European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 22, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse Page 10 the stalls and stripes writers sympathize with homesick wife this it in response to the writer who is experiencing homesickness t can truly sympathize with you i too. Suffered for several months with a let Rible bout or homesick Ness. After being at the main shopping Center where the november 1985 bombing occurred i we really ready to Lum and run Home 1 treat three ionizing months in our temporary quarters too scared to get out and go very much. Then after feeling sorry Tor myself ions enough a Friend encouraged me to Volunteer for the red Cross. Thai got me out of the quarters a couple of Days a week and the red Cross even pay for baby filler i fell that by volunteering t was contributing something to my Community. You la be surprised at How different your Outlook becomes not to mention the friends you re bound to make another Point to consider is your husband and baby. Try to realize that your husband needs you Here. You could use this Lime in Germany 10 help Luibil your relationship tighter than ii i Ever been it works. Now that you have a baby you will be busier than you realize and you be glad to know thai you stayed Here and served in your own Way by keeping Hose Home fires burning Ai for your family Back Home what would they have Yuu do whatever happens to your grandpa rents will happen whether you Are Home or not. La s out of your hands. Please stay in Germany with your husband and Lough it Vou la be glad you did. I Don t think anyone Ever wanted to go Home As badly As i did. I stayed Here and i m really glad i did. As a result you can have a stronger marriage and Happy memories with new friends. I wish you Good Luck and Good limes in Germany. If you would Lite to write me and share some of your experiences the newspaper will Forward your letter. Jorl Yates lab Cost. West or Runny the reply addressed one Side of the Issue the department of defense regulations that limit and re strict dependent travel. Another Issue remains unanswered How does his woman Deal with the inner misery of homesickness As an american red Cross caseworker Volunteer i Deal with Many homesick clients in my office. Some Pruni issues 1 in help them resolve while others present issues Only they can resolve. The other Side of this Coin is answering the health and welfare messages sent by arc chapters in the United slates on behalf of parents who Haven t received a letter or phone Call from their son or Daugh Ter in several months. What s going on Here is a Lack of communication resulting in lonely people on Boih sides of the Atlantic 1 Don t have a precise answer on How to remedy this hut t have some suggestions. First Purchase a Book of Stamps gel some paper and envelope. Now write 3 letter communication in a Basic form 10 those people you miss so much Don t complain to them icy probably have their own problems and Don l need yours. Instead write what you would say if you were Back in that Hometown speaking directly to that person. Write about what you re doing Over Here give them a glimpse into life overseas. Include pictures of your family. Grilc at least once a week. Taking the time to Wiric o letter and Icalas you look inc time to think about the recipient of the letter and that you care enough o write a letter. Don l worry Aboul being homesick take that Energy and turn it around everyone to some degree has Felt something when leaving familiar surroundings and moving to new surroundings whether it be anus Lown or around Hie world. How you manage and Deal with those feelings is up to you. Shelley Sallosto Raf Lakenheath England i read with interest he idler from the homesick wife and her desire to obtain military space a trans port Back to the United states. Master sgt. Dennis Ion s answer was Good if not entirely Correct. My family and 1 just had a permanent change of Stanon to Germany from Iceland where dependents License plates wanted Tim in Man i in Ritmo you h t no pm no. My hot of if bulvtka.14 pc wit put Firin m a id St blvd fan i in inning 11 Toul i a i own 10 ind the � Audi. C4nrebajt. My try a ump us. Morl Tiu nerf tit. Norert a thu. Tvo i Blind. South Oik Uia int lift. I Wonju top cull mrva fwlpltjfcjg4l alms Holg or Tell. Were authorized to travel alone in Mac flight under the environmental morale leave Mel program. Morale Booster you bet your life i wonder How Many soldiers ind airmen would a extend in Europe if their wives could take advantage of such a program the army and air Force Are dying to save Money and get people to Rilend overseas open up the Mel program i la Bel you one of the main reasons military members want to rotate Back to the United states is because of lonely spouses. It would t affect space a travel because Mel is a lower priority. No tense in having empty Mac seals going Back to the slates when Here ire thousands of dependents dying logo Back but can t because duly Calls. Of count i would feel sorry for All our tour offices and civilian air carriers if such a measure was to take place. Even the stars in re stripes Miguil lose reve Nues from All the ads constantly me. T would Hale to think that pressure from certain groups in Congress keeps this restriction in place. It s a bad Rule that does t make any sense. Also sol. Dennision you might have the extra Money to run Down 10 your itt or Sato office to Purchase airline tickets but i assure you most of the rest of us Don t. Mister sol. Murk w. Muckler Ruuti Lindsey As. Germany first let me Tell you thai i am sorry thai you fed this Way 1 Calile it s not pleasant and in fact some times unbearably hard to Deal with. However there Are a few Oiher things 1 would like to say. T Don t know the circumstances of your situation Why you a had a baby if you knew you were going to be so far away and would need your family maybe you were already pregnant when you got orders. Were you familiar with the military Way of life before you came Here did you think about saying goodbye to your family before you made the decision id accompany your husband Over Here i too said goodbye to my grandparent possibly for the last Lime but 1 prepared for that beforehand. I knew thai it would be financially impossible to Fly Home for a funeral so that was a decision i hid to make was Hal possible loss Worth making such a big move As far As you hauling to show your baby to your fam by i m sure that must be hard not sharing such a special event i May be ready for a baby in the three years i have left Here but am fairly certain it won t happen for one big reason i want my family to experience it with me. That decision was also made before 1 came Here. The financial burdens you speak of Are apparent to almost everyone but How about planning a trip for the near future instead of being so intent on going now or maybe save $10 or Ifo out of every pay Check for a now months. You d be surprised Al How much Money you might save you brought up a Good question Aboul the space a flight it s too bad mat we Are not considered More than just dependents of Active duly and therefore cannot take advantage of the inexpensive flights. 1 consider myself military As Well As my husband be cause i am a very important part of his army career. Maybe Well see some improvements in the dependent privileges in the future. However 1 am grateful for those that arc already available to me. A question for you did you and your husband make the decision together that you would accompany him to Germany i be heard of Many wives slay ing with family or Owji remaining in inc Stales for the tour you sound As if someone made you come and that someone is Al fault for you being i Hope that your feelings of being trapped Are soon relieved. I also Hope that you can look to your Hus band for Comfort As i can plan for the future and do ionic re adjusting to your situation. 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