European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 20, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse Military continued from Page 13 get and of the stress you re ust looking for somebody to talk to just to gel the feeling that somebody cares about you " one Way Many soldiers try to find that feeling is through casual sex. Romances Are often Short lived you just get what you want and go Back to your business As one 23 year old male private from Darmstadt puts it. Even if a relationship has some semblance of stability according to a 23-year-old female private often it is us a delusion you might establish what you think is a Good relationship and then they ust dump you she says. They re More or less using you really. They be used you and they re through with you and they Don t feel As if they owe you an Here again men can be at the receiving end. Carter Roberts a 36-year-old married but separated civilian employee in Wiesbaden West Germany and rails Hinl More men than women want sex without commitment but he says it goes both you May have a lady that does not want to have that commitment. But still wants to go out have her one night stared and leave Roberts says. You May see her the nex Day and she will not want of have anything o do with you. She s Only out there for sex and sex Only so it s up to you As a Man to realize this is whal she s out there for and thai she has used you in that sense but Don t feel offended by Mike whose Girlfriend of two months turned out to be married feels thai Many women As Well As men lie about their marital status in order to pick up members of the opposite sex. You see it a lot in the military he says when the unit s in the Field that s when the spouses go out to play " the shortage of women in he military complicates dating for single male service members overseas however it does not translate into romantic Bliss for single women soldiers. Before i came hero. I read someplace that Naples Italy was a single girl s Paradise because there Are Many More males than females on base says a21 year old female Petty officer third class. I wish i still had that article so i could choke the writer i be been Here nearly a year and Ciavari t had a decent Date yet a 19 year old female Soldier in Bamberg West Germany feels that dating for women is twice As hard As for the men i Date get real Calous because most of my friends Are men she says. There s hardly any other single women to make friends Wilh. So your Date thinks you be got too Many men because of the Competition Lor women Many male soldiers spend their evenings in off Post bars and discos instead of in military clubs in West Germany these go bars Are frequented by German women Many of whom Are Happy to meet american men. The Gorman girls come to you says Felix a 26 year old army Corporal you Don t have logo to there s no other Way to put it they re a lot easier says Libby. According to one male Soldier German women enjoy a certain mystique about american men and the fact that they re sexually others believe a sizable number of German women want to marry americans to gel into the pm have All the privileges then go to the Stales " still others feel some German women hang out in bars just so they can get the gis to buy their a 23-year-old German woman from Darmstadt agrees that some German women use gis. Others in particular the younger ones consider it " in to have an american american women on the other hand feel they be been getting a bum rap. A lot of men say that american women get so spoiled because there Are always men asking them out All the time says Barnes of Ramstein. They say american men Don t go out Wilh american women thai they re Picky and choosy and have a High and mighty Altitude. You get used to having men asking you out All the time. Maybe you do get a big adds Libby most gis Over Here they have one thing on their minds. I guess they re afraid of trying to meet an american woman because they re afraid it might be sexual harassment. So it s easier to just go out with a German faced with any number of potential partners from the German Community Many male soldiers appear to have copped an Altitude themselves. German girls let gis practically Roll Over Thern says the 19-year-old Bamberg woman. Then i Meel the same go and he thinks he can treat me the same they Deal Wilh us with less respect than we deserve says a female Soldier adding that constant lewd comments and cheap come on by american men have become very annoying some of the lines they use like you re such a pretty lady you hear that All the time adds Ursula Theiss a 36-year-old married but separated German employee at Sembach a. West Germany. When you re face to face with someone and they say. Page 14 the stars and stripes monday a
