European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - September 13, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers this is to the Man who said he had slept with his minister s wife his Sisler in Law his doctor s wife and at least 100 other women but had never broken up a marriage because he always made i Clear he would never leave his wife. My husband and i have been Mam cd 30 years. I was a Virgin Bride and have been a faithful wife a Young woman our daughter s age came on to him and he look her to bed. He was so guilt Nodden and miserable that he told me about in the next Day. I forgave him did nol mention it to a soul and he never saw her again. He believes no harm was done. She thinks no harm was done but she has destroyed me. 1 am unable to grow old gracefully. 1 hate every wrinkle and every Gray hair. I feel that i will never be Able to be As sexually satisfying As that luscious Young thing. We still have an Active be life but i always feel that he is comparing me to her and my 54-year-old body is coming in a very poor second. I cry for hours when i am alone. No one suspects a thing. We now Are going out with friends again and often get told what a super marriage we have 1 feel like a fraud. I love my husband and i understand Why he was vulnerable but these women should not be allowed to think they Are hurting no one. The damage that Trollop did in one nigh was irreparable. Slow healer in Lansing dear Slaw healer i make no apologies for the Trollop but she did t hit your husband a he head Wilh club did she you need counselling to help you unload your anger. It s a Poison that is polluting Jour life. Be glad it was Only Brief fling dear and Start at once to talk it on or your system. Picking at old wounds is painful and in prevents Healing. Dear Ann Landers when i read about the insensitive treatment of the aids patient by those pharmacy clerks i had to write. 1 have experienced Simitar rudeness nol Only from clerks but from pharmacists As Well. I Don t have aids. I am a healthy married woman who went to a phar Macy to fill a prescription for birth control pills. On one occasion the male cashier opened the package of pills in front of other customers and said "1 just wanted to make sure the pharmacist put the Cornel birth control prescription in your  another Lime when i had switched to a diaphragm the male pharmacist screamed across the store filled with customers we Don t have that size diaphragm in Stock hut we can order  i said of he then said but you won t have it this weekend. Are you sure you can gel along without it this weekend All eyes were on me. 1 was deeply embarrassed and left the store As quickly As possible. What should i do in the future a my am i Reader dear Miami find another pharmacy. Dear Ann Landers i d like to repay you for All the Good advice by Shar ing a great tip on How to Cook fish without smelling up the House. It s also healthier than frying. Poach the fish in water or the liquid of your Choice and add a crust of bread. The bread will deodorize the process. If you print this a zillion Cooks will bless  v Portland dear Portland we tried it and it works. Bravo what a Boon to people who live in apartments. Ilm Flottm to Law ind Al  Linden Waucoma your of Ettta. It no pm Salt 10 or in or of thl Sun ind sir pol Apo 09211, . Facts worker classification process clarified i would like to have clarification on the process wherein jobs on . Military installations in Germany Are designated local National in or . Civilian. How and when were the designations made arc they based on percentages of positions available or Are they Job specific As Lime has passed and jobs Are Cre ated or abolished How is inc decision made to designate a Job in or .? since the executive order giving dependents greater Access to . Position went into effect have new positions still been designated in or has a greater Effort been made to designate new positions . Army clc.7 May a . Civilian position be filled by an ? in answering questions of this Type often the guest status of . Forces in Europe is cited. Are France England and Canada required to employ a proportion ale number of los or do they Reserve the right to fill their positions As they choose Are foreign government operations located in the United Stales bound by reciprocal agreements requiring them to employ . I Lutzens there can be Lille argument thai it is cheaper to employ dependents than it is to pay transportation costs and other entitlements to . Citizens hired in the United states or to pay los with their generous benefits compounded by the weak Dollar. Even with the improvement in employment opportunities that have been made the unemployment rate among dependents in Europe must be very High. Unemployment represents considerable financial loss to the individual and their families As Well us loss of tax revenues to the government and impacts on morale and Rel Calion. Though i sympathize with the plight of the dependents . Civilian employees working overseas who arc not included in priority placement were their sponsors required As a condition of employment to