European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 3, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse The stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers after losing a Icen age son in an Auto Accident i found that there Are a lot of people who have no idea How to express sympathy ordeal with me since the tragedy. I Don t like to be avoided or treated As if my son never existed. Don t Lell me i know How you if it has t Hap i pc cd to you there is no Way you i can come close to knowing the Terri Etc grief thai comes from los ing a child. After Only six months people come up 10 me and say it s Lime to gel on with your they have no idea that the grieving process can sometimes take two years or longer. All people need to do is say they arc Jorry and Lien treat me the Way they have always treated me. They can bring up my son in Ordinary conversation. I like to talk about him just As they like to talk about their children. I wanted to share my mines. Ann. In he nope that i might help educate those who have no idea now to behave or what to say to a grieving Parent. Beaumont Mother dear Mother thanks for an extremely useful letter. You be done a. Beautiful Job of educating millions of Well meaning bul inept people today. Dear Ann Landers i read with amusement the letter from the woman in Longview Texas who misses her Skinny friends. I wanted to let her know that 1 once used Many of the same excuses that her fat friends use but t Man aged to lose 250 pounds. Please be aware thai 85 pounds of that grand total was my husband i did it by eating after supper and walking iwo Miles every morning with my Best Friend a Cocker Spaniel who does t come Home drunk does t lie to me in t jealous of my friends and does t talk about me behind my Back. A co worker once told me that his Fiancee has a weight problem and he would do anything in the world to help her because she is kind compassionate has a terrific sense of humor and he loves her dearly. Too bad my sex husband did t have the same Loving approach toward me when t began to put on the pounds. His Lousy Atli Ludo made me cat More and finally As a Mailer of survival i had to get out of that marriage. Now i am Ever so much happier and getting slim in Lowell mass. Dear lira. Thank you far slamming Home the message in a Way thai to sure to nuke an Impact. The muslims around the country Neil Bliss you. Dear Ann Landers 1 have a relative whom my husband and 1 adore. We like to Call. Marie and her husband Long distance when we can afford to. Every Lime we do she puts their 9-Monlh-old son on inc phone to say i to your aunt and that kid does t know who we arc and the whole thing makes no sense whatever. 1 would like to Tell Marie to Slop doing it bul i m afraid i la Hurt her pc cling do you think i should be quid and continue to pay to hear the baby say goo go gaga Jane in Colo. Spring dear Lane i m going Mil on a limb and suggest that you be completely honest. Tell Marie that you Call to talk with her and her husband and please Don t put the child on until he knows who you Are and can respond intelligently. I have a feeling that if Job follow my advice your Telephone Bills Are going to be dramatically lower. New system for promotions explained a recent article has me really concerned. It s about the army making Ploc and Basic no course inc of a requirement for promotion to sergeant and staff Serjeant. One of my fellow cos told me there would be a change to inc policy on the promo lion Points bal were previously received for comple Tion of Ploc. Since Ploc is becoming mandatory for promotion 1o sergeant we will no longer receive the 30 promotion Points. Also soldiers already on he promotion list will lose these 30 Points. 1 need to know if this is Irue. I asked my training no and he said it want would you please verify this information the no who told me this also said in would take Start during next year s a comp in february. 1 do Hope that this is false information. It look Loo Long for me to earn Hose 30 Points. Losing those Points overnight As so Many other soldiers did when the army implemented the new promotion system makes me furious. The army also wants to make Basic no course mandatory Lor promotion to staff sergeant. How can this be when so Many military occupational specialities Moss Don t have a Basic no course my mos 76c20 Ison Efthem. Right now 1 can t go to the Basic no courses until become a staff sergeant and my mos automatically changes to 76y20.1 want to know what the army is doing about this problem. 