European Stars and Stripes (Newspaper) - January 31, 1990, Darmstadt, Hesse                                The stars and stripes Page 11 Arm Landers letters dear Ann Landers my husband and i Are concerned i about my grandmother who is 84. She lives in a dilapidated House Jam packed with Ink old clothes spoiled food and 20-year-old news papers. She never throws anything out because you never know when you might need it there has t been any hot water Tor years be cause she won t let anyone in to fix the water healer. Grandma s daughter lives with her. Aunt Bessie is in her 50s and mentally ill. She has not been to a doctor or dentist in 20 years because she feels  the woman has t left the House in 15 years and is very thin and undernourished. Please Don t suggest that my parents talk to grandma because their House is starting to look a lot like hers. My father can t throw anything out either. Mother tries but she gets yelled at and has Given up. What do you suggest trouble in California heart what you describe an classic symptoms of mental ill Ness. It h unlikely that you on reason with your grand Mother your anal or your father. Cau he health inspector and the fire department and let them do what needs to be done. Then Contact the National Alliance for the mentally Iii . Box Nami a Arlington a 22216. This is a splendid organization that will Send literature no charge and suggest ways in which Yoe might help. The Alliance has thrown Many sinking Soal Amelim when All else has tailed. Dear Ann Landers recently while 1 was driving along an interstate High Way in Ohio a truck passed me with a message hand printed in the dirt on the Back door. It said of la Dies. Make my Day i had no idea what it meant. A few Days later at a different location 1 saw another message on the Back of an 18-Wheeler. It read show legs. Please an Arrow pointed toward the truck s passing Side. I began to catch on. Yesterday on 1-65 in Louisville i passed a truck with a permanent message painted at the rear left Corner leg Check 50 it raise skirt please i May be hopelessly naive Ann but Are there women who do such things dim bulb in Kentucky dear dim search me. You la have to ask the track Drivers. How about it dear Ann Landers i belong to a Myca in new Jersey that allows fathers to bring daughters under 7 into the men s locker  is open including the urinals and stalls. There Are no curtains. The Little girls after changing int bathing suits with the men Are exposed to All this on their Way to the Pool. I approve heartily of fathers sharing in child care but i cannot understand How a father can bring his Young daughter into the men s locker room. I complained to the director of they and was told that this is their policy. Period. I then called the state attorney s office of new Jersey and was told that unless there was child abuse they could not intervene. How do you feel about it Ann stymied in . Dear n a i believe that no child 3 years of age or older should be Bright into a locker room for members of the opposite sex. T Hope this a will consider changing its policy. C los Angeles times Syndicate and creators Syndicate procedures in starting allotment discussed i thought we just went through an Era of trying to reduce paperwork and complications but upon at tempting to Start an allotment to a financial institution Back in the states i find i almost have to make the trip there and Back again. If that last paragraph does not exactly make an sense neither does the procedure for starting a new allotment. After filling out a simple form you must Send it to the financial institution you wish to Start an Al tarment with so that institution can certify that you do in fact have an account with them. Now this must be done even if you have a card from that financial institution stating you have an account and what that account number is. Now i can t complain about military finances serv ices. The individual who assisted me filled out the form and even suggested that i mail the form certified registered mail so it would t get lost. I was also told to enclose a note with the form asking my financial institution to mail it directly to me rather than finance that Way there would t be any confusion. I wonder if my financial institution will mail it Back to me certified registered mail come on Are we that childish that we need a note from our Bank to Deposit Money surely this is a step backward for the direct Deposit program. If an individual can show he she has an account with a financial institution via Deposit receipt Bank Book or monthly statements then this letter transmit Tal across the Atlantic Ocean and Back to Europe could be  St. Richard e. Everett Rhein Maln a wot Gera Naty editor s note col. Charles w. Manh no Tor accounting and finance Deputy chief of staff comptroller he Safe replies certification of acco Oats by the financial inst Mim is not req Vuyrl for overseas members establishing a comls oot sme Ike local area of their permanent or , this is Only for checking or savings account designated for direct Deport of my pay. Allotments however demand a different  experience has shown that even the beat a amazed members Are often not aware of All the Correct information required to initiate allotments. Although they May have a valid account lumber they May knew so thing abort the Correct routing indicator or Correct adot ment category. These Are a Coati that Only the financial organization can provide. If an allotment is rejected it often lakes Iwa to three weeks to track Down and re credit the allotment to the member s pay account and even More time i resolve the Correct data elements with the member and financial inst Itotia. In the meantime the member s payments May be missed and credit ratings threatened. The proce dures of having the financial institution certify the account status have proved effective in avoiding this Radoe hardship. No More excuses free pamphlet tells All from time to time i read letters to the editor that bewail and bemoan the inability of the author to do anything about whatever it is that is troubling him or her. Ordinarily the futility is ascribed to the fact that the source of the problem is someone in the govern ment or a roving gang of men in suits called  sometimes it s just Laid at the feet of  the really miserable thing about a democracy such As ours is that As Long As Vou have the Power to address your concerns to your elected representatives and fail to do so your complaints and opinions amount to Little More than whining. Whining at this distance from Washington is Likely to go unnoticed in View of the fact that the stars and stripes is not widely circulated inside the Beltway. For those who would rather write than Gripe Button t know How to go about it i have some Good news. As a result of a private Public sector initiative undertaken by the Federal voting assistance program the office of the Secretary of defense and at to there is now a Handy Little pamphlet that lists All of pen pals i am 22 Yeara a and my hobbles ire read tag. End Travrig. I cum by to hive pen pits from caned. America and England. I Peeler to have female pen Patt. Andrea Campbell Unstead p 0 is Catherine. Jamaica t am 22 years old and my hobbies Are swimming travelling and writing tetters i would like to have pen Pel irom new York. Doreen Wiliams vanity fair Lens Lead p 0 St. Catherine. Jamaica i am e 30-year-old born again Christian and would like pen pals. 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