European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 13, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Puppy love by Lawrence Kutner new York times Here is More 1o a child s crush than Puppy eyed gases and irrepressible giggles a Noah All the silliness and awkwardness of a child who is in love i lies a serious purpose psychologists and others study child development Are beginning o unders the reasons childhood crushes appear Urti they a child who has a crush is experimenting Wilh idea of being attached to someone other than parents said of. Phillip Shaver head of the Sod psychology program at the state University of be York Al Buffalo who studies love and Al Iraklion among children. Although most people associate crushes Wilh Young adolescents he has found that the same h of be Navior can be seen in children As Young As toddlers. The love object. A that age is an adult other in the parents. Tho child will cling to the hew person. Usually physically As Well As emotionally. The Adu returns the child s affection through play or Cudd by the time children reach the third Grade the of love object changes. A lot of childhood crush among children 8 to 10 years old Are on classmate who Don l  said. Over the next new years the objects of children crushes usually shill la people who Are clearly Don t treat a child s crush Lighty should you be concerned ii your child develops a crush on a movie Star or some Lher unattainable adult probably not say child psychologists and psychiatrists. But thai Doans l mean hat you  ignore what s going on Don t be worried unless  starts using very bad judgment said or. Stuart Hauser a  Al Harvard medical school thai includes running away irom Home to be with lha person or acting out sexually around children or adults who look like him such reactions to a crush Are quite rare and Are usually a sign of deeper problems. But what about Tho child who spend hours mooning Over he pictures of an a Orr actress in a Jan Magazine Don l Troat it As trivial said or. Anno c Peterson a professor at Pennsylvania slate univ  play a useful role in the child s development of a identity. Ii the child feels comfortable enough to share the crush with a Parent the Parent should regard thai As a privileged  although children May Dodge direct inquiries a the people they be fallen Tor you can use the silk to help them explore the things they Lind All Raclin people. Many parents become condescending and i show a Fen interest in what the child finds attract said or Pieler Leroux a clinical psychologist at to Unicof Siviy of Roches Lor medical Center. He describes he objects of adolescent crush metaphors for Tho i hangs the children value by is. About values wih the children you can help them new ways i looking Al Bolh other Puoplo and themselves what  timing 6l a crush there is so evidence Hal children All in love when they re or  or. Elaine Hayfield a social Psychol and professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii teenagers Are More Likely to fall in love they re preparing to Olavo Homo and Irwy Rescar she recommends using crushes As a cud Lor checking whether something very stressful has i occurred in children s lives that Fwy Aro having duh Mculty expressing in words yes you can discipline your children in Public by Marianne and Stephen w. Garbed and Robyn Freedman Spizman Cox Newis service r for $ letter Over the holidays relearned once again that am  Ages 3and 5, can make fools o us they Gro normally pretty Good kids but they turned into Alto monsters  went to relatives or friends names we Hanc Vcci it but it was t pleasant Willi relatives and friends looking on As we disciplined our Chi Tjien what can Ive do to put the Odds m out favor Natt Lime d b dear 0 b you re already on the Nghil rack by not allowing you children to blackmail you in Public you turned the tide in your Laver for the next Outing children Are very Bouhl and Loam Quick qty when they can Placo a Parent in an awkward position the Winter Holiday season is a pome i Rel Al Lor new situations tired children and well1 helps remember your friends Are probably locally supportive of your position Many of the a have been Inere in planning Lor i lure outings keep these pc inns in mind and you la feel More comfortable have reasonable expectations Little ones and Long waifs Seldom agree so Ash yourself in in s a f to subject your child to the situation l it s unavoidable or desirable to have your children with you then attempt to place yourself m i hair position and plan accordingly. Slalom your expect aliens Lei your children know Vynoie Thoy Gro being and whal icy will see and do. All children need to be reminded of Hal is App Conate a Chajor and eventually they will gain a better understanding of what is expected role play when it s helpful children love to Page e i a the stars and stripes monday k