European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 28, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                By Daniel Goleman new York times mourning a loved one is always painful but some people find the process More difficult than  they become too Dis Faught or they hold too much emotion in. In studying these extreme reactions researchers a the United slates Are coming to a sharper understanding of Tho Norma course of mourning and of the signs thai in has gone awry. The research is also spawning new psychological treatments for los who have trouble grieving. Most of the treatments focus on helping mourners follow the Normal path moving past a Point where they might have become  the death of a loved one is the prototypical psychological catastrophe a blow to is unconscious sense of personal invulnerability that most of us carry said or. Mardi Horowitz a psychiatrist at the University of California medical school at san Francisco Horowitz who has Long been a Leader in research on mourning has just completed a new study on grief. More than any other research to Dale in details the specific ways in which mourning can go off course. He said thai the Issue was a pressing one because about of a third of those who come in for psychiatric therapy have had difficulties mourning n loss often one suffered Long ago. In Many cases i1 is nol the Silti curios themselves ital bring the person to therapy a Saio. Instead the Issue arises As therapy progresses the main signs of mourning such As overwhelming sadness or anger typically decrease noticeably after six to nine months research suggests and signals of the end of mourning come alter a year or so. But researchers say that mourning Lor two or three years is not unusual arid Iri some people signs of grief can linger Lof years. The question of when a Mourner needs psychological treatment is Best answered according to  and others by distinguishing Between Norma grief and extremes of intensity or duration while a typical Mourner May be deeply disturbed Al various moments that does not necessarily indicate the need Lor treatment. But some extremes indicate a freezing of the course of mourning and therapists say Hal Mose who have nol completed the mourning process May need help. Some troubled mourning can approach the bizarre. One Man kept his dead lather s broken cameras hanging in his clothes Tosel for 14 years so he could glimpse them while he dressed in the morning another Man had his wife disinterred and reburied under is bedroom window so she could be close to  Othor signs of unfinished mourning Are More Subtle a flatness of  or the chronic  to finish projects or Start new relationships. Studies of several Hundred people by Horowitz and his colleagues at the University of California will be published in May in the Book introduction to  from Basic books. The course of mourning runs through different stages Horowitz said typically beginning even study of mourning illuminates grief gone awry before medea illness allowing at this Point dying person n death is near. 1 inexplicably an avoid the dying remorse after i is Yacknow Sedgi Over the even even with the the death Gene in the Nori rib indicates the f often revolves something to since the Mour loss. This Desir having the Kir when this Al death might in1 overwhelmed t grief. At the Oil state of Dis soc themselves the next mourn they turn away reminders of to seem Aliva in c this Normal the mourners Horowitz Bose they regain a s to confront the at Ihli Pha efforts to Pul t they abuse of into a frenzy o ii is nol unti go through a t deceased the 1053, at awake least battered memories of ii those most up weeks or Mon to  Nourr intrusive thou sadness that concentrate 0 a review of All the feelings the death out in manag Oab extreme ret nightmares or real that the d person May a despair Sharr feelings fade trouble mourn months or yes once this s yearning for to ordinarily div last ditch Tefo gradually yield death. For those a there maybe caring or Crea Page 14 the stars and stripes