European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 09, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse 80s style id More expensive to do 50.50 what constitutes Community properly Jane Fonda and Tom Hayden have split. The people with the most at stake i989 May go Down in history As of the celebrity split Jane Fonda i Hayden Sean Penn and a. Bruce Springsteen and Julianne and just recently James Woods in Owen announced their Legal 5n alter 5 months of marriage some couples managed to amicably Steven Spielberg Irving were seen having dinner a Lew Days before they called it it Many others go through this inching of Lite experiences with and emotional equivalent of a Ball. At determines which divorces will and which will be Nice dollars a a revenge and sometimes even be lawyers themselves a s 20-year-old no fault supposed to up Community More or less evenly but exactly couples have to negotiate tangibles such As corporate divestitures real estate and sports season tickets As Well As intangibles such As the value to place on the loss of celebrity status Lor the soon to be exol a major Star who suddenly ids he or she can 1, get a great table at a trendy Date y anymore a e h Jyman Lor one. Maintains she tried Noto i assets with acrimony when her 20 year marriage to Fred Hayman ended in 1983 still it degenerated into a Sege that did t end until 1987 when Avon products inc paid $185 million to buy the Beverly Hills company Giorgio inc. Inch they ran jointly even alter their was final gals has her can cosmetics company and Fred has h 5 f Rod Hayman store on Rodeo drive Avon Iho name and perfume but gone 10 the Boverly Hills us vie Giorgio o casually of Iho be War of the sexes views of the Battlefield sed on a new study of close to 600 men and women my areas of conflict for couples Are Iho same for both xes. But Here Are the main areas where men and women 8rge sharply Over How upsetting certain Behaviours Are hat bothers a woman about a Man Iqual demands making her feel sexually used trying Loce sex or demanding it. 5ndescension ignoring her opinions because she is a Marv. Treating her As inferior or stupid making her Teel error. Emotional constriction and excess hiding his lotions to act Lough drinking or smoking too much. 1glect unreliability not spending enough Lime with her or Illing when promised ignoring her feelings or falling to say Hes her. Tough Tessness being unman Nerly belching for i Tance. Or leaving tie toilet seat up. Not helping Dean up the me teasing her about How Long it takes to get dressed. Hat bothers a Man about a woman dual rejection refusing to have sex being i responsive to sexual advances being a sexual lease. Moodiness acting Bitchy or otherwise being out of sorts. Of absorption fussing Over her appearance worrying but her lace and hair spending too much on clothes Madonna and Sean Penn also called it quits last year. Anatomy of a marital fight helpful and destructive arguments differ in each of their three major phases. Here Are some of the typical differences _ first phase picking the tight and stating in Agenda. Helpful even As the couple Are beginning to disagree one partner at least partly acknowledges the other s Point of View even by such Subtle cues As carefully listening to a charge and nodding to show it might have some Validity. Destructive every complaint by one partner is matched by a counter charge by the other neither gives the least indication that there May be some Validity to the other s views. Second phase the argument at to Mot heated. Helpful even during the Sto Miest time one partner accurately mind reads saying How the other is feeling about the Issue. Destruct Jve one partner mind reads inaccurately making claims about what the other thinks or feels and then attacks those fictitious thoughts or feelings. Third phase negotiation or wind Down. Helpful the partners agree to a Compromise of modify their views. Dutruc Tiv every proposed Compromise is met by a counterproposal with no accommodation on either Side. Souter John gof nun amt nit i How not january. 1990 stars and stripes Page 15
