European Stars And Stripes (Newspaper) - June 3, 1989, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers dear Ann Landers several years ago you wrote something called is it love or infatuation 1 had been seeing a girl i was crazy about but was too shy to let her know. I sent her that column and it really broke the ice. We will be celebrating our eighth wedding anniversary june 3. Will you please run it again Mexico City dear Mexico City with pleasure. Here in is. Happy anniversary. Love or infatuation infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another. Love is Friendship that has caught fire. It takes Root and grows one Day at a time. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You arc excited and eager but not genuinely Happy. There arc nagging doubts unanswered questions Little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would As soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream. Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You Are warmed by his presence even when he is  do not separate you. You want him nearer. But near or far you know he is yours and you can wait. Infatuation says we must get married right away. I can t risk losing  love says be patient. Don t panic. Plan your future with  infatuation has an Clement of sexual excitement. If you Are honest you will admit it is difficult to be in one another s company unless y9u Are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of Friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers. Infatuation lacks Confidence. When he s away you wonder if he s cheating. Sometimes you Check. Love Means Trust. You Are Calm secure . He feels that Trust and in makes him even More trustworthy. Infatuation might Lead you to do things you la regret later but love never docs. Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before. Dear Ann Landers i want to Tell you what a recent column of yours did for me. It opened my eyes once and for All. Eleven years ago i Learned that my husband was unfaithful. I began divorce proceedings. Before the divorce was final he begged and pleaded with me to take him Back. I decided to give him another Chance. Last year i found out that he had been cheating All these years with the same woman. I divorced him. Three months later he came to see me threatened suicide and Reddi catch his life to Christ. I took him Back absolutely certain that this Lime we would live happily forever. I am 49 and he is 51. Three weeks ago i Learned Hal he is still seeing the same woman. 1 ordered him out of the House and am getting a second divorce. He is begging and crying again Samc old Story bul i am finished with him once and for All. Your column about inc lilt a girl who Pul the Snake under her Coal really opened my eyes. When inc Snake bit her and said you knew what i was when you picked me up i really saw myself. Thanks Ann. . Dear Millen glad you made the connection. I Hope this time it Sticks. Thanks for letting me know. Los Angeles Titos syndicated columnist Landers welcomes your letters. You can write to her in care of the stars and stripes Apo 09211. . Forces letters Fulda s 7-period school Day questioned your newspaper recently printed an article titled principals to get wide latitude on picking  this article stated that or. Blackstead Germany Region director of Dodds had discussed inc change from a seven to six period Day for the new school year. An earlier article stated that or. Stromple director of Dodds had Given the Lack of funding for the Addi Tion of new teachers As the cause for the change. He said Hal Leach cars were leaching More than five classes in some schools. He wanted All teachers to be teaching Only five classes. Yet Al Fulda High school the principal has indicated that the seven period Day will be retained with teach ers teaching six classes. Are the High schools going to have a six or seven period Day next year will this be Standard throughout the Germany Region name withheld Fulda West Germany editor s note a. Smith Reeves chief. Executive services division Dodds Germany Region re plies because of pending budget cuts Dodds has had to reconsider its position on the seven period Day. Or. Stremple informed All regions by message that Dodds secondary schools with a 12th Grade will operate on a six period Day with a five period instructional Load for teachers. This directive also allows for alternate sched Ules which meet inca requirements for length of the school Day. Alternate schedules would be authorized Only under the following conditions the High school principal shall advise the District superintendent and the regional director when the school is considering alternative schedules. The faculty and local Community of the High school must have an Opportunity to discuss the alternative schedule. Major concerns shall be reasonably addressed. Unless addressed and chanced under the second item the daily High school teaching assignment is limited to five teaching periods. Therefore in answer to the writer s questions the Standard Norm for schools with a 12th Grade will be six periods. Alternate schedules with teachers teaching six periods Are authorized if the three conditions listed above have been met. Reader recommends stateside banking this letter is being written As a result of a recently published letter concerning military banking services. After Only a few years of dealing with the military and the various instill Lions connected or otherwise doing business with military service personnel it be comes cd Ideal to most of us Hal Iacre is really nol much Point in attempting to overcome obstacles Suchias the Wriler describes regarding the banking services. The solution that saves the most heartburn is to simply avoid Icse institutions whenever possible. As a for instance since the local Bank will Cash a stateside Check for you up to $500, when her you have an account Wilh Ihm or nol Why do you even keep an account with them the chances of your needing More than $500 in Cash Al any Given time arc extremely rare. As anybody who even occasionally glances at a state Side newspaper can attest in arc arc Many Banks in in United so alas that offer nol Only free checking accounts but pay you incr Cal on lop of in i be maintained an account Wilh a Chicago Bank for Over 20 years. During those 20 years i be been in Many areas of the ., Europe inc far East and inc Middle East and As Long As there was a military base nearby i be had no problem cashing checks. Not Only docs my Bank give me free checking and pay me interest they furnish my checks at no charge. And on top of that every Lime i make a Deposit other than an Aulo malic payroll Deposit they Send me a postpaid envelope along Wilh my do posit slip for use inc a Cal Lime of and by inc Way icy Clurn my cancelled checks each month too. When you can Deal Wilh a Bank like this Why Settle for anything less obviously there can be drawbacks to this Long Dis Tance banking but offhand i can t think of any As Long As i plan accordingly. For instance when i go Home on leave the nearest military installation is quilt a distance so i have to ensure Hal i i Lucr carry traveler s checks or i need to have a family member or Friend take me to i hair Bank and i while the Check to that person. And of course or Ceil cards can be used As Well. Just a lilt a simple planning is necessary. Lou Novacheck Crail sheim West Germany More school emphasis on ecology urged the Way things arc going we Don t have much of a future. Schools arc putting too much emphasis on academics and too i talc on environmental preservation in a world that looks More and More doomed. Granted a Good education makes for a better life but if there is no future what Good docs academic knowledge do As a Parent of two Young children i am concerned about the Ful Urc for my and All of her children. 1 think in is Only through Ihm that we still May have a future. We have to guide children in the right Dirc Clion. Too Many adults think Hal whatever they could do to improve the environment would be futile anyway. Adults arc already too set in their ways to change the children arc our Only Hope indeed our Only future. As a Pat member of my daughter s German kindergarten i have already suggested to the teachers to set up a program to teach the children How to conserve water. My daughter already practices this As she Lurns off the faucet while brushing Teeth or soaping hands and she tells me when i forget children could also be Laughl not to litter to re Specland care for living things any it s Good to Recycle logo by foot on walkable distances Etc. We cannot rely on parcels alone anymore. I think i Csc environmental issues should be introduced in kindergartens in a playful and interesting manner. Government agencies could assist in publish ing leaflets especially for Young children. In Csc Mcnary school Icse same issues should be repealed or expanded upon through projects. For High school the same  want to Sec ecology become mandatory in kindergartens and schools. If you support my idea please Send me a Short Nolc. I will mail All responses to Dodds. Conny Jensen 7261 muss Box 176 Apo . 09035 european edition col Jeffrey m. Cook Usa commander editor m chief it col Suzanne l. 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