accept a position overseas military families have no Choice. Name withheld Miessau West Germany editor s note h c received in replies to this idler. The first is from Roger c. For Cham. Acting Dan Star. Civilian personnel Liq Safe the writer s questions Are very timely and of inter est to those seeking employment with inc air Force in Germany. The is. Air Force work Force in Germany consists of military and civilian members. The civilian portion of the work Force consists of us. Citizens and non . Citizens. The determination of whether a Given position will be military , civilian or non-. Civilian is based on the purpose of the positions including military or War fighting requirements whether a Security Clear Ance is required the availability of the required skills in the local is. Forces Community he local Economy labor Market language proficiency requirements tic. These criteria also apply to newly established positions the Nat sofa status of forces agreement does nol prescribe a specific distribution of positions Mons military . Civilian and non-. Civilian employees in Germany. The is. Air Force As an employer in a foreign country must be sensitive to Host nation political and labor concern. The air Force civilian employment mix in Germany has remained fairly constant. Is. Appropriated fund positions May not be filled by non us. Citizens . Non appropriated fund Naf positions Muy be filled by non us citizen de Pendents of . Military or Dod civilian employees if they Are i linens of nato countries other than the Host nation. Nato countries which have contingents in the United states that Are covered by the nato sofa Are the sending state As the United states a a Send ing state in Germany. The agreement applies equally. Editor s note flip second reply is ram Janet off liens civilian personnel division. Office of the i Deputy chief of staff personnel he us Akilur the designation of jobs As in or is. In usar eur is a joint Endeavor of management and manpower analyst. The first step is id determine total Man Power required to accomplish assigned missions. The first categorization is Between military and civilian and then if civilian Between is. And local National. This 1 a continuing process As missions evolve reorganizations occur and skills requirements change. With regard to civilian staffing Dod policy requires a manpower mix is. Citizens and input nation als that blends financial prudence conformance Wilh agreements and treaties and availability of Quali fied personnel in either category. No percentages Are prescribed by Dod policy for either category nor does the status of forces agreement prescribe a ratio of los Lovs. Citizen i. However to is Dod policy to give preference in hiring to dependents of military and civilian personnel. As just one component of a Multi Nalion Multi ser vice nato Structure Many factors enter Inlo deter mining the . Army s manpower mix. All categories of personnel military and civilian is. Citizen and local National Are needed to get the Jub done. Wilh respect to civilian support career department of the army civilians Are needed for certain managerial positions and for positions requiring skills not available locally or in the military Structure. Local nationals lend stability and continuity to the employing organizations provide skills not available in the family member labor Market and meet require ments for continued support to the armed farces in the event of mobilization and the evacuation of family members and non emergency essential us civilian employees. Local nationals May not occupy a position designated for is. Occupancy but family members May occupy , and in positions spaces. Family member employment Wilh the army in Europe has increased from less than 5,000 in 1971, when the family Mem Ber employment program began to Over 27,000 today. The military spouse preference program affords an even higher preference for employment for military spouses. As general Rule when recruiting from Oul Side the current work Force military spouses Are Given preference Over local nationals and family members of civilian employees. To the question were their sponsors civilian employees required As a condition of employment to accept a position overseas overseas service is not an absolute condition of employment for most army civil  employees. However since the army s Mission is worldwide most career programs strongly encourage mobility to include overseas assignments. Many Ca reer Fields e.r-, ammunition surveillance and certain logistical tech Niclai assistance personnel require As a condition of employment mobility agreements to serve wherever whenever directed. Many employees in these Fields spend their careers rotating Between Over seas and Continental United Stales assignments. Like the service member in the Volunteer army these civil  employees accepted overseas service As a condition when they signed up. We cannot speak Wilh authority on the existence of reciprocal agreements if any which might require for eign operations in the United states to employ . Citizens. 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