European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - January 23, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Monday january 23, 1989 the stars and stripes Page 11 dear readers yesterday i reported on the re sults of the Survey. The question has your sex life gone downhill since marriage if so Why As i said in yesterday s column i received More than 141,210 pieces of mail and 52 percent of the respondents were male. The Ages of those who wrote were from 17 to 93. Eighty two percent of the respondents said sex after marriage was much less pleasurable. The percentage of unfulfilled females was almost the same As for males. For a closer look at what goes on behind the bedroom doors of America read on. From san Francisco male 46 when we were going together she used to meet me at the Airport in a rain coat with nothing underneath. Now we have three kid Sand she says take a taxi. I m too tired to  from Newark male 52 your question has sex gone downhill since marriage is an insult to those of us who waited until marriage to have sex. You ought to Tell your readers that if they Don t eat the icing off the cake before dinner they Are Likely to enjoy the dessert More. West Palm Beach male 55 courtship , Lousy. Booze ruined it. Alcoholics Anonymous saved me but by then she had left. Lawrence Kan. Female our sex life was never terrific but after we married his Battery went completely dead. He tried to blame it on his heart medi Cine but i found out he d been having a 15-year affair with our next door neighbor. Grand rapids Mich male 50 downhill. Definitely. The sameness is Boring. Same time. Same place. Same position. Won t try anything new. I would never cheat but it s easy to see Why so Many men do. Louisville female 38 How exciting can sex bewitch a potbellied cynical comatose Couch potato the Man has nothing to say until the lights go out the suddenly he is overcome with passion. He wonders Why i m not interested. Draw him a picture will you please Ann Waco Texas male Don t forget to include you Gay readers when you write up the results of your marriage Survey. My Lover and i have been together 10years. We both agree that our sex life in t As Good As it was before he moved in. The reason couples Are on their Best behaviour when they Date. You can t be to Gether All the time and not get a Little sick of each other. Calgary Canada female 46 sex was fabulous be fore we married. Now it s on my birthday and our anniversary. There s a real communication problem and he refuses to accept counselling. Atlanta male 58 sex after marriage what s that How can i get excited about a woman who weighs 250 pounds and does t Bathe during any month that Hasan r in it Dickinson . Female 44 our sex life gets bet Ter All the time. Why because it is an expression of a love based on respect Courtesy honesty admiration and Mutual Trust. Manhasset Long Island male 50, divorced Down Hill of course. All the Way. Why Kissin Don t last. Good Cookin do. Los Angeles female i just saw my husband s postcard. He says our sex life is terrific. The big of does t realize i Haven t had an orgasm in 15 years. I m cancel ing his vote. San Antonio female he s protestant. I m  s Anglo i m hispanic. He s a Republican i m a Democrat. He tells me i m gorgeous. I m not. But sex gets better All the time because we Are nuts about each other. European edition col Jeffrey m. Cook Usa commander editor in chief it col Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. 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How can we instill Pride in our subordinates if we do not set the example for them to follow just recently a Captain was Given a do form 1408 armed forces traffic ticket for failure to exit his vehicle and Render Honor to our nation s Flag. The1408 was processed through channels and the Captain was counselled by a first lieutenant. My question is Isit possible for a subordinate to counsel a Superior in regards to performance or any violations incurred bythe Superior especially when the subordinate does not hold position Over the Superior i am not trying to wave the Flag in anyone s face Buti Don t feel that one should base leaving the office on Flag Call. This includes standing inside the building waiting for Flag Call to Start and finish before walking outside. In my opinion to stand outside to pay respect to our Flag is a Small inconvenience compared to those who have Given their lives to preserve our Freedom an insure our Flag can Fly every Day. I am convinced that pos would be quite appalled to think one does twant to see old glory coming Down for the night especially when they Haven t seen it in years one More question if we Don t respect our Flag Why Are we Here staff sgt. Ronald de Yonker Vaihinger West Germany editor s note col. Terry l. Wagner Deputy Community commander Stuttgart military Community replies thank you for your letter expressing concern Over the proper rendering of courtesies to the colors by individuals during Retreat. Army regulations 600-20 and 600-25 describe the appropriate actions to be taken by military personnel in uniform during Retreat. Although the lowering of the colors during Retreat signifies the Normal end of the duty Day on military installations this ceremony is not meant to be a starting signal for a dash from work areas. Certainly waiting in doorways by individuals until the Retreat ceremony is Complete so that courtesies need not be Given is not setting the example and is Akin to punching the clock. The Reader is Correct in his expectation that military professionals ought not hide from the Flag but be Lead ers and openly demonstrate the respect for the Flag and what it represents. Unfortunately not All individuals have this same sense of Pride or professionalism. How Ever such action though Unmil itary is not in violation of any regulation. As to the writer s question whether a Junior officer in a command position can counsel members of his com Mand senior to him the answer is yes but diplomatically. Such anomalies can occur in Headquarters companies where unit staff officers frequently outrank the company commander. The requirement to perform such counsel ing is what makes this Type of command one of the toughest in the army. In most cases though the Inci Dent should be referred to the officer s supervisor for Resolution. We encourage the writer to maintain and Demon Strates his ideals and serve As a Model for others regardless of rank. Reader favors Tough stand with Libya there can be no doubt that Libya does indeed pos sess and operate a chemical weapons Plant. It is Ludi Crous to believe that the Plant is Only a pharmaceutical factory. How Many factories Are surrounded by protective anti aircraft defences the fact that these defens sexist can Only Lead one to believe that the Plant is less than  tensions Between the United states and Libya have obviously risen in the past weeks. Why then with . Forces in a state of heightened Alert would two Libya fighter jets threaten . Naval forces by flying directly at the Carrier John f. Kennedy i applaud the defensive actions taken by f-14 tomcats when con fronted by the libyan jets. The construction of a chemical weapons Plant an the Downing of these two hostile libyan jets in International Waters have once again brought Libya and it Leader Qadhafi into the world scene. The last time Libya was in the news was when it was linked to terrorist bombings that resulted in numerous american deaths. In response to those bombings the United states bombed terrorist Camps in Libya. It would see that Libya would not provoke the United states again but terrorists Are cowardly and irrational. The United states will no longer offer a weak response when dealing with these fanatical terrorists. Terrorists do not respect weakness. They Only respect strength. They Only understand strength. Under president Reagan the United states responded More strongly with terrorists. Do you remember Grenada How Many Oil rigs had to be destroyed be fore Iran got the idea the United states does and should continue to Deal from a position of  this show of strength against Libya and other terrorists i am proud to an american. Tom Hammann Wiir Burg West Germany How to give it All away when you leave i have a question that affects most american overseas that i Haven t seen addressed yet. When we make our permanent change of station move pcs Back to the United states is there some place that we can donate our remaining food products such As canned goods and other non Perisha Bles i would think some needy people could reall Benefit from a service such As this. Along these same lines is there a place to donate unwanted clothes household goods Etc.? the Thrift shops partially fill that need but i Don t believe they accept All objects due to space problems Etc. 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