European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - December 13, 1988, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Tuesday december 13, 1988 Ann Landers the stars and stripes Page 11 letters dear Ann Landers the christinas holidays Are approaching. Please do your readers a big favor and ask them no to inquire of friends and co workers where they Are going for Holiday supper. They May not be going anywhere. Every year at this time 1 wish 1 could Commil suicide and come Back to life on Jan. 2. Please Ann Don t suggest that i go to the salvation army or an other or those places thai teed people. I know a great Many folks in ii 1own and everyone is aware that i have Chil Dren. I am ashamed thai my children do not include me and i Don t want to make them look bad. Thank you for printing his. You need nol comment because 1 am sure your thoughts arc the same As mine. Lonely in new England Dew lonely this letter in print May not change your life but i can assure you hat it is going to Mike a difference in some families. Sometimes people need to be nudged into doing the right thing and i m sure Jour letter will nudge them. Dear Ann Landers please Tell those Dunic headed men out there that just because a woman has had a Hysterectomy docs not mean she no longer desires sex. Women who have had his operation can still be come sexually aroused and have orgasms. In fact sex can be belter than Ever when there is no worry about getting pregnant. It is also a great Relief not to be both ered with menstrual cycles. I Don t know if your editors will allow you to print this but i Hope they do because it is a Lotc thai needs to be aired. The amount of ignorance on this subject among so called enlightened men is appalling. Sign me liberated by surgery and happier than Ever Dearll there is a great Deal of evidence to support the theory thai if a woman loses interest in sex after Hysterectomy the reason is psychological my editors Are very Good about letting me decide what goes into this column. They understand that my principal objective la to educate the Reading Public bless them for the Freedom they have Given me. You can be sure that this column will appear in print. Dear Ann Landers i come from a poor uneducated dysfunctional fam ily. As a result of an unhealthy environment i became an unmarried Mother before my 15th birthday. I had t completed the eighth Grade. By the Grace of god a lot of hard work and a Tittle bit of Luck i managed to break out of the Cycle and am doing very Well. For Yean i be been socializing with Middle to upper class professionals. With each new introduction i am Taccad with the same question How old arc your children answering this question reveals How Young i was when i had my first child i try to tactfully change the subject. Sometimes this works but More often than not it Only intensifies the person s curiosity. He or she becomes More persistent and 1 feel trapped after 20 year of counselling i still can t talk about my childhood except with those whom i be grown to love and Trust. How can i handle this i will nol lie and i Don t want to appear mysterious. West Palm Beach dear w. Palm you have no obligation to respond to questions you do nol wish to answer. If a person continues to press for the Ages of your children consider ii a fishing expedition ind reply they Are grown now and change the sub Arafat decision is called unfortunate the recent  decision not to Grant Plo chief Yasser Arafat a visa to enter the country in order to speak before the United nations general Assembly deals a serious blow o the sovereignty of that body. It also sends the world an unfortunate signal Aslo our commitment to the United nations. More than inc politics surrounding the Arafat visit and its implication the refusal o allow him to speak before the United nations represents . Censorship and manipulation of an International body created to Foster peace through understanding. Pan of that understanding comes from uncensored discussion and debate. . General Secretary Javier pern do Cullar invited Arafat As a representative of the palestinian people and a Central figure in Middle East affairs to speak at a meeting specifically called together to discuss the problems of that troubled re Gion. Why did the United slates refuse the visa request officially it was refused because of Arafat s terrorist connections. This May be a valid claim by the United states but it did nol prevent the United Stales from granting a visa to Arafat for a , visit some years Back when he truly was More Active in the crimes of terrorism. The real reason May lie in the fear Hal Israel has of seeing Arafat s stature raised in the International Community especially in Light of the latest developments regarding Ine declaring of a palestinian stale. Israel is concerned that Many nations have officially recognized the declaration and fell Hal . Approval to allow Arafat to enter its country would in fact Lead to implicit recognition of the palestinian state by the United Stales. Vet the Only Way thai the United slates could recognize the state is by voting for or abstaining to vote for a .-sponsored Resolution to do exactly that something the United slates is unlikely to do at this Point. Despite denunciations the world Over the United states will nol alter its stance. The United nations will now do something unprecedented in its history it has voted to move inc general Assembly to Geneva and conduct its meeting on inc Middle East situation Here. Thai move will do Little other than delay Arafat s address to inc general Assembly. Yet in further dam Ages our prestige in the International Community. The United states inc Mecca of Modem democracy can ill afford such a setback. At a Lime when the United nations is gaining in stature its peacekeeping troops recently won the Nobel peace prize the United Stales is contradict ing its own Hopes for that organization after All in was the United slates of America that brought the United nations to life to do exactly what it is trying to do in this Case bring about a peaceful solution loan exist ing problem. Sol Gerald w. Wood Berlin. West Germany the Day Neil Armstrong stepped onto the surface of the Moon an italian Soldier watching the even on to in the Vicenza Exchange turned and said to me you Musl be very proud to be an american  i certainly was. Today 1 am still proud but 1 am not proud of the decision to refuse a visa to Yasser Arafat. The excuse that the Plo supports terrorism is weak. There Are iranian syrian and libyan delegations run Ning All Over the United nations in new York yet we do not refuse them a visa. We continue to blindly support Israel White Israel uses tactics reminiscent of the nazis to suppress the palestinians on the West Bank and the Gaza strip. The palestinians lived in what is Israel today for nearly 2,000 years prior to the emotional and arbitrary establishment of Israel in what was an attempt to atone for the holocaust. Enough is enough shame on George Shultz and president Reagan. Name withheld i Lell Broom West Germany civilian leave Transfer program discussed am interested in knowing of any civilian or fam ily member employee who was injured at rams Cin to whom i might donate some annual leave Lime to help Oul. Can you Hel p me and perhaps encourage others to do so Kim Mills Baum older West Germany editor s note Francis r. Flynn director of chilian personnel he Safe replies there la a temporary program currently in effect under which the unused accrued annual leave of civil Ian employees of the Federal government May be transferred for use by other employees who need such leave because of Persona emergency. The concept of the program is to provide income Protection through the Transfer of annual leave when an employee because of the personal emergency is absent from duly without available paid leave. Coder the interim administrative rules of this pro Gram the potential recipients submit applications for leave to their supervisors or through other approved Agency procedures. If such an employee is not Capa ble of making application on his or her own behalf another employee in the recipient s Agency or a Des. Ign aled representative May make written application on the recipient s behalf. The leave Transfer is made Tram specific donors to specific recipient for use an a current basis or May be retroactively substituted for leave without pay or used to liquidate advanced leave. To the Best of my knowledge there were no Federal civilian employees injured in the Ramsten disaster which you reference in your letter. I would like to say however that it is commendable that you would be willing to donate some of your annual leave to help a fellow  a need arises for annual leave donors in will be publicised thrash a Ricus Rit. Atrero to is expected As has occurred with most cases thus far that ample annual leave is donated by the recipient s co workers in his or her immediate Organiza Tion.  to would also like to take this Opportunity to provide some additional publicity on this leave Transfer pro Gram. 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