European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - May 5, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse Columns a wonderful Day at the track by Dave Barry recently As a result of some unforeseeable Beers i fell behind in my work. Realizing Ihal 1 needed loft l caught up quickly i employed a time management technique recommended by efficiency experts everywhere i Well la Llic horse races i Wen Wilh Veteran journalist Dick vans one of the select few people ill newspaper history Ever in have simultaneously held the positions no howling writer and religion editor. Needless in say during this period ht1 was known .11 Hie holy i hid this column t ailed a stranger goes la Church where i was supposed to a to a different Church every sunday my do a critique if the Sermon Dii k. Naturally nil my critiques came out thai it was absolutely so we see ii k is no fool which k probably Why he pm die racing writer for Llic at Lime , whip h is Deli Nilly the but i Job in the world. In the Mirl Kllc of tin Day Dick Nicks up his briefcase and walks out of i he office of oking like a regular civilian on i i in engage in some responsible i icily involving his accounts . Instead he Pii-1. To Ilie . Tie track is a inn Deniful place. Ii is Al Llic extreme opposite end of tin1 lifestyle sped rum from the repressed Lillet Wood deputed in those ploy Mig we advert Isi Mcwils fur Ralph clothing. Gnu know they re Ilie ones old Money Meija wasps in dark natural fiber suits and slicked Back hair. They re silting nil uncomfortable antique furniture and engaging in Wasp parlor games such As at the track the height of fashion is in Wear a shirt on which ill the Ink Marks .ire1 ill some Colour. Al Mil Rinck you can smoke .1 humongous pit covered Cipr ,in." him of course i Don t work and of course medical convention came in Ghoul 30lh, prompting me to reluctantly leave the irate and return to the world of accounts payable and my new Fri curl to wander off toward the belting window already deeply compiled to a new horse. I had to envy him definitely. Unerring host1 of company party erred 3 times by miss manners in lord feature Syndicate Omar miss manners Al a company parly my spouse and i attended a menu beside each place Selling listed the foods and wines to be served. Three wines were included. Wi1 were served a Rose with the meal and my spouse asked for a Glass of the Burgundy instead. Our server informed the table thai the Chablis and Burgundy were for vips we were All rather taken Aback. The Man who plans this annual party is usually unerringly Correct would not dream of questioning him about this but am curious to know if the practice is acceptable. Gentle Reader the concept of the vip does not exist in the annals of etiquette. All guests Are important and while shirt May be .1 guest of Honor there Are no menus of in nor. Your unerring Host erred Al teas three Tinus by serving different wines to Dilfer enl guests by pulling .1 clue to this disreputable behaviour on the menu and by employing an indiscreet waiter. Dear miss manners we will soon he relocating As my husband is taking a new Job. The company will help i Tell our present House transport our cars and meet moving zip Unsei. During his initial meeting with a paralegal who will be working for him a pleasant competent Middle aged woman she indicated that scr husband is a real estate agent who would be Happy to help us find a new House. We Are both new a the corporate world and arc worried about the appropriateness of dealing with this woman s husband. At the least we would have to discuss the Type of House we can qualify for Monc Wile. It would Only be human of him to relate to his wife such information. I feel she is trying to be helpful and my husband docs not wish to offend her. I believe the most cautious thing to do would be to employ another real estate agent and my husband has left this decision i up to me. He has Faith in my judgment gentle Reader us does miss manners. She agrees that you should find another agent. But you need t offend this woman by doing so. The technique of pretending not to understand or remember an offer you do nol want to accept is extremely valuable in this Case you need Only ignore the offer which was presumably made kindly and a Ghoul thought of Ihu complications involved. Should the offer be repeated or should there be any other occasion of an explanation of How you arc solving your housing problem say Vou were so kind to offer hour in band s services but we would t dream of taking advantage of the dear miss manners i am on a limited budget for my wedding and have an overabundance of free Nodi and family. Is it appropriate to Send invitations to the ceremony Only if so is there a Way of wording the invitation so that the guest do ctn l misunderstand or a Simc he is invited la the reception As a cell gentle Reader As a matter of fad in is traditionally Correct to invite guests to the wedding ceremony without asking them h Lac reception. Ii there were no reception card ent closed or mention of afterwards Al on the invitation they were supposed to understand Hal was it. , miss manner cannot Artel be you to iry this nowadays. When a 1e More or less put in both Huir cities of residence and their social circles it was not considered All that offensive to be asked to Allend Only the wedding ceremony of people one wished Well but did no perhaps know terribly Well. Nowadays anyone who discovered two Levels of ii lations would be furious at what would be considered second class treatment. Thai presumes Ihu ugh Hal they would understand from the invitation that in was Lor the ceremony Only. It is Only Loo Likely that these people would simply Trot along with the rest of the guests afterwards in Happy ignorance of such a custom. Nuts 19ss in Ristl to Guint
