European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 04, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                Ann Landers dear Ann Landers two years ago i found out that my husband had been molesting our 15-year-old daughter. He had 19 years in the military and was getting ready to retire. When i turned him in. His retirement Money went out the window. He was prosecuted found guilty and received a dishonourable Dis charge. He was sentenced to is years in fort Leavenworth. Now i must make Good on All our debts because my husband no longer receives any pay. T am working two jobs in order to make ends meet. I also must pay a $3.000 Hospital Bill and a 11,200 doctor Bill. Ii had to put my daughter in the Hospital for psychiatric help because she could t Han dle what had happened to her she must continue to get therapy and this does t come cheap. I m working seven Days a week and rarely get More than four hours sleep a night. I am exhausted and barely hanging on. I hate to admit it Ann but some times i think we would have been better off if i had kept my Mouth shut and not turned my husband in. For sure our lives would be been a lot less complicated. Any Commini mrs. Jones dear mrs. Jones drive those doubts nut of your mind. You did the right thing. No Mother with a shred of decency would keep quiet and permit her child to be sexually abused. No Nutter what the col. Our office spoke with Dan Trew Public affairs officer at fort Sheridan Iii. Your ease was handled fairly in Accord Ance with military Law. He explained that family my Mem Are entitled to full Prit Liege until the sentence and Dis charge have been approved by the Secretary of the army. The review process can Lake Ai Long As two years during which you receive All the entitlements and benefits. I suggest thai us Contact a bankruptcy expert and consider filing. There is no disgrace in going this route when person is left with crushing debt through no fault of his or her of n. I realize this was a severe blow especially so close to your husband s retirement. Please consider counselling. You need a professional on whom you can unload your anger and frustration. Good Luck dear. Dear Ann Landers since everyone reads your column i m sure if you print this the people who need to Sec it will. Dear friends and neighbors you Are All aware that my husband is terminal ill. We do not ask that you run errands or bring food or Send Flowers. What we do find surprising is shut you Haven t phoned to see How we arc getting Alon. Hum h less dropped by for a Brief visit. Perhaps you Don t know what to say because you find dying hard to Deal with. That s of. I can under stand thai so Here s a Little advice be natural. I real us the Way you would if my husband was t dying Tell us what you be been doing. We d love to hear Aboul your trip or the kids or your in Laws. Tell a few jokes or let s talk politics. Belie m me anything you care to talk about will be wonderful to a couple of people wlm Haven t seen a visitor in months. Just give us a Call and let us know when you la he Over. I la put the Coffee pot on and i might even bake some cookies. No City just new York dear new York you hit it when you said maybe folks stay away be came they Don t know what to say. You told them. And very nicely too. Thanks for performing a valuable serv ice for a lot of people today. And god bless you dear. C lob Angeles tier of Syndicate and Creaton Syndicate the stars and stripes Page 11 letters Laws . Policy on housing discussed i would like to know Why there is a difference in housing prices for americans is. Germans. How come a local National can pay considerably less for a apart ment than i or our government who would pay twice the amount when we moved out of our quarters we were told we would have to pay a full month s rent even though we Only stayed for 10 Days of the last month unless of course housing could find a new tenant before the i St of the month or if we could have Given the landlord 30 Days notice. It was impossible to give 30 Days notice because housing gave us a week and half Nolice to decide and sign the papers. So we pay our rent for half a month new tenant moved in but finance lakes out of our pay housing allowance for the whole month. So we pay for our a Cal out of our Pockels. Please help me to understand How this works. Name withheld Grafe Wohr West Germany editor s not Donald p. Grassi. Housing division office of the Deputy chief of staff Engineer. He Usa eur. Replies thank you for this Opportunity to answer your ques Tion. Housing referral offices try to negotiate rents below what the landlord is asking and have been successful in some cases. But in today s Light rental Market it has become increasingly difficult. Under the German rental Law landlords May increase rents upon change of tenancy so there May be a differ ence of rental Cost for the same Type apartment within the same multifamily building. Unless a proper notice of termination is Given to the landlord in accordance with the terms of your rental agreement the landlord would be entitled to a full month s rent. Al present there is no authority for military personnel occupying private rental housing to continue to draw housing allowances bad and Oha when assigned to and occupying government controlled quarters. Usar eur Headquarters is aware of the problem and has recommended to department of the army Headquarters in change the department of defense manual on pay and allowances. Hold off on is complaints writer says with the spirit of the Yule tide season slowly filtering through the commercialism this might be a Good time for All of us to declare a Brief moratorium on complaint letters about the Content of the stars and stripes. 1 think in would be a Nice gesture and a lot cheaper than buying a present. No this is Nin a Clandestine attempt at workload modification by a stripes staffer. I Promise. Nor am i trying to get on the editor s Good Side in Hopes of getting More print space for my opinions in the com ing year. It just occurred to me that those of us who write to offer complaints pm mints suggestions about Content might want to give the hard working folks at our local paper a Little break. Throughout the year the stuff of our paper puts in a lot of work and draws a full measure of constructive criticism  sonic of them More valid than others. We warn this or that expanded we want this or that dropped we want whoever wrote such and such article drawn and quartered burned in the stake and his her ashes shot into space. When pressed we arc willing to admit that the stars and stripes has the near impossible task of pro Viding a news sports service for a surprisingly diverse population. Does this Stop us from writing when a particular feature column news item or comic strip offends us of course not nor should it. After All. How else will the editorial staff be Able to judge the mood of their readership so what do you say. Folks How Aboul we give this staff a couple of weeks of january free of Content  then Serene in the knowledge that we be been fair and generous we can gel Back to the fray. In the interim let us raise our glasses to the Good folks who put our paper together. If they did t provide a solid product think How much we d miss. All credit to them for the parts we individually like. Put All those parts together and it adds up to the whole paper. So All the Best for the season to inc staff of the stars and stripes. Maj. Michael a. Carter Geilenkirche West German ideas to make skiing More enjoyable i would like to take the Opportunity to express my concern for those who intend using the ski facilities at arc i Armish. 1 recently spent Elliree weeks attending a ski  Tor s clinic and 1 would like to pass on the following observations the few people who spend a Small Fortune on ski clothing and associated equipment would do Well to spend a portion of their funds on qualified instruction. Those opting to ski without professional instruction Are a a urd to themselves and any of hrs sharing the slopes. This is an injustice on their part. If you arc learning to ski or snowboard and you fall please have the sense and Courtesy to move out of the path thai other skiers will be using. And finally while enjoying yourself on inc mountains be conscious of your possessions. 1 Hope the person that lost his Wallet with $3,000 Cash recovered in intact. In closing. I would like to wish a Happy ski season to All. Remember just As in Many other sports a Lille common sense and training will go a Long Way in in creasing your enjoy men and safely. Carl d. Clark bad t61/.,  Germany pen pals please place my Nam in the Pun pal column Eden Mam Banogon . Zamb Anguita. Negro Oriental philippine i am 26-year-old none and i would Tike to have pan pall. Tamra Finegan it. T Box 928 Fortson. Of 31808 i am a 48-ye�f old Divorcee and i have Many Hobbs the latest is cycling with my 14 year of son Carol b Taiton 76 Dashwood re Rose Hill oxfordox4 4 so England i am int Arestad in having friends to in other country. I tin 30 years old Eit Reham East Nat j & c Sparar Stor Argatan. Tibuc Tubig Dumaguet Oty 6200 Philippines european coition col Oene e. Towh8eho. 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