European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - February 11, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 dear Ann Landers i read something in the new York times recently that Madame see my problem in a different Light. I Hope All parents who have overweight children will pay at Tention. Or. Kathie Jacobson a psychologist at the teen age medical service in Minneapolis said Theno. 1 mistake parents make when they have overweight kid Sis to focus on the child s weight. The message is i Don t love you the Way you Are. You la have to change for me to love you " it was pointed out that paying attention to other assets such As intelligence and accomplishments will make it much easier for a child to lose weight. Weightless is a slow process that often takes six months or longer. This is an unbearably Long time for a youngster. The article suggested that parents should keep track of How often their conversations with the child revolve around food. If the first thing you ask your child when he or she comes Home from a party is what did you eat you re on the wrong track. And saying things like you d be so pretty if you were Only thinner May be meant As a compliment but it is devastating to Achild s self esteem. That article really woke me up Ann. I want to share what i have Learned. Please print my letter. Manhattan Mother dear . Gladly because i know that overweight children Nee special handling. Often they eat too much to compensate for things in their life that Are lacking. Following the suggestions in the article could make a big difference. I Hope the people who need to see this will take i seriously. Fat kids who grow up to be fat adults find it almost impossible to slim Down. Dear Ann Landers those of us who have pacemakers Are instructed your doctors not to go through Metal detectors in air ports because the pacemaker can be damaged. We presupposed to notify the attendant and he or she will escort us around the Metal Detector. You would not believe the Way i have been treated by some attendants. They have raised my arms and searched me from head to toe As if i were a  passengers who get on the same plane with me stare As if i were a suspected Hijacker. Please address this problem in the column. Orange  Orange most Airport personnel Are extremely courteous an accommodating. In order to Check passengers for guns and knives a Complete frisking is necessary if the Meta Detector is not used. Be grateful they Are so thorough. Dear readers we hear so much about Man s inhumanity to Man that it s a Joy to read about somebody who went out of his Way to be kind to a stranger. This letter brightened my Day and i Hope it brightens yours. Dear Ann Landers it was my first trip to new York. I was travelling alone in a Gray Ford Van with Michigan plates. I came across the George Washington Bridge looking for Thelong Island expressway. Traffic was getting heavy and i was getting  asked a Young Man to my left if i was on the right Road and he said yes just follow the  i could t see the signs and my heart began to Pound. After about 10 minutes he appeared again and said follow  that dear Man led me to the Long Island expressway and waved goodbye. He was my guardian Angel. I Don t think i Wouldhave made it without him. I Hope he reads your column. Los Angeles times syndicated columnist Landers welcomes your letters. You can write to her in care of the stars and stripes. Apo 09211. . Forces the european edition col Jeffrey m. Cook Usa commander editor in chief it col Suzanne l. Phillips Usan Deputy commander editor in chief Marie Kominicki Mert Proctor Deane b. Mcdermott production manager managing editor circulation manager this newspaper is an authorized unofficial publication for members of the military services overseas. 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My husband is an officer. Obviously we attend Sev eral functions a month. My favorite function is our battalion s annual Ball. You should see How Sharp he looks in his shined shoes his freshly pressed dress blues with All those ribbons that Sharp Bow tie then we get to his face. Well he s a Good Looker that s for sure. But since restarted dipping his Teeth Are Brown his breath is stale and the Brown ring around his lips from his Chew seems stained. Disgusting yes. Embarrassing yes. I love my husband and want to show off his goo looks. Instead i find myself hoping that he keeps his Mouth shut my House is always cluttered with chewing tobacco cans some empty some full some stale. He uses empty cans to spit in. They Are everywhere some  actually laughed when our 4-year-old son accidentally picked up a sprite can that was full of spit thinking it was soda and took a gulp needless to say my husband is lost when it comes to finding the trash can. Now let s really get personal and talk about our sex life. What sex life he makes me feel guilty that i Don t come on to him anymore. Is that my fault Plain and simple Honey your dipping is a total turn off to  you kiss me if i did t Brush my Teeth if my Teeth were Brown from tobacco stains and i had bad breath have you Ever smelled what you Are putting in you Mouth i can smell that All Over your body. You put that tobacco in your Mouth with your fingers and the want to touch me. It s not very romantic to me. I Don t want your tobacco smelling body against my clean Sweet smelling body. You Shower in the morning for work but when was the last time you showered afterword for me All chewing tobacco comes with a cancer warning that reads this product May cause gum disease and tooth  you laugh when i remind you of  causes cancer you say. When i remind you that you have a wife and son to think of you reply i m not going  i Hope you have recognized yourself by Reading  know my words were harsh but we love you and would t make it without you. Quit today imagine what we could buy with the Money we d save not to mention a few More years of your life name and location withheld writer proud of her someplace special i am writing in reference to a recent article called arty comeback of not so Plain Janes stirs  in the last paragraph the article Speaks of . Sawyer feb mich., borrowing a Rainbow logo and the some where else slogan of a local to station. That slogan is someplace special not some where else and it comes from Woluc to Marquette. Somewhere else sounds like something someone would say who was not from the upper Peninsula but that is Okay. You see the upper Peninsula is indeed someplace special even though come Winter you some times May find yourself wishing you were someplace else. Smog is unheard of in the upper Peninsula we have plenty of fresh clean air to enjoy. Crime is not nearly As rampant there As in so Many other places of the country. There Are outdoor activities to please almost everyone summer or Winter Spring or fall. We Don thave Large cities in the . With huge shopping Cen ters but most of the time you will find people who Are Happy to serve you. Good old fashioned friendliness instill a Large commodity most everywhere you go there. As i was growing up i was anxious to see what Theresa of the world was about. Well As we near retire ment my husband children and i Are looking Forward to returning to this someplace special and settling Down. We can go out for a walk in the evening and not have to be concerned about who or what is coming up behind us. And one can still eat the fish that Are caught up there so to set the record straight the upper Peninsula May not have the excitement of the larger cities but it has the peace and loveliness of god s country an other appropriate name for that Northern Northern Michigan Nina j. Raeth Wei Brincken a West Germany fewer Federal holidays suggested this letter is to try to get readers to act to reduce the number of . Federal holidays from the present 10 to a number More acceptable to taxpayers. As most of us know Many of these holidays Are great waste of Money an enormous Burden on the taxpayer and help create the resulting debt. I propose that readers write their congressmen urging them to reduce and or change some of these holi Days in order to get More people working and fewer getting paid for not working. Examples change Martin Luther King or s birthday Obser Vance to the third sunday in january since he was a great religious Leader and a Man of god. 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