equipped with Shock absorber. If your Friend Boss decides that John Girts he More pain than pleasure she will Deal with the situation in her own Way. I m son Juie would resent your interference no mat Ter How Well intended so my advice is mob. Dear Ann Landers i am a Reader in London. A Friend in new Jersey sends me your columns. I was particularly interested in the letter on the undiagnosed pregnancy if you Are collecting cases i am another one. My Mother married late age 45. When she complained of feeling wretched my father took her to a stomach specialist and he prescribed quarts of Green  at a party she attended several months later was a country doctor and his wife. He called the hostess aside and asked what is that woman doing Here Sheds due to deliver any  the hostess replied not really. The poor dear has a very Large  the . Said it looks like a baby to  overheard the conversation and insisted that dad drive her to Kansas City the next Day to see an obstetrician. That doctor gave her a two minute examination and said Don t go borne. Check in at the  the next Day i was born. . Dear Whyou write very Well for a  thanks for a delightful Story. Dear Ann Landers on my second Date with Marie i took her to my favorite italian restaurant. She is 29 and i am 31 both of us Are divorced. Midway through the meal she said this is the Best italian food i be Ever had and ordered a pizza and lasagna to  she then took the two Small loaves of sausage bread off the table put them in her bag and asked the waiter for More. All this was put on the Bill which 1  the Way Home she said thanks for the treats. Ann Landers said it was of to do  did you doubting Thomas in Denver dear Tom i talk it was of to ask for a Doggie bag but to order extra dishes to go and expect a Dale to pay for them is role of maps in Community discussed will someone please Tell me what duties the Mili tary police can perform in the housing area it seems like every time i Call the maps they Tell me to Contact your stairwell coordinator or building  or they want me to handle the situation myself. On occasion the neighbors in another building will be blasting their music and partying loud at 3 or 4 . By the sound of the voices one can Tell that the drinks have been flowing freely for quite some time. 1 have children As do most of my neighbors and we Are All trying to sleep. I Call the maps and they Tell me co and Tell them to turn it  perhaps i am being unreasonable by objecting to this Rdv hut i am by this time feeling less than reasonable. My latest Call to the mrs rate Iii ionic kind of response. On this particular occasion we were awakened from a sound sleep around 3 . By the sound of someone screaming outside. My husband told me to Call the maps. The Man i talked to asked me do you know your stairwell coordinator i told him my husband is the stairwell coordinator and he told me to have him go out  my husband is not an my and neither am i. We do not get paid to go and argue with a Bunch of drunks to get them to turn their music Down. Nor do we get paid to get in the Middle of a tight at 3 . We do not carry weapons to protect us in the event that this person we Are trying to reason with decides to pull a gun or a knife on us. This is not our Job i have read in the paper where people Are killed or Hurt during a fight if our husbands Are in the Field i really Don t think anyone will listen to a 4 11" female Tell them to Stop disturbing the peace. I suppose i could ignore the fight. But if do that and someone i subsequently Hurt the police will want to know Why someone did t do something. If it s True that the maps can do nothing More than wander around and hand out tickets then please give me the number to Call the German police. Perhaps they can help. Name withheld Anerth Germany editor s note it. Col Garry l. Pitman senior policy officer my operations div., office of the prompt Marshall Usa eur replies your letter about the conduct of residents in military nosing areas is of great concern to All members of the military Community. Here in Europe it is particularly important because our housing arrangements have most of of living very close to one another. In particular stairwell living requires All residents to exercise a great Deal of Courtesy. When some individuals fall to do this it becomes a serious matter. It i difficult not to get emotional. In response to your letter let me try to remove the emotionalism. There appears to be five Basic questions raised in your letter. They Are fair questions and i state them As follows 1. What responsibilities do the military police have in the housing areas 2. How do stairwell coordinators building coordinators and area coordinators fit into the Community Chan of comr and 3. What Are the responsibilities of these coordinators 4. What kind of backup support can these coordinators expect 5. It the German police have a role in housing Ana situate is Yaw military police Are primarily responsible for the Protection of the military Community against the threat of terrorism and serious criminal activities. They Are our Community scouts. They focus on the preservation of our perimeter and suspicious activity is and Lyle the perimeter which seriously threaten lives and property. They will assist in Emer gency situations and do report to commanders concerning routine violations which require corrective action. Maintenance of Good order and discipline in Sheho Sint areas is the responsibility of the Chan of clip Numa. The military police Are an  of the Community Raun Nanaver to assist in this process. But the appointed housing area Chan of command must actively share this responsibility. Stairwell building and area coordinators must take regular action to counsel problem tenants. This should be recorded and reported up the Chan of command. Praolini tenants must be identified and removed for themed of the Community. Every resident should know the housing area Chan of command. If the situation comes Down to a problem at 3a.m. The first person to Call is the stairwell coordinator. If this person is not available Call the next coordinator in the Chain of command. If a coordinator decides that action must be taken immediately he or she can Call the military police Lor backup assistance. The coordinator should Tell the my desk sergeant when they will meet the my patrol the coordinator should meet them and proceed with the my patrol to resolve the problem. But it is the Evoril Nator s responsibility to attempt to resolve the problem. The my patrol will Only intervene if the situation gets oat of control. This establishes the credibility of the housing coordinator system. And finally is the question of German police involvement. The Host nation has accepted responsibility for protecting its allies stationed in Germany. They will respond to requests for assistance from the Mili tary police. And they will act la Case of terrorism and serious criminal activity that threaten is. Forces and their families. But like the military police they have reasonable expectation that the military Community will share the responsibility of maintaining Good order and discipline. The German police will not routinely respond to a is. Housing area Call without a request from the Mili tary police. They will respond to emergency Calls from leased housing areas. Each of us must do our part and accept our portion of the responsibility. Mistake in spelling is pointed out to Angara to Tom synd Caw co Tartal Lendara Ilu Mii your my Vatican Nen of Khasan ads Horn. Apo09211. . Forcial in a recent edition of stripes Magazine you published an announcement for the Vincenza Italy itt office. I would like to Point out that Vicenza has Only one a in it and it comes before the  now i m sure this was a rare oversight because usually the stars and stripes prints it conc try. But for the Many people who have been misspelling and mis pronouncing the name for years i d like to set the record straight. I was born and raised in Vicenza and although i Haven t been Back in several years i still consider it Home. Like most people it really irks me when my Hometown s name is mispronounced. For everyone s information it s pronounced Vee Chen Zahand it is the site of some of the greatest architectural works of Andrea Palladio. Travellers to Italy should consider an excursion to Vicenza to do More than just buy Gas coupons. Capt. Joanne ekk Bernstein Schwa Woisch Gemuend Germany thes Sci. To Tiv m. Cook  Educ oct flt cot sum we u mum Usan Dauly  x Olaf Zafoc Kom Cju met pro cod Deanc b.  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