European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - March 20, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse You re pretty you know that s not just saying you re pretty they want something. They re usually trying to to gel you to sleep with Many male soldiers agree that american military men generally treat women poorly. They order women around like they were so much Luggage says a 28-year-old staff sergeant from Frankfurt. I Don t know Why they act like that other than that they re Over Here and they think they own the world. But what amazes me More is i be seen the women take it i be heard abusive language used toward women and the next Day they re Back together an alarming consequence of casual sex by service members is the possible spread of aids. Whereas women and older men seem to take the attitude i m not so Young i m going to live forever As expressed by a 30-year-old male Soldier it appears that Young military men in their late teens and Early 20s Are not As worried about contracting the fatal disease. Not really. Not with the Type of women i go out a Vith says a 21-year-old private from Darmstadt Hough he admits to carrying condoms and even sometimes using them. Adds a 23-year-old i look for girls who Don t seem like they sleep with everybody just by the Way they carry i staff writer Dart e. Green m Klaibor Steuter Vince Crawley in Nurnberg / ind Alba Bragoli in Naples come build to in article to a vines cat lev Ralph and Grazyna Bremer of Numberg West Germany have beaten the Odds against Happy relationships. A Chance encounter brought the couple together nearly seven years ago. A s she thought about telling him i love you for the first time the words were already coming from his close to a year of dating the feeling Between airman first class Gina Olague and her soulmate senior airman Bob Peszek is still the same except that maybe it s grown stronger. Oil my goodness there were butterflies everywhere i was getting the chills Olague says of that first time she and Peszek declared their love for each other. And it has t it would be sad to say that Peszek and Olague both of Sembach a West Germany Are the exceptions to the rules of the dating game. But a Check of the scorecard would probably show More strikeouts than Home runs. While there Are Many strategies for getting around the bases on the dating Diamond the one that seems to work Best is no strategy at All. I think it happens when you least expect it to says Peszek. Like if you re going to go out to a club and you say Well hey tonight i m going to find me a Girlfriend it usually does t work that it did t work that Way for Ralph and Grazyna Bremer of Nurnberg West Germany. A Chance encounter in West Berlin brought the american service member and the polish native together nearly seven years ago. It was an unexpected meeting a Farewell party for a Friend who belonged to a ski club that Grazyna s employer was president of says Ralph a former infantryman who now works As an administration clerk. I was sitting in the bar drinking a guinness. It was a weekday night so the place was fairly empty. In walked Frank Donna and it was through an unexpected stroke of Luck that Grazyna even arrived in Germany. She very nearly did t get out of Poland at All. I got out about six hours before martial Law was declared dec 31,1981 she recalls. It was really unexpected though t was thinking about taking saturday s train instead of Friday s. Well if i had taken saturdays i never would have gone anywhere. They had All the Borders closed by the flip Side Lucky in love obviously it in t All bad news in the military dating scene. There Are enough soldiers who have found satisfying Long term relationships it s All just a matter of that old cliche being at the right place at the right time even service members who have been unlucky in love know where they can go to find that special someone some suggest joining ski clubs sports clubs or drama groups. Others advise participating in arts and crawls or photo courses or taking College classes. You go to the Bowling Alley and people just Start talking to you says a 23-year-old woman in Darmstadt West Germany. You meet people through people you work with says sgt. Susan Barnes of rams Lem a West Germany who met her Boyfriend through work. The consensus is that local bars and discos and military clubs usually Aren t the Way logo. You go to the clubs to get picked up but you won t meet the right kind of person says spec. Leann Libby of Darmstadt. Men too might have a Lough time finding that right person in a club. All the Guys i know who go to bars Are interested in getting Lucky that night says a 28-year old male Soldier from Frankfurt. And the women know this so it s hard to establish any kind of rapport you can meet people at the enlisted club if you like that kind of scene adds a 22-year-old third class Petty officer stationed in Naples. Italy just Don t go there looking for Long term relationships. If you Are Lucky and work in a counter service Job you la meet somebody you like on the Robert Jones a 22-year-old former service member who lives in Babenhausen. West Germany suggests single people should simply Stop trying to look for or. Or is right. Always going out to meet people it becomes a drag he says. You re going to end up with one night stands or relationships that last two or three weeks and the girl has another Boyfriend on the Side i got sick of always going out and trying to meet people. So when i stopped trying i Orriet staff writer Anita Roaen in aim slant Daryl e. Green in . Vinco Crawley in numbers Ana Altu Brgoh in Nap Tot contributed to this article cd 20, 1989 the stars and stripes Page 15
