European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - October 28, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse Friday october 26, 1983 the stars and stripes Ann Landers Page 11 letters dear Ann binders i have been a health professional Tor years and applaud your advice to seek counselling. It is not a cop out. It is encourage ment in Lake Steps Hal could change lives. Please Ann impress on your readers the importance of getting the right therapist. Not Only should they pay attention to appropriate training credentials and i censure it is essential thai the therapist have a healthy personally. Those who do not have been known to exploit patients emotionally financially and sexually i know whereof i speak. A few years ago i was faced with a major personal crisis and sought counselling. My therapist was warm supportive and caring. He encouraged me to see him More pc quintly when free time opened up. I thought he was wonderful. Then during a session he suddenly began to talk about a far Eastern religion that he assured me would provide the answers to All my prob lems. He spoke with such passion and intensity that i became alarmed. At the dose of the session he shouted Are you going to commit yourself to this or not 1 asked what he Means by a he Nril red give me s10,000 a i never went Back. My next therapist was cold aloof and impersonal but he seemed competent. Then 1 policed that he started to be late for my and forgot what i had told him in previous sessions the final Straw was when he neglected to Ell me that he was taking a vacation. I later Learned that he was experiencing a crisis very much Liucc my own and could not be objective about my situation so he was avoiding me. If he had been a first rate therapist he would have referred me to someone else. By this time i Lead settled into a chronic depression. 1 chose a therapist who had a Fine reputation but i began to wonder about him when he told me Afler my third visit that i was never to discuss with my Hus band anything that we talked about during therapy. When i asked Why he said because he might think that some of the things i say Are a Tew weeks later he was furious because i had mailed him an article that had been accepted by a Small literary Magazine. He told me i was acting out Hal the piece was trivial the Magazine unimpressive and that he should charge me Lor the time it took to read it. He Speni the entire session talking about his anger and insisting that i had abused him. When i left his office t was in cars. Please. Ann Tell your readers that therapy is difficult and painful enough without having to work with a nut. If it happened to me it can happen to anyone. To borrow a phrase from the child abuse experts if in feels icky it probably is. Vou May use my letter but please Don t use my name. As it is the therapists i wrote about Are going to recognize themselves which is of but i Don t want anyone else to know. Crofton my. Tattu Crofton Seldom will i devote an entire column to one letter but i fell yours was Worth it. Since the Success of therapy depends on selecting the right therapist How does one nuke � Wist Choice i know or no better criterion than yours if it feels icky,1 in probably in an Gollel Tirol Suraf Tellad it Futon a Landers wat ories your Artia. Vou can �1iu to her in Clio of tub shh we Sll pal Apo 09211, us. Force writers comment on importance of voting i applaud the gentleman who wrote concerning the raise the boys on Capitol Hill Are granting themselves while the Federal deficit and National Debl have grown and military pay benefits and programs Are being Cut. He hit the Nail on the head on several Points. However he missed the Nail on the most important thing he mentioned we the people. What do i mean Well we the people arc the very ones who elected these so called servants of the people to office. Thai is assuming we All vote and the sad and scary tact is we All Don Here Hen is the problem we have became so apathetic that we have allowed and continue to allow individuals we Are finding less and less trustworthy and More and More self serving to make decisions we Don l like. And while the majority complain Only a minority participate in government in an Effort to make positive changes. So what do we do it in t a what we should do it s what we must do we must All re exam inc our role in govern ing the greatest nation on Earth and exercise our Legal right and moral obligation to do exactly what the Constitution of the United Stales asks us to do. That is to periodically review the stewardship of those entrusted with office. If their performance is seen As lacking we replace them with someone who will do a . This is the Basic concept of inc const Lulion and the key to pulling and keeping a Leash on our elected officials. Not until we inc people As it whole gel off our backsides and into the voting Booths can we expect to change the face of government not until we the people raise the voice of displeasure to such a level that it shakes Capitol Hill right off its foundations can we expect any belter performance from our elected officials in fact it can and will get Wonc unless we demand our elected officials get Back to people serving in Stead of self serving. In a nutshell we the people Are the ones to blame for inc won in our government not Capitol Hill. We let them stay there and until we Start caring they will keep daring to line their pockets and serve their own interests. Ironically we have the Power to change their self serving attitude. The question is How much worse docs it have to get a foe we use in for those of you not sure How or where to Start try voting. It s the first step. Master sri. Robert w. Fonlk bit burp. West Germany today i received my Absentee ballot for inc up coming election. 1 truly believe thai my Vole counts. I Wilt Voic and mail my ballot. I however feel thai in Light of constant news coverage in regards to polls Many people May not vote. I wish to remind voters that polls do not elect our Percsi Donl voters do. Please vote. Susan m. Mccormack Raf Alconbury England family thanks those who got involved on thursday october 13th, three school buses going to inc american High school in osterholz sch Armbeck were involved in a serious Accident. Both of our daughters were Riding one of those buses. We would like to thank the Many people involved in help ing them. First the Brave Young people who were Riding the bus James Momon Tanya Markham Jason Marsh and i am sure others forced open the door broke out win Dows and assisted fellow students in leaving the bus quickly and safely. Robert Guyer stayed with our daughter Michele talking to her calming her and get Ting her into an ambulance. The list ofsted cols who helped one another could go on for pages. Their Cour age was remarkable. Our words cannot express thanks enough to Thomas Plumly. He got Back into the bus and stayed with our arizonan get together i know in s beyond ils birthday but what the hey in s Lime for All inc ionians arizonans native or otherwise to come and have a get together in Gln Hauson. West Germany at the Nashville Rodeo Saloon upstairs. In s a Good Chance for some who have been away from Home to gel to know other people from inc same state. The gel together will be Del. 29, from 6 . When the place opens until everyone quits. Since it s so close to halloween go ahead and dress up. There will be Arizona stale flags to Mark where the party is located. If you have any trouble hop in a cab and just say who knows maybe you la run into some old friends and meet a few new ones. Michelle Harris Gln Hauson weal Germany daughter Melanie for Over 30 minutes until she was freed from the wreckage. He walked calmly reminded her to breathe deeply and reassured her Hal she was indeed All right. He even had the presence of mind to remove her glasses and Wristwatch and gel Ihm to a close Friend. Because of this Young Man whom she did not even know our daughter did not become hysterical and further injure herself trying to escape. Canna like that is so rarely seen these Days. The German emergency people who responded to the Accident were very kind and efficient. All of the children got Quick care and Calm words of concern. Some even took time to stroke a head or give a hand squeeze. The school nurse Yvonne Carstairs was on sick leave but she responded to the emergency Loo. She Well to the Hospital to sort out the injured to Call parents and to locale other students who had been transported to hospitals in Bremen her reassurance and help cannot be overestimated and we truly thank her. There was a Young american Man name unknown who was visiting in the Bremen Nord Hospital. He sat in the emergency room with Michele until she could be a Rayed and seen by the doctor. At a Lime when she was Hurt and alone m a strange Hospital his Calm and kindness were her lifeline. It was several hours before we located her and could gel to her. I cannot Lell you what in Means to know someone took the Lime to care. The German doctors and nurses have been wonder Ful. Our special friends have Given us love and prayers beyond belief. To All of you thanks for your support Al a very difficult Lime in our lives. We do appreciate your phone Calls visits to the Hospital and goodies for the girls. Michele is Home now and Melanie will be Home soon. 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