European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - November 14, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse I Lander dear Ann Landers my name in t the same As yours but like the woman who wrote to you recently our voices Are identical. Wherever i go people turn around and ask. Are you Ann Landers when i Tell them no they say Well you must be 1 did t believe the similarity unlit i look a course in communications made several tapes and listened to myself. I was born in Sedalia mo., went to grammar school in Sturgeon and attended High school in co Lumbia to. When i married and moved to califor Nia in 19551 thought f sounded like a Yankee. I was wrong. People Tell me i will never lose my midwestern accent and that i ought to get a Job Pinch Hilling for you. That got me to thinking. I m sure you Tan t possibly do All the things that you Are asked to do and i would love to be your alter ego. How about it Ann will you interview me fori Ejob your Echo in the West dear West i do ill my own writing and All my own talking Andi Don l nerd an i conf egg there were limes when i wished i had a More cultivated Folce but i Reilie it s toil canst so tin going to Mike do with these Iowa pipes. Who know one Day i might win i hag calling contest. Yon May find the next letter amusing. I did. Dear Ann Landers i do not have the same name As yours but i do look like you. Which is just As Good. Maybe better. People think i m Ann Landers going incognito. Whenever i cat out they give me a wonderful Lable. 1 Jet vip treatment while shopping and everyone is awfully Nice to me when 1 took a Load into the laundromat the other Day the woman ahead of me said i know who you Are and i love your column. You must be a lot busier than Lam so please go just though j d let Yoti know How much fun t am having. Hope you Don i mind. Your look alike on Long Island dear look alike i Don t mind a bit. Just behave yourself please. Dear Ann Landers i m Happy you Don t think much of kiddie Beauty contests. The letter from the Mother of two tots Bali had failed to place after spent a Tot of Money getting them ready said the ii tile girls were crushed. Now i see ads for kiddie cosmetics Rouge lipstick Eye Shadow and Mascara for Tittle to pics As Young As 5" what in the Sam Hill is going on one of the Central problems with Young people today is that they arc rushed into adult roles before they Are ready. The results Are disastrous. They lose interest in school become involved with alcohol and drugs get sexually Active Long before they arc emotionally ready and the suicide rate far teens is alarming. ,.1 am not suggesting that i f youngsters arc encouraged to use makeup at an Early age they arc going to kill themselves but what bothers me is that we Are not letting our children enjoy being children. My wife says Lam Square. What do you say David d. In Illinois dear David i say Yon Are right on. If you and your wife Piru battling about this in relation to your own Young sters i Hope you Ang a Timsit Lyn Dziad Gnu Ortii Landau nth come your itto you can win Loim in Cara of or Sun and so pm. Apo 09j11, . Monday november 14, 1988 the stars and stripes Page 11 letters Soldier responds to teen Ager s letter this is in response to the Young lady who wrote saying she was deceived by a married Soldier. In Reading your Teller i can understand your anger and resentment having listened to and experienced similar situations myself. Out your Teller does t clarify some Points leaving questions unanswered. I m going to leave that alone rather than dig further. However upon Reading the last paragraph of your letter i feel you could have used some tact in the Way you decided to word it As a Young sergeant 21living in the Barracks with Peers and subordinate alike i have had Many experiences with people some of my own included thai Bea your statements out. But what makes you think we soldiers treat love As a game you want games consider the following try being a Young single 18 or 19-year old male from the United slates stationed in a foreign country for Over a year. Try being in a country with no proficiency in the language or customs and then being expected to blend in with the locals. First you must get into the local establishments Tomix with them. Many clubs have rules to deny in trance to male soldiers. If you succeed in getting in then you May have difficulty with the language and customs. Assuming things do go right what Are the circumstances of your meeting a local girl is she just looking for a Way to the states or is she looking for a military husband in general this brings us to another group the female soldiers. If they Are not married then there is Competition for their attention. Since male soldiers outnumber female soldiers by a Large margin the female Soldier winds up with a Choice. Sure they can argue about meeting As sorted jerks and idiots but they at least have plenty to choose from. The male Soldier winds up competing for a smaller number of available females which brings up questions on this end also is she playing off several Guys at once is she just looking for some Security since and dad Aren t around anymore neither arc her friends Back Home. "".-. Is there a Boyfriend Fiance husband Back in the states at another Post. Or is she just looking to get married let s not forget the instances of the married dependents and soldiers looking for someone else while their spouse is gone i be seen countless soldiers of both sexes find out the hard Way about these individuals usually in the same manner you did Surprise that leaves dependent children mostly the 16-to is year Olds As an alternate Many Young soldiers feel i Ideal compared to the obstacles facing them from other groups sure there Are problems Here also. Among them differing Levels of maturity parents friends of differ ent backgrounds and cliques and yes sometimes age. But then again these arc problems most of these soldiers have already faced before Only a few Short years ago and have Learned How to Deal with them. But what make you think there is that much differ ence in age Between 1 i and 21 ? then been today Are a lot older than even we were at that age and living in the Barracks for the last three years leads me to believe thai the age difference i blown out of proportion. You would be amazed at the problems the Young soldiers have and the emotions they can convey. These individuals have the same fear and insecurities and the same need for love and affection you do. Why Don t you ask the recipients or the infamous dear John and dear Jane tellers or the Young lady crying because every Man she has Mcl is married or is a creep to her excluding the married tag. You could just As easily be talking to your friends in a High school hallway As you could to a Young enlisted Soldier in the Barracks. Your age did not have that much to do with you being deceived. You could have been 26 just As easily As 16.til admit that at your age it is harder la Deal with due to inexperience with the problems of life. A lot of people have been where you re Al Bot military and civilian. And icy will let you you can be Hurt just As badly at 18 or 21 As you can at 16. I a witnessed it often enough and Felt in myself to know that it can and will happen. It you really believe All of us soldiers Are out to treat teen agers As toys then maybe you should con Sider clicking to your own age group. This will Only solve your problems temporarily until your Peers Are married. It does not solve the problem in general. You could undoubtedly take any of the four groups have mentioned above and i guarantee that every one of them could name problems with the other groups. We arc no Angels and cause just As Many problems for i Host groups As they cause for us. The Point i am trying to make is that you were deceived by a Soldier not All emf soldiers. And the individual who Hurt you is part Ofa minority. What this Soldier did to you was wrong and i do not condone his actions. I am sure my Peers and subordinates agree. However All of us Are subject lop eople like him not just you or your peer group. We cringe with dread when we hear stories such a yours. We know in happens and we cannot do Loo much about it except talk 10 our subordinates and explain to them their moral As Well As Tejai ubi Iga Lions. 1 hate to think of what might have happened had you consented and were left with child. This problem has no immediate solution and the ones we have and enforce Don t always work to Slop these individuals in time. But Al least some of us arc trying. ,.As Lime goes by 1 Hope that instead of holding on to your anger and resentment you will use the experience to help keep others from getting into you situation. 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