European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 10, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers i am writing this letter from the Hospital. A nurse has prom ised to mail it. I need to know in am justified in being upset. Three Days ago i gave birth to my fourth daughter. My Mother in Law came to see me and the new baby within three hours of the birth. She patted my hand v1 and said Don t be upset be cause in was t a boy. You can try Jig again dear. You know we Are de � pending on you to make sure the family name is carried  i said look Mother i am 38 years old and have had four children and three miscarriages in seven years. Please Don t depend on me to do any  i then got a lecture on tradition family Pride and a wife s  i could t believe it after All they Aren t exactly the Kennedy or the Rockefeller my husband Sal there like a bump on a log. He did t say a word. Was i wrong to answer her Back an to be Hurt because he did t speak up for me Providence  Pom Daxauer the source. Anyone who would come to the Hospital three noon after birth has Vauneal where her bras Klong. Hmm m your husband. He sorely should Haw taken your sle. Show him this column and it i Hope he can work the gumption to be More support in of you in whet Bare. Dear Ann Landers i am a widower 6s years old. I have met a wonderful lady who loves me As much As 1 love her now the problem my wife was socially prominent dignified and Well bred. Our marriage was better than most but she was cold did t like sex and never made me feel like much of a Man. My new love it warm and affectionate. We have a great time together. I have Given her a ring but recently i postponed the wedding. We have no problems regarding religion no Money problems and no trouble with our grown children. To put in frankly i am ashamed of the Way she talks. Her English is atrocious and she can out cuss any Man i be Ever met i m Well respected and have been reluctant to Lake my new companion to Nice places because of her Lan Guage. What should i to.  Tell your lady what ii bothering you. She can certainly Dean up her in Guage if she wants to and her atrocious English can be improved with some tutoring. This relationship appears to have so Many pluses for Yoy i Hope things work out. Dear Ann Landers for the past 3 Lycan i have had my brother and his whole family for thanksgiving dinner Christmas Din Ner and easter Brunch. We Tove him and his wife dearly and their children and grandchildren Are All wonderful but i would con Sider in heaven to be a guest once in a while instead of always the hostess. How can i Call a halt after All this Lime without offend ing anyone in was my husband s idea to write to you Milwaukee dilemma dear Milwaukee -"., family traditions die hard especially when Good of aunt Nell Sels a great table and is such a Lovely hostess.  v. A. V ,.- phone your brother s wife today and Tell her thai Yon want to alternate from now on and that you d like the next Holiday dinner to be at her Home. It s As simple As that  Angil i Trimi  Cofer Enlil Linda i it Fermi your Etoir. Vou in win 10 in in tin of to san ind Strum Apo 09211. Us. Otom .--.-. Reader upset by Leader s poor example some time ago a letter appear which decried the menace known As the Kamikaze Curc. Anyone old enough to Sec Over the dashboard has seen one of these terrors blasting Down the autobahn at a velocity far in excess of the Legal Speed for government vehicles. I d like to add another menace that is just As bad but for some reason appears to be invisible the Kamikaze Carryall you have probably seen quite a few of these too. They jus seem to blend in easily with the other vow vans plying the highways. I happened upon iwo such Carryall in september. One was in Crafin Wihr a town on the verge of civil unrest Over heavy tactical vehicles most of which behave themselves blocking traffic in he Commer Cial area. This particular Carryall was in front of me at the Only traffic Light in town and i noticed him because of his Munich top plate. As soon As the Light turned Green he shot through the intersection As though being chased and was doing Well Over 70 Kilometres per hour several blocks before reaching the town limit sign. Ordinarily i might have gotten really upset about that Clown. That Day however i had already had my run in with a real Kam Klaic Carryall. In the Early afternoon 1 encountered a Carryall bearing Wurzburg lags heading East towards Gra fun Wber. He was following a slow moving car and was about to pull out to pass when i fell in behind him. Soon after i passed As Well. The Carryall appeared to be moving along pretty fast so 1 decided to catch up and write Down his lag number. He was do irk 120kilometers per hour when i again fell in behind him. We soon met a not so fast moving gasoline truck. Rather than slow Down to the Speed of the Tanker which was moving right along at 80 Kilometres per hour he passed on a wind curve and continued on his merry Way to graft Wohr. I was rather upset at this behaviour. So girded up in righteous indignation 1 waited for a Clear spot and passed the Tanker. The Carryall was just barely insight but with the help Ofa traffic Light i caught up. I allowed the Carryall to Grafe Wohr Post intend ing to say something to the Driver. He Pul cd up in front of the 7th army training come headquarter Sand Oul popped a colonel. I decided to say nothing to him i thought about reporting his plate to he we Pitburg maps and the local my desk but then decided it would make no difference. Back at the office As i gazed thoughtfully at he latest portrait of one of my soldiers compliments of the local Polisei and their radar camera it hit me As to Why my soldiers Speed they Are taught Todo so by us their leaders. Here was a colonel who was talc for an important meeting. He climbed into his Carryall and told his Driver Wink to be careful and to Wink Wink get him to graft Wohr Wink without getting him a speeding ticket Wink but thai he s late and Don t spare the horses. Great example for my soldiers and yours in t it please do me a favor the next time you hop into your top vehicle and head out for your big appoint ment. Remember the example that you set when you Speed. The troops Are not stupid they simply see you speeding and think they can do the same. My Job of convincing soldiers to slay within the government vehicle Speed limit is made hard enough because the required Speed is Well below the Normal traffic flow. You could make my Job a lol easier i you would just remember to follow the. Rules you place on us. Name withheld knife Ritvo or West Germany editor s note Robert Lee my policy advisor Hal Usarek replies the Points Yon made Are Well taken of there is going to be widespread compliance Ullh published Speed limits there has in be command emphasis with leaders Selling the example. The colonel in the incident you cited probably fulled to realize the impart his actions have on those in his command. A concerted Effort should be nude by every one regardless of rank to comply Ullh the Legal Speed limits for military vehicles and to report violations. Immigrant aliens can serve in military 1 have a question about the different nationalities of people being allowed in the United Stales aimed  i know of people from Panama Yugoslavia Canada and the Philippines who arc now serving in our Mili tary ".  Don t get me wrong. I have nothing against these people. 1 think America is the greatest country Inch world. .".-.  ,.-. Bui with the new immigration Laws i d like to know How these people Are affected. I be been told that you Don t have to be a citizen to serve in t this a danger to our Security. Name and location withheld editor s note Michael Bryceland military personnel management specialist office at the Deputy chief of staff personnel he Usa eur replies a person does not have to be a citizen to serve. Immi Grant Lem aliens lawfully admitted into the United slates for permanent residence Are eligible to enlist aliens cannot enlist for training or Aulon men requiring a Security clearance. Aliens most undergo an Entrance National Agency Check performed for Security Pur poses As part of their enlistment. Service is limited to seven Yean for non citizens nationals of the United states american Sun eans and Virgin islanders Are eligible to enlist. Citizens of the Federated Stales of Micronesia and the Republic of the Marshall islands also Are eligible. Based in history one subjective answer to whether enlistment of Tom Lgrant is danger to oar Security to a resounding no. I. Service in the military shortens immigrant resident requirements from fire to i rec years for naturalization. This is How America says thank you to our new members who contribute to the Security of their new country by serving in the military. Pen pals i would ill a to Burih Binyour in Ful column. I in it Mew o. Irti  of Tenn raid.  a Ortity. So iwo eng nun London he sch Englund " ski your column. A mini clip to Mph 0. No to Mufic. Swimming. 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