1 know that there is an awareness of this problem from Reading the army times. But the Only thing that s happening is the army is making it harder and harder to get promoted. Be cause of this a lot of our most experienced and needed cos win be lost. Uii Iem. Lewis Malm West Germany editor s chief warrant Allicer 3 Ca. I a chief per Mast mob 1st personnel come i Miqu Sarteur replies thank you for the Opportunity to address an important Issue that will have a future Impact on enlisted soldiers e-6 and below. Some of the information you have received thus far is True but some needs clarification. Effective oct. 1.1989, soldiers will be required to be graduates of Ploc in order to be eligible for promotion to sergeant e-5. This Means that after this Dale sol atm most be graduates prior to being authorized to appear before he promotion Board. In addition soldiers who Are graduates of resident Picoc pc no Academy prior to oct. 1,1976, or inc of except Amedd inc of prior to Jan. 1, 1986 Are considered to have met the Ploc require. Mint. Since Ploc will be mandatory soldiers who Are on the standing list for promotion to sergeant �-5 and Are graduates of one of the above courses will be re moved from the standing list on sept 30. 1989. Once removed soldiers must first satisfy the Ploc require ment and then be boarded again in order to gain list status. " it Teche with the february 19x9 and May 1989 pro motion recompute plans promotion Points will no longer be awarded far Ploc pc Picoc or no facade my courses. Of this is identical to the 1986 change when Ploc for promotion to a and Points were no longer granted to e-5s for course Atten dance Points will continue to be awarded for inc of and Fanner primary technical courses pc which have been renamed inc of. Your personnel service Center has a list of the 14 pc courses at this Point the army s method used to establish the monthly promotion Point Elolf stores needs to be addressed. Promotion scores Are reported to Iilda with a three month Lead time. Each month the mos Culott score for the coming month is established based on projected vacancies and budgetary constraints he department of the army had a then establishes cutoff score thai Wilt allow certain number of promotions. When there arc already enough soldiers in the higher Grade no promotions can be nude and the score will be set High , 998. Since Ploc will now he mandatory awarding Points for this training would serve no purpose. Richer Aqda will eliminate these Points and Baring done so wit adjust he monthly cutoff scores beginning May 1, 1989, for promotion to e-5 and aug. 1,1989, to e-6 to maintain the required promotions based in criteria mentioned above ., projected vacancies. Adjusting the promotion cutoff scores has caused mis understanding in the past and needs to be understood by he Soldier affected before in occurs. There is a Chance that some of the Colon scores published after the new recomputation scores become effective May and August will be lower than they were previously. Soldiers in these Moss immediately feel that had they lost inc Points the would have had enough Points to be promoted. This u True since had they still had the Points the cutoff score could have been expected la be 30 Points higher to result in the same number of promotions. Replying la your question about inc of beginning in 1990, a Soldier Wirtz pos that has a inc of will be required to graduate from inc of in order to be in the zone of consideration for sergeant lint class and Advance non commissioned Elicer course attendance. The message announcing the zone of consideration for Sec Ancor will list those Mosi exempted from the inc of prerequisite due to Lack of a course or recent Start up of course normally fewer than two years prior la convening of the Board. Requiring inc of for promotion to sergeant first class is another step award implementing the recommendation of the 1985 no professional develop men study to make noes progressive sequential and mandatory for promotion. --.-. Aqda is in the final process of gathering information which will be used to determine if ii is feasible and affordable to make inc of. A requirement for promo Tion to staff sergeant and Ancor a requirement for promotion to sergeant first class. A decision is expected in the first Quarter of 1989. If this concept is approved it is expected to Altel soldiers immediately bul rather will be phased in like other changes Hare been. I Hope ibis Only answers your questions but also provides you and the other soldiers in Usa eur with information on upcoming changes in the promotion sys Lem. V / pen pals Toan pub Iri my Ina i or four column. .1 win postal cwt. Apo n.t., . 0t would Lik to i14hg Mem pan plot i a 24 Waart bid Arr Ajoy is dind Lii Laning la Mutuc Ana m. 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