European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 17, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers this is a reply to my 10-year old son s question Why does daddy keep trying to Hurt my feelings and an open letter to my husband and other parents who say thoughtless and unkind things to their children. Are you Blind yes daddy i m Blind to your love when you talk to me  can t you hear no daddy i can t hear any caring in your voice when you make me feel like some thing is wrong with  Haven t i told you a thousand times yes daddy a thousand times at least. I guess you Don t think i m Worth the time to say something More than once. I wish you were a Little bit More patient " can t you do anything right i guess i can to if you Don t think so because you know everything. You re my  what s the matter with you anyway gee i Don t know. Maybe i m just bad or dumb. I sure Hope you love me anyway daddy because if you Don t no one else  i have tried to help my husband see what he is doing. Maybe Reading this will open his eyes. Concerned mom dear mom i Hope every father who reads your letter will ask himself How Many times in the last week he has put those same questions to his son. If Only you dads knew How much your sons idolize you and How it crushes their spirits to be spoken to in a belittling Way you d never do it again. Please please if you see yourself in this column today vow to turn Over a new Leaf. No child can grow up emotionally healthy and Loving unless he feels valued. Parental love is at the heart of self esteem. Dear Ann Landers i am writing in response to a letter and your answer that appeared in the Ithaca journal recently. There is absolutely no truth to the belief that Rice even instant can kill Birds. This Rumor received publicity because of a Bill introduced in the Connecticut legislature in 1985 by Mae Schmidle. This wild Story resulted in frightening thousands of brides into putting Birdseed in Little tulle and Chiffon bags so the guests would t throw Rice and kill the  Rice is no threat to Birds. It must be boiled before it will expand. Furthermore All the food that Birds Swal Low is ground up by powerful Muscles and grit in their gizzards. Many Birds love Rice As any frustrated Rice Farmer will Tell you. I Hope you will print this information in your column and put an end to this myth. In the meantime keep throwing Rice folks. Tradition will be served and the Birds will eat Well and be healthy. Steven c. Sibley Cornell Laboratory of ornithology Ithaca . Dear Steven Sibley your letter proves once again that if a Story is repeated often enough people will believe it even though it is false and defies logic. We checked with an authority in the Bird House at Lincoln Park zoo in Chicago and she verified your statement. Shame on me for going along with that Crock. I feel like a Birdbrain. Shipping of household goods discussed i am planning to retire in january with 21 years Federal service and need answers to several questions. My wife is in the Navy stationed at Clark a in the Philippines. When she transferred from Nas Pensacola she received concurrent travel for her children. Now that i am retiring i would like to have my household goods shipped there. I have asked my transportation office Here what needs to be done and was told that since i did t have 18 years Active Federal service by nov. 1, 1981, that i would have to pay for my own shipping my retirement orders state that i have one year to Complete the selection of a Home and Complete travel in connection with these orders. My questions Are  Are my options in regards to having my household goods shipped to the Philippines 2. Are there any provisions to submit an exception to policy and have my property shipped to the Philippines 3. If As i have been told i must pick a . Posses Sion to ship my effects to could they be shipped to Guam and i pay the difference to the Philippines Douglas a. Kelley Augsburg West Germany editor s note Victoria Logan office of the Deputy chief of staff logistics he Usa eur replies a service member who had 18 years or More Active service As of nov. 1, 1981, May choose a Home of Selec Tion any place in the world for both travel and shipment of household goods at government expense. For service members who had less than 18 years As of nov. 1,1981, the Home of selection May be 1. Any place within the United states. 2. A place outside the United states if the member was initially called or ordered to Active duty from that overseas location or 3. Any place at a Cost not to exceed what it would have Cost the government had the member selected a Home at a specified place in the United states. Your situation Falls under the third category. You May ship your household goods to the Philippines. A specified place in the United states must be selected for Cost Compa Rison purposes. Your local transportation office can assist you in selecting a specific state favourable to you. All customs requirements and other legalities for in trance of your property into the Philippines Are your per Sonal responsibility. Because you Are remaining in a pay status immediate payment of excess charges will not be required. The finance Center at Indianapolis ind., will notify you of All excess charges. At that time you can make arrangements for full payment or have instalments de ducted from your retirement pay. Tour extensions Analysed carefully a recent army times article talked about extensions of overseas Tours for unaccompanied personnel from two to three years and accompanied personnel from two to four years. I arrived in Usa eur november 1986, and my unaccompanied tour was changed involuntarily about two or three months later from 18 to 24 months. When they come out with these new extensions will persons like myself be affected even though we were previously extended i recently extended for six months so i can leave in november. My new expiration of term of service ets Date is . 12.1 would appreciate any answers you can get regarding this matter. Name withheld bad Kissinger West Germany editor s note chief warrant officer 3 j. Obstacles to peace once again we hear that Israel s reluctance to sur Render the occupied territories is an obstacle to a settlement in the Middle East and that the israelis should be eager to Trade land for peace. What most people probably do not realize however is that the  an organization dedicated to the liberation of All Palestine via the destruction of Israel was founded in 1964. At that time the Gaza strip and Golan Heights were part of Egypt and Syria respectively and the West Bank and East Jerusalem be longed to Jordan. However the rights of the palestinian people were not addressed at that time and no attempt was made to establish a palestinian state in the West Bank and Gaza. In View of the arabs control Over these areas Why did they seek War with Israel in 1967? the obvious answer is that the arabs wanted Tel Aviv Haifa and the rest of Israel proper also. They still do. Peace in the Region is not possible until the so called palestinians and other arabs recognize Israel s exis tence As a right and not merely As a fact. Name withheld Frankfurt West Germany Aguirre chief management actions Branch 1st personnel come he Usa eur replies the May 23 army times article to which you Are referring was merely informing its readers that the department of the army was studying the feasibility of recommending to the department of defense that the overseas tour in Europe be lengthened for most soldiers by one year. Studies of this nature Are not unusual and overseas tour lengths Are periodically reviewed. At this time it does not appear that a change in tour length is Likely to occur in the near future however the Issue will continue to be reviewed. In this regard con Stant analysis must be made in View of increasingly severe budgetary constraints and their consequent effect on permanent change of station policies. All readers should be assured that policies of this nature receive very careful analysis at the highest Levels and Soldier and family morale play a major role in such decisions. Pen pals i am interested in having pen pals in other nations of the world. I am 10 years old. My hobbies Are biking playing with kids and collecting toys. Cristine g. Zafra Makusay Gui Huangan 6214 Negros Oriental Philippines please publish my name in your pen pal column. I am 17 years old. Ruby Runnie l. Wong129-Dcarlockst. Cebu City Philippines i am 20 years old and would like pen pals. Maria Socorro Mirafuentes 322-b Arana ext. Cebu City Philippines please publish my name in your pen pal column. I am 35 years old and Catholic. My hobbies Are cooking swimming attending sports events and listening to music. Bella b. Renacia san Jose Negros Oriental 6202 Philippines please place my name in your pen pal column. I m 29 years old and would like Long letters from pen pals All Over the world. I enjoy travelling and re music. I collect postcards. Mrs. Waltraud Setty co Sig Ron Setty a co. 5/8 inf. In. Apon.y., . 09185 please print my name in your pen pal column. Mary Gomez 23 Sta. Rosa St. Dumaqu Ete City Philippines i would like pen pals. Caridad Villalon Mabini St. 972, Dumaguet City Philippines the  european edition col Jeffrey m. Cook Usa commander editor in chief it col Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. 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