European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - August 31, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Fin a Page 11 dear Ann Landers i m a 51-year-old-male who has been dressing in women s clothing since i was a child. My Mother thought it was cute when i asked if she could put lipstick and dresses on me but of course she did t let me go to school like that. I have never appeared in pub Lic dressed As a woman although i be been wearing lace panties and bras for several years. From time to time i Felt it was t right so i would quit but there was always an irresistible urge to Start dressing again and i would give in to it. I am not a homosexual and have no interest in men. I am 6 feet tall have a Bass voice and a fair sized Adam s Apple. I could imitate the ways of a female but am afraid i could never make it As a woman because of the things i have mentioned. I finally got up the courage to ask your advice Ann. These Are my options. Please help me choose try to Stop dressing up forever. Keep doing it privately As i have been. Keep at it and have my external sex organs re moved. They Are a nuisance to me and i would like Tobe rid of them. Have a sex change operation and keep it quiet living As a Man publicly and a woman privately. Near North in chicag Odear . Chic if you can manage with option no. 2, it would be the Best Way to go. Surgery should be done Only when there is an overwhelming desire to change one s sexual identity. It involves several operations is costly painful and requires intensive psychological counselling. Dear Ann Landers my husband and i have been married for 12 years. We Are both 34 years old and have three Beautiful children. We love each other very much. The problem my Mother in Law i la Call her Linda refuses to give us any background information about her family. All we know is that in the 1940s she left her Hometown and has Cut All ties to the past. She will not Tell anybody the names of her parents grandparents aunts uncles or cousins. We Don t even know her birthday. The woman refuses to talk about her past and won t give us health histories that we feel we Are entitled to. I be come up with an idea. I want to place an and in the St. Louis paper with Linda s real name and ask her relatives to make themselves known to us. Hopefully somebody will surface. My husband wanted me to ask you if we have the right to dig up Linda s past or does she have the right to keep it to herself if Linda finds out we Are trying to get a family history she will have a fit. We love her but feel that we have a right to know these things. My husband and i will follow your recommendations. Lost family in St. Louis dear St. Louis family you have a right to know the medical history of your antecedents. For example does cancer run in your family How about diabetes Parkinson a alzheimer a kidney problems heart trouble mental illness ask your Clergyman or family doctor to intervene on your behalf. If Linda will not listen to reason Tell her that you will run the and which is sure to result in humiliation for her and cause a family rift. She has no right to deny you this information. Reader in Turkey is tired of complaints i am a family member stationed at in Ciurlik a tur key. I get very tired of hearing How bad All of you in Mainland Europe have it. Yes folks i understand that some of you Are Iso lated from the big bases but most of you Are within a two or three hour driving Range of one of the Mai bases. Yes i understand How expensive it is to live on the Economy but let s get real Here folks the government picks up a great Deal of the Tab for rent and utilities. So maybe your base Exchange Only carries six Brand names instead of seven consider yourselves  could be like us and Only have three or four and maybe five on a Good Day and a very limited Supply a that. So you get super unleaded Gas instead of regular unleaded Gas we have two Gas pumps yes Only togas pumps that carry Only leaded Gas. So maybe you can t take All the trips and see All the things you want to because of the expense but at Leas you Are offered them. We Are Only offered a limited number of trips and those Are the same ones almost every month. Take a look in the stars and stripes sometime at the Calendar of events and see How Many Are taking place in Turkey. You won t find very Many. So you can t Call Home every week neither can  Don t you suggest that your family Call you and offer to split the Cost of the Call with them so you spouse can t find a Job neither can ours. Do some Volunteer work Start a crafts club or some other Typ of club during the Day. It s a great Way to meet new people. The cold hard fact is you Are not in the Good old United states so learn to adapt make the Best of you situation and Stop complaining about what you Don t have. I Challenge any of you to come to Turkey an live for six months. I can almost bet you will go Home and be thankful for what you have. So the next time you Are feeling sorry for yourselves think about those of us serving in Turkey who Don t have what you do but Are still serving our country with Pride Claudia Wheeler in Ciurlik a Turkey take More interest in doctors one urges referencing the recent article entitled Gao faults Dod medical  now you know. Your  Tor May not be a certified specialist. He or she May not even be licensed to practice Medicine. Service members May care about the length of time it takes to be seen by a physician but Seldom express any interest in the qualifications of the person they Are entrusting their lives and health to. I have yet to be asked where i went to medical school or even if i did where i completed my specially training or do i have specially boards. In military parlance physicians Are frequently referred to As  we used to be doctors. Mili tary nurse practitioners licensed professionals All Are also lumped into that category which is More appropriately reserved for the person behind the meat coun Ter in a supermarket some service members use the term  apparently unaware that the appellation is pejorative except when applied to bandleader and sports trainers. Nitpicking perhaps and although passing an examination does not necessarily insure competence in any profession it is a beginning. Health care recipients and clients might be better served by taking a greater interest in such matters. It might also result in modicum of Mutual respect. It. Col. Or George j. Furman Torrejon a Spain Reader wants respect shown to Flag As i walked out of the Uso today maps were lower ing the american Flag. I stopped came to attention an saluted. As i did this other army members kept on walking. I noticed a Little boy who was Riding his Bike Stop and stand still. Now if i can show respect to our Flag and that Littleboy can too then what about the others who Don t care if the members of the army can t show respect tour country and our country s Flag then they had better find another country to live in. Our Freedom was fought for and we Are still fighting for it. Blood has been shed and yet some can t pay a few seconds of respect. I m proud to be an american and i m willing tonight and die for what my roots stand for. I think a few people should ask if they Are willing. If you Wear the uniform or even if you Are just from the United states you should be proud of what other shave fought and died for our Freedom. Just Stop and look up at that red White and Blue Flag and know it stands for you me and those who died for it. Pvt. 2 Michael j. 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Tina Ogden 34 Grove Road upper Mill Oldham ol3 6jr lanes England i am a letter starved Christian family Man looking to correspond with people with similar interests. My interests Are talking and writing to people playing chess ism compatible computers photography talking sports sporting activities new York kicks diehard and sightseeing. Howard i. Ely Hub 3/60th Ada apon.y., . 09114 i would like a pen pal Between the Ages of 19 24. I am 21. My interests Are keeping fit listening to pop music writing letters and going out. Mary Stott 2a Bordsall ave Little Hulton Worsley Manchester m28 6sa England i m 26 years old. My hobbies Are cooking Reading writing music. Please place my name in your pen pals column. Nena Taquita 1157-f san Marcelino St. Armita Manila Philippines please place my name in your pen pal listing. Merla f. Perez to. Bulado Gui Huangan Negros Oriental Philippines i m 29 years old. Please place my name in your list. 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