European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 5, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Ann Landers dear Ann Landers this problem is insignificant compared with some i have read about in your column but it bothers me a lot can you help ? i am married 10 a nun who is 6-foot-4. He has several Brothers Olio vary in height from 9-foot. 11 to 6-foot-7. Their Mother is r obsessed by the height of her of sons. Whenever she refers to � them in casual conversation she of never fails to identify them by .1 height As Well As by name. For example Dick he s the one who is 6-Fooi-3." her favorite of course is Rob the tallest. He is 6 fool-7. Rob thoroughly enjoys being the Center of at Tention. People Are in Awe of him because he is so tall. This Jerk wears boots with heels so that he will appear taller. Recently i ventured to express an opinion that was quite different from the one my Mother in Law held. Her response floored me. She said you Are just Jeal Ous because Mary is 5-foot-l i. Frankly i wish my son had married her instead ofyou.1 How do i Deal with this woman Ann faithful Reader in the Northwest dear faithful from a distance or a Tinial height. Dear Ann Landers in the past you have had a great Deal to say about abuse of the elderly. What about the abuse that the elderly Heap on their sons and daughters who Are no longer Young themselves my Mother is 91. She has made her Home with us since dad died 13 cars ago. The last five years have been a living hell because of her. She has accused my husband and me of stealing Money from her Bank account. She tells inc neighbors and family members thai we brat her. In recent months she has been getting on inc Telephone hollering for help. Mother used to give us $100 a month for room and Board. Now she gives us nothing although she has More Money than she will Ever use. We we struggling to make ends meet the woman is cantankerous and constantly stirring up trouble. She requires a great Deal of time and attention. Nothing i Cook suits her i am exhausted All the time. Her health is better than mine i can t bring myself to put her in nursing Home but my brother and Sisters say if i Don t 1 will have a nervous breakdown. Do you have any thoughts on this subject an Ohio woman dear Ohio discuss the problem with your doctor lie May insist that you he relieved of the Burden of caring for an elderly irrational Parent. If this keeps up your Mother could Bury you. Dear Ann Landers May i respond to empty Cradle full heart she was the unwed Mother who gave up her baby for adoption. I Loo became pregnant without the Benefit of marriage but j could t lace the disgrace. The father of my child was in no position to marry me at that time. He was is 1 decided to have an abortion. This happened More than 11 years ago and i have been tortured by guilt Ever since. Eventually the father did marry me and recently one of our children died from a rare blood disorder. I keep thinking that Liis is and s Way of punishing me. What a you think. Ann guilty in Connecticut Deu Friend to believe this would e credence id the notion that Ibe loss of a loved one is punishment front god the lord is Loving Anil merciful. He docs not work in this my. Put that thought nut of your mind for All Lime. Military policy on buying blood discussed this letter is in response to a recent letter and its answer about blood Banks. First off 1 Don t think the sergeant s question was answered. To refresh memories the question was do the military hospitals in Europe pay the German red Cross or similar organizations for blood or blood prod. Be str i have asked that same question of the blood Hank Ai the 97th general Hospital in Frankfurt and have been told that in Lime of need they do request blood from the German red Cross and do have to pay about 100 Marks a pint. The real question Here is Why should there Ever be a time when a military Hospital runs Short of blood a simple answer on the local level is advertising. People simply Don t know that they can go to the lab no inc 97th general Hospital and donate a pint of blood. Staff set. Easlino and his Crew Ore Friendly and efficient and will have you taken rare of in about 45 minutes. Units can Call him at the lab and arrange a Lime to come in. Everyone Here in Europe must understand that there is a constant need far blood and that there arc also times when Here is n specific need. We Are the ones who must meet that need. There arc those who Are concerned that there is a danger of contracting aids from donating blood. I am no expert but i will say that i have donated four Gallons of blood and have encouraged my wife to Start donating. If you have any doubt Contact the lab and risk them. Where is the 655lh medical co i have been in the 3rd, army div area for the past 6 a years and have Only seen them one time. I must say that at that time 1 was not Happy with their Way of doing business. My soldiers and i were treated As if we were being done u service by the 655th by their coming and taking our donations of blood. Thai was in 1982 and things might have changed by now i Don t know. For Many of the units stationed in Europe blood donations to the German cd Cross May be the Only option. Their distance from their local Hospital and the Infra Quincy of visits from the 655th medical co arc factors. The workers from the German cd Cross Are always Friendly and caring and always provide a very Nice gift 10 those who have donated blood. Once someone has donated three six nine or 12 pints of blood they award a certificate and pin promptly docs every Hospital have the capability to draw blood ii so now docs someone get into Contact with their local blood Bank can you print a list of phone numbers where soldiers family members and civil ians can Contact their local blood Bank soldiers it is you who can make the difference to a premature baby or an Accident victim or to any num Ber of other patients in our military hospitals. Do Nate blood. It Only takes a few minutes. It does t really Hurt and Jou Are doing something thai pen pals really makes a difference. I have been a blood donor for 10 years off and on. And feel very strongly that ibis is one of the Good things we As soldiers family members and civilian scan do. 1st St. Halford m. Dudley Frankfort editors a not 1.1. Col George a Mich Els Laboratory science consultant la 7 h medical Conrad replies the Auuner la the Iju Slinn do military Hospi iils pay fur blood products is to. However one Musl keep q mind the circumstances under which this be on us slated in my recent re a Jinns in the other writer. When emergency patient situations Irise such a per fainted ulcers or comp filed ectopic pack Ninati. Large amount of blood run be required in Short Peri ods of time. A patient with in unusual blood Type or antibody can further limit i he ability of the local he nil Bank o provide enough blood la satisfy the need. Under i Csc circumstances the blood Bank May con Sider alternate mean far Ahlai ninja blood. The time required to obtain he Correct kind of by ital from the 655th medical cd Musl be balanced against the response Lime that is dictated by the patient s condition. Similarly it lakes u Ronsi Teribie amount of Lime la Call in emergency donors and collect and it blood prior to transfusion. The patient May nol be Able id wait. If the car real Type and amount of blood is Anil uhf in a timely manner Only bum a commercial source then it should be purchased in the Best interests of us patient. Donations of blood in Eji Rili routine and Emery inc situations is always  und appreciated. I in 655fh medical co Usa eur Wood Bank coordinates a master blood drive schedule with the my Lilure communities in Europe each a or. In addition Meddars and Mencens conduct local blood drives. The frequency of these local drives depends an Many factors including the sufficiency of the blood Supply coming from other military sources the patient census and the number of trained person Nel who Are available to conduct the drives. Blood Banks also maintain Cmari Tench Danu fill s of personnel who can be culled to donate on shun notice. This can be very helpful when rare Blond types ire involved. 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