European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 31, 1987, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Thursday. Dace Bersi 1987 the stars and stripes Ann minders dear Ann Landers t am married to a minister in North Carolina. Please do not print the name or inc cily. He would kill me. The problem is my husband. Whenever i ask hint it cd some thing that he dial in s want to do he says i spoke to find ind he said should t do in i wish the Man would have in decency 10 say straight out Luil he douse t want to do som Ching instead of laying Al on inc Back of the lord. I Haven t seen my to incr in three years. I old my husband last week that i wanted to go visit her. Well he prayed Over in and god told him this was t the right time i was inv right Lime however for him to treat 15 friends in lunch in a Nice restaurant while i stayed hone and looked Tor 22 girl scouts. God Ells my husband when to play Golf and when to p o fishing. He has also Kimtruc cd him to go w some Beautiful vacation spots alone so he Tan meditate and Pray. I know i need counselling but a minister s wife in t supposed to Nave any problems and i am afraid thai it might reflect poorly on my husband if i went for help. In this town everybody know everybody else s business. Just writing this Teller has made me feel better. Thanks for being there. And please Tell me what to do Ann. Stymied an d stuck in a no name place Tass get some Counsi Ling woman ministers wives need in just a ranch if not Mart than other wives. Mike plans at onre id visit your Mother. Tell you Hus band of wrote to me and i consulted with inc lord. He quoted us commandment that says Honor by father and by Mother and i decided you should Honor your Mother gift right away. Dear Ann Landers Ever since i graduated from College 20 years ago 1 have had periodic Nightman about being Back in school. The end of the Iceni is near and final exams Are coming up. I have not been to classes and 1 Haven t studied. If i Don t make a Good score on these tests i won t graduate. I iry to cram but i m so upset 1 can t remember anything. 1 am in a state of near hysteria. These nightmares have increased in intensity and fre Quency. As my cd Blini Date draws near i become Mare exhausted from Lack of sleep. This is the second marriage for me. I m a nervous wreck. Why am i having these awful dreams the faces of the people arc always different i Don t recognize anyone 1 know. The dreams Are always the same sheer panic. Please try to explain this to me. I am terrified in Florida dear Florida i Mold not be so presumptuous Aslo try to interpret your Drums but it is obvious that you Are we6 Trilb anxiety bout something. Could it be the uncertainty of the upcoming marring before you lie the Kryml i suggest thai jew discuss this problem with a psychiatrist or a psychologist dreams do i b9 something about our subconscious. Yon need to find oat while your dreams wan. Dear Ann Landers please Stop worrying about the woman whose Hus band s snoring drove her to sleep in a closet where she has a lamp an alarm clock and a Small  in new York we Call this a one bedroom apartment. Leonard a Dew Loon my dirndl who live in your dry ten me that you Are right try a the ones in Manhattan Start at $800 a Page 11 letters Usa eur s child care rules explained i know the army likes to Tell everyone what Lime to be up when to eat. A lion to sleep and so on. But 1 think As a Parent they have gone Loo far when it comes to my children. I think it should be my right As a Parent to be Able in take my children to whomever i Wani not to whom the army says. What about the neighbor who has three kids of her own and Doran i drive she can t just drop everything and go to classes so he army can each her How id watch kids. Her three arc doing just Fine. So what is the Point of her paying a Babysitter five Days so she can go learn you say if i Don t like the child care providers program go to the Day care a a. This is the 151 h of the month and they Are already booked for the whole month. Is there a Good reason for taking away my rights As a Parent or is it just another Case of the right Way the wrong Way and the army Way name withheld Erlanger Germany editor s no in Bonnie storm children development services program manager Usa Reijer Community and support Agency replies 1 heartily agree that it is your right and responsibility As a Parent to select your own Babysitter the army does not dictate who thai person should be. You can select a Babysitter Oft poll have one come la your am Home or select t family child care acc provider on Post. Ment in regard to the child care that is provided in govern in flu raters the army must regulate acc for your Protection As a Parent As hell As in the government s interest As owners of Post housing. When your Community common str permits child chit in his Post quarters he also uitime responsibility Lor the health and safety of the children in those quarters. For thai reason and for your Protection � a Parent risk management insurance is provided to acc care elvers by the army As Long As Quarter Are Safe and providers not trained in certain Eisenthal areas. The raises your acc provider tikes before she is certified Are also for your children s Protection. Two of the required classes Are first Aid and car in ease your child should require emergency medical treatment. Al least seven Usah Kur acc providers have saved the lives of children in the last year by doing car. I m sure you agree that if your provider has this Knon ledge in helps both of you feel secure about her care of your children. Acc Classen Are usually in the evening so that provid ers ran leave heir children in a family member s care to further reassure Yon the provider s Home is inspected by cd and by fire safety and preventive medi. Cine officials to ensure there arc no hazards and that the care your children receive is Quality care. Additionally a background Check la done on my provider and her family members to ensure there is no prior history of family violence child abuse or drug alcohol abuse. Many acc providers find that when they finish train ing they feel More confident about the care they Are providing for their own children As Nell As the others in their care. Acc providers generally feel the training is worthwhile and hey Are justifiably proud of the certificate they receive that displays their competence to the families for whom they provide child care. Thank you for the Opportunity in provide this information. If you have any other questions please feel free in Call me at ets 379- 6m4/6ji5. Reader upset by traveler s Check policy several months ago i went to american express and purchased some English Pound american express traveler s checks Tor a trip i was taking to England. I did not use them All. Now several months later i m ready logo to eng land again. In order to have Money in my pocket when 1 hit London i went to the Mannheim american is press with my traveler s checks to gel Cash English pounds. Guess what they do not Honor their own traveler s checks. I could t get pounds. I had to eel dollars which i then handed Back to inc idler. She reached into her drawer and gave me pounds. In the process of course i lust about j percent of my Money. Name withheld Heidelberg editor s note Betsy Robinson manager Public affairs american t press military banking replies thank you for your inquiry concerning the encase ment of foreign traveler s checks. I am sure you know that rates of foreign currencies change constantly. 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